We finally met in real life..Now I'm heartbroken

[Engel]

He should have told you how he was feeling. And besides that, he said he wasn't enjoying the sex that much but a deep connection takes time. Almost always the first time you have sex with someone is not awesome, you need to get to know the other person and let them know you.

I agree with you, I said something similar on my HUUGE reply, lol, but only now am I reading the comments, and you put it in better words than I did, so here is just me quoting it after giving you a reputation point for the reply! <3

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I'm so sorry. *hugs*

[heylittlekrissy]

I am really sorry to hear this *hugs*
It's not at all right what he did, and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'll be happy to give him an ass whooping for ya, because I don't agree with how he treated you. If he "loves" you like he told you he did, he should have talked to you about it, instead of treating you like he did. You didn't deserve that.
I would give yourself some time away from him and sit down to collect your thoughts on the situation, and talk to him more about it when you're comfortable doing so. As for what to tell others: you only have to tell them what you're comfortable with. It could be as simple as, like others have said, "We just didn't have that connection in person"

[Moon]

I was just about to write similarly to Engel, and agree 100%

I'm so sorry, sweetie! This is one of the challenges of getting into an LDR with someone you haven't met, there really might not be that connection or spark for one, or both, of you when you finally meet. It's no one's fault, it's just biochemistry and life unfortunately, granted this guy was a complete jerk about it, but in real life he's not into you, and that's not something changeable. As much as it hurts, you have to cut him off, he's only going to prolong the pain and ignore you if you don't, why put yourself through that? As for telling your family, I'd give minimal details and say it just wasn't the same in person.

Be proud of yourself for taking a chance and understand that it doesn't mean risking yourself is bad, even if it doesn't always turn out the way we hoped it would. At least this douche showed his true colors quickly, and not a couple of years down the road. It'll make getting over him (and you will get over him!) easier on you. If you chose to enter into an LDR again, make meeting as soon as possible a priority, so you don't get so emotionally involved before chemistry is established. To me, that's the most important thing in an LDR, because online and in person are VERY different things. Good luck.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

You've done nothing wrong. *HUG!!!!* You followed your heart, and that's a tough and risky thing to do, even at the best of times. I'm so sorry that this guy has turned out to be such a dick. He should have said something, when you were there, before anything happened between you two. I agree with what everyone else is saying. Cutting off contact with him is probably the most loving thing you can do for yourself.
I can't believe he would do that!!!!
(Sorry, I'm just incredibly outraged on your behalf! What a selfish, selfish, horrible, awful, selfish man!)
There's not much else I can say that other people haven't already said, but I'm sending my love and thinking about you.

[xAngelx]

Im sorry this happen to you :/ *hugs*

[LuvSsw]

I'll be happy to give him an ass whooping for ya, because I don't agree with how he treated you. If he "loves" you like he told you he did, he should have talked to you about it, instead of treating you like he did. You didn't deserve that.

OMG I feel like I have my own little army...and I even was able to produce a chuckle at the 'ass whooping' remark (and that's sayin sumthin) along with the tears and tissues. Thank you heylittlekrissy

[LuvSsw]

Biddly biddlybombop....just your name makes me smile You all are helping me to see my worth..for I had been beating myself up quite a bit over this. I won't say I'm 100% confident..but I'm working on getting there. Thank you for the love....I'm sending it right back

[Lissy]

I'm just so sorry to hear this! You deserve someone who can appreciate you, and he is obviously not good enough for you. I hope you're feeling better! *hug*

[heylittlekrissy]

OMG I feel like I have my own little army...and I even was able to produce a chuckle at the 'ass whooping' remark (and that's sayin sumthin) along with the tears and tissues. Thank you heylittlekrissy

You're welcome
And haha, I'm glad I could help make you smile! And the "ass whooping" remark, guess that's the southern charm coming out

[LuvSsw]

I feel all of your Hugs guys....Thank you so much~

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

Biddly biddlybombop....just your name makes me smile

Hahaha. Thanks. it's kinda stupid but it's me.

You all are helping me to see my worth..for I had been beating myself up quite a bit over this.)

His actions are a reflection on him and his immaturity, not you. You don't have any reason to beat yourself up! *hug*

[rhomy]

rhomy i LOVE you for saying this. omg...I have been feeling so embarrassed since he said that . I mean this would be only the second person I've done this with and I felt like I was like..idk..substandard or something. I felt like I should have been this awesome Goddess and i just didn't deliver. It's been quite a blow to my self-esteem..but your comment is helping me see it a different way. Thank you.

Even if it was your fault, he is a jerk for saying it. A man wouldn't say that to his girl.
Obviously it wasn't your fault though, because as I said, it takes time to get to know the other person right but besides that, sex is made by 2 ppl. So he could have said or done something, don't you think?

[Kerry]

I want to knee him in the n*** too! he was sooo wrong for how he treated you. you deserve so much better than this douche bag. definitely don't contact him for a while and think about what you want in life. it doesn't sound this piece of sh*t is it. sorry for my language!

[savoie-truffle]

This breaks my heart, no one should ever make you feel this sad.
He really is being a jerk so I really think it is smarter to get rid of him now. At this point its probably really hard for you to even think about that but what happens if he comes back and you forgive him? then youll just be setting yourself up again for this potential pain and really you can do so much better.
I wish I could say more but Im pretty speechless I just know that if it happened to me as much as I wouldnt want to hear it or believe it advice like he's not worth your time would be the things i needed to hear.
Just remember that you are amazing and there really is a true love for everyone so dont give up on you or love okay?! because You are so much better than this guy who is just being a big jerk