LAT (Living Apart Together)

[differentcountries]

Children are expensive as it is so I really don't know how those couples afford it. I guess they must be pretty wealthy!

Well the way I have seen it done is that they rent a tiny flat where one of them live. And then that person comes to visit, or they change houses every now and then. I guess they prioritize it. Divorce is also expensive...

[Zephii]

I had a next door neighbor like that. They'd been married over 20 years but couldn't stand living together. She'd come over, do his laundry, they went on dates every other day but she had her own house a little out of town.

I don't find it practical. Who has that kind of money? But if it works for you, more power to you.

[melarie]

I wouldn't do it. I'd end up spending every night with him, and most of the day, and... basically I'd have an empty place that I still have to pay for. Maybe it could work for some people, but I'm really excited to live with him, and I wouldn't want to live totally alone.

[Yaaamiii]

A friend of my mom's is like that. She is in her 50s, still married to her husband, but they have separate apartments. They are both really independent people, creative types, and as far as I know it works really well for them.

I just don't think I could ever do this! If it works for some people, great for them I guess, but as for me...I would never want to live separately from my SO/future husband! Especially after so many years of LD...no...just no!

[ThePiedPiper]

My boss and her husband have separate houses and separate bedrooms, yet they seem relatively happy or at the very least content. That said, maybe it's because my SO has essentially moved into our house and we plan on moving out, it's not for me.

[Neia0202]

We're going to do this at least for a couple of years after closing the distance, since we're fairly young (I'm almost 18, he's 20) and the main reason I'm moving to his country is education, not him. I was always going to move back there (have already lived there for 10 years), even if I hadn't met him.

[differentcountries]

I am sort of considering this with my so. If he comes here to study at the end of the year he would probably not live with me and my husband (not right away anyway). He would have a small apartment close by and I would visit / live there too. I would say living together apart is a little more than just dating someone, it usually means you are there often or live there parttime.