How do you resist the urge to pack up and go?

[bribri2729]

I am in the same situation as you, I'm not working and I am in the process of going back to school. But I feel like I could pack up and go where my so is and start a new life.

[Pinklily87]

Every night that we stop skyping, i take inventory of what's keeping me here and right now, the only thing is work. I'm not super close with my family and wouldn't mind leaving them. If i was able to, i'd pack up and leave asap.

[Miasmata]

What's keeping me from doing it are several factors. I've had the urge to just hop on a plane and go there, and as a German I'd be allowed to stay for three months without additional visa, but there wouldn't be any point in even doing that. I'd get the companionship, something I crave more than anything, but I'd lose just about everything else. I start evening classes in August, my sole income is a half-orphan pension that I receive until I'm 26 or have a job, and while I'm getting better I still rely on professional psychological help - All of those things are good for me and help me truck along, and in the US I wouldn't have any of these things readily avaible. And as much as I'd like it, being with him doesn't solve everything.

Yesterday, when we were on Skype, he was noticably fed up with everything. He's really tired of being where he is, and he finally wants to fulfill his dream of moving to Europe. Seeing him so frustrated, I definitely got a nagging voice saying "Why don't you just tell him to come now, screw everything else", but listening to it didn't even cross my mind. He got a Master's degree to finish, and he won't be done until either Fall or next year's Spring, so leaving is not an option at all.

I'm an organizing, responsible type, sometimes to the point of being a buzzkill. I have no trouble putting reason first. But I have to admit, at the end of the day, when we turn off Skype and I lie down in my bed all alone, snuggling a bunch of plushies rather than him ... I feel lonely as hell.

[differentcountries]

I sometimes feel I DID pack up to leave, I never dreamed we would be sharing a flat together like we do, even if three weeks a month I am in my flat in Norway. I can see myself leaving more and more stuff with him, so that it will start to feel more and more as "home" to me, and we say it is "our" place.

[conejita_hada]

Money, careers, and laws. I wanted so badly to move there in January but the only job I could get wasn't enough to pay all the bills, education loans, and overall living expenses. Now I'm going off to grad school but I would love to take a trip before it starts. Money stands in the way again. Hopefully if I work enough hours over the next two months I'll have just made enough to get a trip before moving for school.
He on the other hand is ready to look at transferring to a university in my country but the language barrier presents a challenge and the laws prevent him from visiting without going through heavy visa processes first. I suppose I'm finally learning what patience is... :/

[ChibiFelicia]

I have nothing here thats tying me down. For the past year i've been saving up for the eventual move. My job is zero hours contract but im working more than full time hours. My job knew i was leaving so offered me this contract instead which is great because i can just up and leave rather than having to give them 3 months notice. Its the visa that we're waiting on at the moment. In hindsight i under estimated how long the visa would take but i guess more time to save up money.

Back before we started this visa, on one of my many trips to america we toyed with the idea of me just not getting on the plane, but he and i knew that i could never do that. I love my job as an RN and i will be one in the states too!

Right now i really want to just catch a flight to see him, i haven't seen him in 6 months (and i know some of us here wait longer periods of time between visits) and we normally see each other every 2-3 months. This wait has been a lot easier than before, probably because i know that next time i see him i'll never have to leave again. It just sucks that we've been married nearly 2 years and have only spent 6 months of that living together.

[TampaLove]

The only thing really keeping me here right now is a house and job transfer. I had wanted to move to his area for a year before I met him. I posted an ad online looking to meet friends before I moved, and that's how we "met". Because of him, my move has been accelerated, but is still with a TBD date. I'm currently getting my house ready to rent out, and I will be moving into a temporary apartment until I can get a job transfer, which could be as little as 6 months to who knows when.

I've started seriously thinking about looking for a new company as well, instead of just waiting for a transfer, but I'm still looking at 4 months minimum before I could even do that.

I'm visiting him for the first time in 6 weeks, and I can totally see myself making every possible reckless decision just to close the distance sooner.

[jess_mp]

I'm feeling the urge to pack and go...
I just wish we had the money to make faster the visa process, it's such a hassle to move to the Netherlands. In order to get the visa, you must pass a language and culture exam, submit papers, etc... I'm at the studying part, learning Dutch by myself to pass that damn exam. I wish I could take it tomorrow and pass it!! so we go to the next step, but it's not that easy... I still need to study some more, maybe 1 or 2 more months.
If things go well, and God permits, we'll be closing the distance at the end of this year YAY!

[debradoodlex]

Money. Money is the reason why I haven't packed up and left yet. As much as I want to do it, & i tell him this all the time, he is always the one telling me that i cant because of money.

[Mims27]

I'm not really sure right now. lol I'm trying to resist the urge to get in my car Friday after work and go visit her. I wish I could surprise her but it's nearly impossible to surprise her. She'd wonder where I was for 7 hours and probably worry! haha

[nottheprincesspeach]

I have to graduate. I'm only a summer and fall away, but I still resist the urge to pack up and go.

[aojeda50]

All-the-time.
I think about moving every single day.
My way of coping is researching on what I need to get done in order to move over there with him.
It makes it feel just a little more real.
It is really hard thinking about it all the time. But it helps

[merlinkitty]

What's keeping me from doing it are several factors. I've had the urge to just hop on a plane and go there, and as a German I'd be allowed to stay for three months without additional visa, but there wouldn't be any point in even doing that. I'd get the companionship, something I crave more than anything, but I'd lose just about everything else. I start evening classes in August...Seeing him so frustrated, I definitely got a nagging voice saying "Why don't you just tell him to come now, screw everything else", but listening to it didn't even cross my mind. He got a Master's degree to finish, and he won't be done until either Fall or next year's Spring, so leaving is not an option at all.

I'm an organizing, responsible type, sometimes to the point of being a buzzkill. I have no trouble putting reason first. But I have to admit, at the end of the day, when we turn off Skype and I lie down in my bed all alone, snuggling a bunch of plushies rather than him ... I feel lonely as hell.

I love this I know you must be frustrated like crazy, but for me this drives home the point of making sure you take care of you so when the time is right, it'll just be right I just keep this in mind too. This international stuff is especially hard because you can't just decide one day to pick up and move. There has to be a lot of planning ahead, so much so that it really seems almost impossible at times. The problems seem overwhelming and like they're taking too long to complete. But I hang on to the idea that if we take care of our business, that one day we'll see the light at the end of the tunnel, and the person we've been wanting so much standing at the end of it all. It'll make the sacrifice and time worth it

[merlinkitty]

but it's nearly impossible to surprise her. She'd wonder where I was for 7 hours and probably worry! haha

Lol! That's really cute

[Phantomrose]

The thought has been tempting, but the only thing that is keeping me from packing up and going to live with him is the legality issues. I know I cannot simply just pack my things and go to the UK to live with my husband. I know that we would have to apply for a visa. Also, money is another factor. He is currently unemployed, and having trouble finding work. He's on Job Seeker's allowance. We currently cannot apply for the visa, because of the financial requirement that is holding as back. We are good for everything else, but the financial requirement.