Who would move?

[squiddie]

Fortunately there's no woman in our relationship ;D. Too bad this man can still get pregnant because removal of the uterus is still freaking expensive! D:< Damn you no health insurance ;_;! By the way, it's easier for me to get health insurance there than it is for me here xD.

I snorted my orange juice reading that. Nice one.

I was reading your other post, about the economy, hopefully you can get better education opportunities as well in LA.

[Casey]

I will definitely be the one to move.
He was the one that moved away for work and I stayed to finish uni.
I'll be finished at the end of the year and I just need to find a job! WOO HOO!

[milaya]

Well for us that whole question was answered before we even met.
In the past years I've always wanted to live in Japan - at least for a few years. That has been my goal, which is why I wanted to study "Japan studies" at university and such.
I also told him this before we started dating, so guess that's why that has been pretty clear later on. There's of course also other reasons. Since immigration rules in Denmark are a pain and he doesn't know Danish or English for that matter. I on the other hand, speak Japanese, understand much of the Japanese culture (and what I don't know, yet, I have an interest in learning), it's a lot easier for me to get a spouse visa for Japan and I don't really have a big family here in Denmark, that I'm close to.

So yeah, we're more discussing where in Japan we'll live and what kind of job I should get when that time comes. (4 years from now)

[Belli]

I will be the one to move! I already know the language and lived in Portland for a year. I just found out I would also have a Job there starting next September, I'm excited So that's just much easier than having him learn German (I make him learn a little bit anyway, but it won't be enough for living here or even working :P ) and find a new Job over here.

[Élan]

^ Congrats on the job! That's a big step in this economy here.


For us, I will be moving there temporarily in December or early January. We have started the K1 process, though, so ultimately he plans to move here. But I miss him like crazy, so I feel I'll be happier living in Malaysia while we wait for the K1 process to finish.

[BlackCherryJam]

Luckily it seems that Sam could well be living over there with Elina in a city only half an hour or so away from where Tanja lives and it turns out that Sam and I were separated at birth so that's all good

Tanja and Elina are lucky! In our relationship I'll be the one moving from Finland to England... I love living here and I love my family and friends, besides England is soooo crowded! I know there are lots of good things about living in England but I would like to stay here

Unfortunately my BF has got a good job there and he doesn't speak Finnish, whereas I'm a student and I can speak (some) English... Oh well, as long as we can be together I'm happy

[Andy]

Hmmmm that makes me think... hey Sam? We need to get our act together and make those girls move over here

[BlackCherryJam]

Hmmmm that makes me think... hey Sam? We need to get our act together and make those girls move over here

Oh, come on! Finland is such a nice place to live, you should be happy :P Just kidding... I know it's difficult to move to another country, it's hard for both in the relationship because the other one has to help the other to cope in their country.

[sam]

Oh, come on! Finland is such a nice place to live, you should be happy :P Just kidding... I know it's difficult to move to another country, it's hard for both in the relationship because the other one has to help the other to cope in their country.

Even harder for us, having to learn Finnish and try getting a job.. not speaking (fluent) Finnish

..and Andy, I'm not even gonna try and convince her She'd only move if she had to and it was the last resort anyway x)

[Andy]

Yeah you're right, it's so tricky. Especially for me and Sam when it comes to the language which I'm sure even you'll admit isn't the easiest

I know Tanja feels really guilty sometimes that I'm giving up my life back home to be with her so even though I'm the one moving, it's really tough on her too because she feels so pressurised to make me happy and make my life as "perfect" as she can so you're right, it affects both parties

But Finland is a nice place to live, I'll give you that

[Andy]

Even harder for us, having to learn Finnish and try getting a job.. not speaking (fluent) Finnish

..and Andy, I'm not even gonna try and convince her She'd only move if she had to and it was the last resort anyway x)

Haha funny we both post the same time mentioning the same thing... you'd think we were long lost brothers or something...

Same with me, she just can't move here, even though I think she would if the circumstances were different...

[BlackCherryJam]

Yeah, I know the language is difficult... I have just started teaching my BF some Finnish and well... Ummm, we have just started so I won't say anything yet!

But hey! There are some really good sites in Internet that can help you with learning! I'm using them

[ErinKristine]

I would be the one to move, he's a career officer in the Army. I've known this since the beginning of our relationship and I'm fine with that because I'm a teacher and can move with my career. Our plan is once we have kids I'll stay home anyways because that's what I want to do.

[dynomitegurl]

Simon is moving here to Washington State.... October 18th in fact! We thought it was best since he wanted to move to the states anyways and the job opportunities for him ( He has two degrees in Engineering) would be better served here.

[Bluestars]

In your relationship, who would be the one to move? Why?
I honestly have no idea at this point because we do not talk about it at this point. (Reason explained below as to why)

Do you feel there is an expectation or pressure for one of you to move over the other?
There has been pressure on three sides from our families. Last November, my SO's dad got a job offer an hour away from me, and his dad kept on asking him when he was going to move to be with me. He put a lot of pressure on him because he didn't want to take the job unless he knew that he would be near his son (which was not fair of him). My SO ended up going along with it, but his dad said the only day he could move him was the day after he graduated...not a lot of time to get adjusted.

He lasted there two very hard months. He didn't end up finding a job, but he didn't really try a lot either because I think he knew he moved for the wrong reasons. He ended up moving back--obviously since I am not an alum here :P We both agreed that he made the move too soon, and he said he learned to take control of his own life.

So now we don't talk about those types of things because it really took a tole on my SO and now he has no idea what he wants to do with his life O_o I know I have put pressure on him in the past to move here again....but I guess it is because I just always assumed he would because he said he would move here after he graduated (but now that has already happened). I am a lot better about not mentioning it now and giving him space, but the whole him moving here thing created a big mess O_o Do not move because you are pressured!

Then there is the fact that my mom does not want me to move away from home, and his mom feels the same about him. Add that to his dad and sister always ask when he is moving to be with me, and it is just a load of pressure O_o