I need to know if I am being unfair in this situation…
To give you a bit of background knowledge, I met online, and subsequently fell in love with a Spanish girl. I live in England.
She is very intelligent, caring and mind-blowingly beautiful. To put it bluntly, she’s perfect. I’m sure you all share that feeling about your partners; I guess you wouldn’t be here otherwise.
The problem is that she has been learning English from an early age, and I do not know any Spanish. She has been offered a scholarship, which she can choose to come to study in England for a year. She ensures me it doesn’t matter to her, but she’d be leaving her family and her friends behind. She loves her family a lot, and I have been speaking to her best friend, and they are very close. Alongside the fact that I will have to force her to speak English so I can understand her, she will also be the one leaving her family and friends.
This next part may be a little forward but I would still like to discuss it. I am already qualified in my job to British Regulations. I’m sure this would mean that if I moved to Spain I wouldn’t be able to get a job which I am trained in to do. Not only that, but I would have to learn Spanish. I hate the feeling of being English and expecting everyone to speak my language. Out of respect, I would want to speak theirs.
The other option is she lives here. Yet again, I force her to move away from family and friends, and she has to speak English. This makes me feel terrible.
At this moment she is deciding whether to take the scholarship, or go to university in Spain. She has told me she has two to three weeks to make her decision. This decision is life changing.
I’d like to know if any LFAD veterans amongst yourselves have experienced anything similar to this, and what the conclusion was. Any advice, even if it is frank, would be appreciated.
To give you a bit of background knowledge, I met online, and subsequently fell in love with a Spanish girl. I live in England.
She is very intelligent, caring and mind-blowingly beautiful. To put it bluntly, she’s perfect. I’m sure you all share that feeling about your partners; I guess you wouldn’t be here otherwise.
The problem is that she has been learning English from an early age, and I do not know any Spanish. She has been offered a scholarship, which she can choose to come to study in England for a year. She ensures me it doesn’t matter to her, but she’d be leaving her family and her friends behind. She loves her family a lot, and I have been speaking to her best friend, and they are very close. Alongside the fact that I will have to force her to speak English so I can understand her, she will also be the one leaving her family and friends.
This next part may be a little forward but I would still like to discuss it. I am already qualified in my job to British Regulations. I’m sure this would mean that if I moved to Spain I wouldn’t be able to get a job which I am trained in to do. Not only that, but I would have to learn Spanish. I hate the feeling of being English and expecting everyone to speak my language. Out of respect, I would want to speak theirs.
The other option is she lives here. Yet again, I force her to move away from family and friends, and she has to speak English. This makes me feel terrible.
At this moment she is deciding whether to take the scholarship, or go to university in Spain. She has told me she has two to three weeks to make her decision. This decision is life changing.
I’d like to know if any LFAD veterans amongst yourselves have experienced anything similar to this, and what the conclusion was. Any advice, even if it is frank, would be appreciated.
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