I just have a bad feeling about the whole situation - as in, this isn't a real situation. If any of you do a little bit of digging....you'll figure out what I mean.
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To those who dream, nothing is ever far away.
Distance is to love as wind is to fire. It blows out the little ones and fans the big ones.
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Edit: Doesn't apply anymore.Last edited by conejita_hada; January 31, 2015, 02:03 PM.When two hearts are meant for each other, no distance is too far,
no time is too long, and no other love can break them apart.
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I think I should have been more clear in my post. The OP is not giving us a real situation........Originally posted by R&R View PostTo those who dream, nothing is ever far away.
Distance is to love as wind is to fire. It blows out the little ones and fans the big ones.
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Apparently you are right...because apparently the SO is a member on LFAD and has documents because she has visited her before. That's nice...can't have a passport without an SSN or birth certificate.Originally posted by R&R View PostWhen two hearts are meant for each other, no distance is too far,
no time is too long, and no other love can break them apart.
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Yup, plus it's mentioned on profile that if she had citizenship it would be easier to get a job...meh...what's the point of creating this thread?Originally posted by conejita_hada View PostMet Online : July 2013
Met in person : April - May 2014 (3 wks)
2nd visit : June - August 2014 (2 months)
3rd visit : December - Jan (2wks)
Proposal : December 2014
Closed distance : February 2015
Married : April 5, 2015
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Yeah, I want to know what Dwessie thinks of this whole thing?So, here you are
too foreign for home
too foreign for here.
Never enough for both.
Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Diaspora BluesComment
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I sure do love a community in which I'm met with the maximum level of cynicism possible. I have visited Dwessie. She has not visited me. She can not visit me because of the situation. I can't force her to do things if she doesn't want to. Nonetheless we are still at a stalemate because she has been to the offices there and has been turned down on literally all accounts. But either way.Comment
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So what's the deal with her comment that she would find a job easily if she had citizenship? It's on her profile...is she a US citizen or not?Met Online : July 2013
Met in person : April - May 2014 (3 wks)
2nd visit : June - August 2014 (2 months)
3rd visit : December - Jan (2wks)
Proposal : December 2014
Closed distance : February 2015
Married : April 5, 2015
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if I get citizenship up there I bet it'd be EASIER...
This is referring to getting Canadian citizenship.Comment
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We just think it is weird she has been turned down for trying to get her id in order. If that's actually true, there is something strange going on. Maybe she misunderstood some of the rules.Last edited by differentcountries; January 31, 2015, 06:21 PM.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
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No, her and her sister are both in the same situation. There's no explanation for why they aren't letting them use alternate methods, the system is literally preventing them from fixing it.Comment
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Has she been to DMV? Has she been to SS office? Does she have school ID? Do her parents have copy of tax returns or her? It's the law in USA, if you lose them ,IRS has a copy. She needs to do this stuff herself."Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. "
Benjamin Franklin
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As for the first three; yes, yes, no.
As for the tax returns, that's definitely something I can tell them to look into.
I'm aware of that, but nobody's been doing anything, so I've basically taking on the obligation because I can't deal with waiting.Comment
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You will have to wait till it is sorted. She can't vote or go into a 18 and over club without an ID. She needs to put some serious legwork in and take care of this or she is going nowhere. Adults should have a handle on this and she should have her own docs, not mom and dad. She should also have a school or work ID, or does she just live with parents doing nothing? I had about 10 IDs in USA by 18. Does she not drive? We are land of ID,so if legal in USA she should have a few, if not, she is stuck.Originally posted by Tamrezi View Post
Closing distance is huge, sounds like some time is not a bad idea at this point.Last edited by Hollandia; January 31, 2015, 07:03 PM."Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. "
Benjamin Franklin
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Sometimes there are bugs in the system, and then you have to stand your case and investigate more. If there is something special about her id case and the case of her sister, at some point someone knows something about what can be done. I have dealt with lots of byrocracy in my life so I know you have to be patient, clever and not give up. I for instance spent a whole lot of time just trying to find out what happens to my marriage certificate after my husband changed name AND personal identification number, I was supersad because I know our marriage certificate as written is worthless. I had to talk to a lot of people in a lot of offices before some lady in the capital sent me a transtript of the computer record of our marriage (since they are not allowed to give out a new marriage ceritificate), where all the correct info was. You can't do anything for her at this point, other than to encourage her to keep trying to figure out more stuff. That might be extra hard for the both of you since you have a "mutual distaste for other people", and byrocracy people are not always that charming in the eyes of people who do like people, but such is adult life and you might just roll up your sleeves and start now.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
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