How can I tell my parents that I want to move to the other side of the world?
Hello everyone!
I’d like to move to Australia where my SO live.
Starting by saying that my parents don’t know about him. They’ve met him as a friend of mine, and although they could imagine that there’s something between us, they don’t know that he is now living in Australia.
I really don’t know how to tell them. I can’t stop imaging my mother’s face…that face that everyone make hearing someone going nuts…
I’ve always loved travelling and they know it. Last time I talked to my mother about my dream of going to work abroad(it was not the first time) was last November. She wasn’t the happiest person in the world. That time I may have putted the situation in the wrong way because I was kind of generally speaking.
I was like I floored her and she had a lot of doubts and questions. Mostly she was concerned about the fact that I would move to another country on my own, with no job and none to count on. (my bad
) I didn’t want to tell her about my SO and we didn’t mentioned Australia but Europe, Canada and then I don’t remember because we where generally speaking.
The good thing is that I've been working on my parents for years, slowly breaking down their fears…but now it’s like I don’t have more time to do that.
I'm of the opinion that if I listen to my parents I will regret it for the rest of my life.
With the skills I will acquire, I should have plenty of opportunity. I'll have a world of experiences to look back on, a better understanding of the life and myself, and even more importantly, a great sense of accomplishment in the fact that I've lived my life exactly how I wanted to.
My parents are a little old fashioned and I think that, beyond the fact that I want to move, the other “problem” is that I'm a girl. But I’m 26, not 16!
I understand my mother's fears and that it's very difficult being a parent when your children move out, especially far away, but children grow up and choose their own lives. It is painful but inevitable.
It’s like this is making me feel guilty because I dare to move miles far from her. I know that I’m making a huge decision that will affect the rest of my life, and my family knows that I will be seeing very little of them if move so far away, but it's also very important to create a life on my own. I want to live my life.
There are many ways to stay in touch with family. Skype is amazing (we know it too well
)
Plenty of people emigrate every year and they make their familial relationships work.
Families who tend to stay all grouped together aren't necessarily happier than families whose sons and daughters emigrated. I would rather have a child a thousand miles away who’s happy than one around the corner who’s depressed.
I may make a mistake, and it will cost me financially, but it will also teach me stuff and take me to the next stage of my life…And if it doesn't work out I could come always back.
I’d like to explain to them that given the way of the world at the moment, if someone see that they could make a better future overseas, then they should go for it.
So, I want to talk to them and this time I want to be prepared.
It sounds like it could be difficult if not impossible to get them to understand why I want to travel, so maybe I can focus on what they do understand.
Trying to find ways of making the travels sound like a good idea even to them.
I’ve found a web site where you can look for internship and jobs all over the world, so maybe I can show it to them. I can show them that it won't be a complete "waste of time"…
What would you say?
The thing I fear the most is the matter of the about 10000 miles…what can I say about it? Do I have to tell them about my SO?(I know I should)
I can also mention some acquaintances that have moved down under but that don’t live where my SO does.
Any advice?
Sorry… I feet a bit claustrophobic about this situation!
I’d like to move to Australia where my SO live.
Starting by saying that my parents don’t know about him. They’ve met him as a friend of mine, and although they could imagine that there’s something between us, they don’t know that he is now living in Australia.
I really don’t know how to tell them. I can’t stop imaging my mother’s face…that face that everyone make hearing someone going nuts…
I’ve always loved travelling and they know it. Last time I talked to my mother about my dream of going to work abroad(it was not the first time) was last November. She wasn’t the happiest person in the world. That time I may have putted the situation in the wrong way because I was kind of generally speaking.
I was like I floored her and she had a lot of doubts and questions. Mostly she was concerned about the fact that I would move to another country on my own, with no job and none to count on. (my bad
) I didn’t want to tell her about my SO and we didn’t mentioned Australia but Europe, Canada and then I don’t remember because we where generally speaking. The good thing is that I've been working on my parents for years, slowly breaking down their fears…but now it’s like I don’t have more time to do that.
I'm of the opinion that if I listen to my parents I will regret it for the rest of my life.
With the skills I will acquire, I should have plenty of opportunity. I'll have a world of experiences to look back on, a better understanding of the life and myself, and even more importantly, a great sense of accomplishment in the fact that I've lived my life exactly how I wanted to.
My parents are a little old fashioned and I think that, beyond the fact that I want to move, the other “problem” is that I'm a girl. But I’m 26, not 16!
I understand my mother's fears and that it's very difficult being a parent when your children move out, especially far away, but children grow up and choose their own lives. It is painful but inevitable.
It’s like this is making me feel guilty because I dare to move miles far from her. I know that I’m making a huge decision that will affect the rest of my life, and my family knows that I will be seeing very little of them if move so far away, but it's also very important to create a life on my own. I want to live my life.
There are many ways to stay in touch with family. Skype is amazing (we know it too well
) Plenty of people emigrate every year and they make their familial relationships work.
Families who tend to stay all grouped together aren't necessarily happier than families whose sons and daughters emigrated. I would rather have a child a thousand miles away who’s happy than one around the corner who’s depressed.
I may make a mistake, and it will cost me financially, but it will also teach me stuff and take me to the next stage of my life…And if it doesn't work out I could come always back.
I’d like to explain to them that given the way of the world at the moment, if someone see that they could make a better future overseas, then they should go for it.
So, I want to talk to them and this time I want to be prepared.
It sounds like it could be difficult if not impossible to get them to understand why I want to travel, so maybe I can focus on what they do understand.
Trying to find ways of making the travels sound like a good idea even to them.
I’ve found a web site where you can look for internship and jobs all over the world, so maybe I can show it to them. I can show them that it won't be a complete "waste of time"…
What would you say?
The thing I fear the most is the matter of the about 10000 miles…what can I say about it? Do I have to tell them about my SO?(I know I should)
I can also mention some acquaintances that have moved down under but that don’t live where my SO does.
Any advice?
Sorry… I feet a bit claustrophobic about this situation!
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