B and I have had several discussions on how things will be when we close the distance/marry in April. We are really compatible in so many ways and see no problems -- except one.
When I was working I was surrounded by 100 people each day -- always talking, always moving about the place, always ON with a smile pasted on my face no matter what. When I got home at night, I would go to bed and read/have a couple nightcaps/smoke cigarettes and wind down, relax for about 1 1/2 hours.
Even after retiring, 5 years ago, I continued with the same habit and I still look forward to my quiet time -- time just for me.
Here's the problem:
B goes to bed at the same time I do but the bedside lamp will bother him so I couldn't read. I also can't smoke in his bedroom (he's a smoker, too) as his bedding is all eiderdown and very flammable.
So I've suggested that, when he goes downstairs to bed, I would stay upstairs on the daybed/sofa and read for an hour or so then come down to sleep.
He wants me to go to bed when he does! *SIGH* I'm trying to think of a compromise that will satisfy both of us but I'm not having much luck.
I know all of this sounds petty in the face of other changes couples must go through but it's important to me. I've followed my bedtime routine for 20 years!
Any feedback will be greatly appreciated. Feel free to blast me if you think I'm being silly.
When I was working I was surrounded by 100 people each day -- always talking, always moving about the place, always ON with a smile pasted on my face no matter what. When I got home at night, I would go to bed and read/have a couple nightcaps/smoke cigarettes and wind down, relax for about 1 1/2 hours.
Even after retiring, 5 years ago, I continued with the same habit and I still look forward to my quiet time -- time just for me.
Here's the problem:
B goes to bed at the same time I do but the bedside lamp will bother him so I couldn't read. I also can't smoke in his bedroom (he's a smoker, too) as his bedding is all eiderdown and very flammable.
So I've suggested that, when he goes downstairs to bed, I would stay upstairs on the daybed/sofa and read for an hour or so then come down to sleep.
He wants me to go to bed when he does! *SIGH* I'm trying to think of a compromise that will satisfy both of us but I'm not having much luck.
I know all of this sounds petty in the face of other changes couples must go through but it's important to me. I've followed my bedtime routine for 20 years!
Any feedback will be greatly appreciated. Feel free to blast me if you think I'm being silly.
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