Who would move?

[Insanity]

In your relationship, who would be the one to move? Why?
We're not sure, I always felt like I would have to move but I know he really wants to move here. I think I would prefer the latter but if I had to move to England to be with him I would.

Do you feel there is an expectation or pressure for one of you to move over the other?
I definitely feel extremely torn. My guy has a young son and would love him to have a relationship with his mother (understandable) but at the same time she's not a very good mother and just lets him down all the time. My guy has said he'd like to move and loves how close my family is. He knows his son would be spoilt as ever with my family. It also seems it would be easier for him to move here.
It's one of those things we'll figure out in time.

[prinzeza87]

in my case its me the one moving, actually we both will do, since he will be re-stationed somewhere in USA so ill go wherever he goes after he finish his time in Japan...

[AllieBaba]

We still don't know. After we graduate we'll look at all the options and see what's best for both of us... Since the first time I went to visit him I told him I wanted to move there. I live in Montreal (big city) and he lives in the country (Michigan) it's so beautiful out there and I just love it. Now, I started to think about having to leave my family, friends and pretty much everything I have here so I don't know anymore. It would definitely be hard, but if I see that's the best for us, then I'll do it.

[nic&matt]

We are both going to move together out of the states we live in. My job will be the deciding factor because of the line of work I want to go into. He just wants to teach and that's very flexible!

[PucasKitten]

We are unsure but I really want to move to him <3 Especially if I can get into one of the colleges over there

[Xanahtas]

My SO will be the one moving from Canada to the UK - Mainly becuase he is older than me and i am still in education, where as he finishes college next year >.< We spoke about it and decided we'd have more support in the UK as my parents would let us live with them as there is more than enough room in my house.
The one thing im worried about tho is job situations atm... But this was a joint descision and both agree its for the best. We might even decide to move to Canada some day

[books]

The plan is for me to move from the US to his country, Nicaragua. He's still studying in university meanwhile I already finished my master's and am well into my career. He also speaks no English and I already know Spanish. Also, his family owns property there and we would be able to build a house, just footing the material and construction costs (around $8,000). Pretty sweet.

I really don't feel too bad about leaving the US. My field is international development so I'm hoping I will be able to land a job with an international org. working there. I have my family here, but I'm not really that attached to them. My mom is totally against my LDR and says I'll be the one giving up everything and he'll be giving up nothing. I don't really see why I should have to make him give up anything. We talked about it and I said I would absolutely give living there a shot.

[London-FortCollins]

Originally we planned for me to move here as we thought he wouldn't be able to leave the country for a number of years. But now we've found out that's not necessarily going to be the case, he'll be moving to the UK. I have a career, credit snd savings there that willhelp us immensely.

However we decided early on that whoever moved would be giving up a lot so it would be fair if we relocate once were in the same country. For example I currently live in london but will ideally be moving to Scotland.

[sheraccoon]

Right now I'm studying in the USA and my SO's in the USA so I guess I've moved (for now)? But I'll have to leave the country once my education finishes (visa expires), and we really have no idea who'll move where, but both of us have no qualms about moving. I suspect my parents will throw a fit if I move to the USA though. Hehe. But hey, if I get a job there, sure why not? If he gets a job in my country I'm sure he'll move too. Plus he's a bigger expert on my country than I am! /fail Singaporean. But for the next 2 years, it'll be me in the USA near him. <3

[LeilaniJoi]

In our relationship I would move. We are both in the US but about 800 miles apart. It wasn't even a question in my mind and I welcome the change of scenery. I will still have land and a house here, but with family watching it. I'm a little more established in a career field and able to move easier so I'm so much looking forward to getting to know his part of the country and making a life there.

[LotusWing]

In your relationship, who would be the one to move?
I'll be moving to my SO

Why?
Cause we both like America more than Denmark.
I do feel comfy when I'm in America because there are so many Asians, things are much cheaper and the weather is not as cold or boring like Denmark.

Do you feel there is an expectation or pressure for one of you to move over the other?
Not really. When I had a steady job, I felt a little pressure but then I quit my job and told myself "I've decided. I'll move to my Eric".

[WakeUpSusie]

Once the distance is closed (we're both seniors at different universities but went to high school together), we don't have any plans for moving far away until we're done with graduate school. After that (approximately 5-6 years from now), we're moving permanently to Europe. Sounds ludacris, but we'll make it happen It's something that both of us have wanted for a very long time, so we'll figure it out.

[erinewelsh]

I live in Maine and my boyfriend lives in Indiana. I will be moving to Indiana to be with him for a few reasons. First and foremost, he has two sons with his soon-to-be-ex wife, and I would never ask him to move away from them. Also, I will be looking to go to med school in the fall, and he lives within minutes of the University of Notre Dame, which has a great split med program with the University of Indiana. I am also only in Maine for school, and have no real attachment to the state, so it doesn't break my heart to move away haha. We got lucky in that it makes sense and is convenient for me to move there.

[patty]

question for you guys: how far into your relationship did you discuss closing the gap and actually being with each other? i've been in a LDR for about 6 months. i have the better job, i'm settled with my own place. my SO lives in a town with no real opportunities, so i'm pretty sure he has an idea that he'd be the one moving. we haven't discussed it yet, i feel it's too soon. as i said, we've been a couple for 6 months, and only 2 visits in that time (due to reasons we couldn't control, thank you snowstorms!)

[weetzie]

He's moving to me in like 6 months, and we will live in my state for a year or so. But he is a film maker and wants eventually to move somewhere good for that profession. So after saving up money in Delaware for a while, we plan on moving together to New York, or Oregon. <3