We have our green card interview date O_O

[garnet]

December 14. I will be in the second trimester by then, so hopefully throwing up less. They haven't even sent Rane his work permit yet, which makes me soooo mad.
I'm totally freaked about the interview (I liked it better when Rane went alone :P). It's not even in state, which sucks. Especially since the roads may very well be icy and my tires are bald. *bad mood* !!
SO many people get their cases sent to the california service center, and they get to skip the interview. Totally bitter we are not part of the lucky ones.

[Zephii]

December? How the hell is that fair?! In another state?! I feel your rage.

I guess at least you have a date now though, they wont make you wait forever. I'm sorry it's all such a pain in the arse

[Caitlin2009]

wtf???? cant you call them up and get the date bumped up and in the same state thats really fucked up and not fair

[mllebamako]

I had the total opposite reaction than the 2 other posters...I was thinking that December seems so soon!! US immigration is such a nightmare that I can't believe when anything moves along
You guys will do fine in the interview. You still have all the proof from when you applied for K1 and you'll have the baby bump!

[garnet]

It sucks because the only reason Rane doesn't have his work permit now, is because they lost that one sheet of paper and it tied up everything. He SHOULD be working by now. If it weren't for their error, he would be. Things were flying zip and zoom. We now have $35 between us to eat on until he IS able to work, no health insurance, and a very bad couple months ahead of us. I'm out of work on unpaid sick leave, due to nasty thrombophlebitis (blood clot that took over my hand and arm)... although I've been so sick, there is no way I could work anyway. All I do is throw up.
I don't know how we're going to get out there. Rane can't legally drive here yet, and if I'm throwing up like I am now, I sure can't drive. Maybe my mother, but I sure do hate asking her for MORE help. :l
It's such bull too, they want more proof of a genuine relationship. Things like credit cards in two names, investments in two names (HA! Our biggest investment is in DINNER FFS), club memberships in two names, all these things that we can't afford. My head spins because if they don't like what we have to offer, thats it, back to Canada leaving me up one hell of a creek. If he'd gotten the work permit like he should have, okay fine, smooth sailing. But I don't know what they expect when they don't even give you that.
This just ties my stomach into knots. We can't afford to prove we're legit. I don't think the baby really proves anything. For all they know, it isn't his (ridiculous, but true). All they see is a lack of what they want.

Sorry to rant. I am just so tired of immigration. Even if we get through this, it's only a year and 9 months before we owe another $600ish and have to prove it all over again. LOVELY.

[Karringtyn]

((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) I know it isn't much...but please please know you have a HECK of a lot of people on here thinking of you....ready to listen and you can vent all you want. I wish I could do something to help you...anything. I wish I was closer and could go buy groceries for you...and help you around the house. I had a condition when I was pregnant with Maddie (my youngest)...called hyperemesis...I threw up all the time..never have I been so sick. The only drug that worked for me was Zofran..and even WITH insurance the price was UNGODLY.

My thoughts are with you...please know that you aren't alone in this...even if it is cyberland...you have a whole bunch of people that care.

[Dauntedpoet]

((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) I know it isn't much...but please please know you have a HECK of a lot of people on here thinking of you....ready to listen and you can vent all you want. I wish I could do something to help you...anything. I wish I was closer and could go buy groceries for you...and help you around the house. I had a condition when I was pregnant with Maddie (my youngest)...called hyperemesis...I threw up all the time..never have I been so sick. The only drug that worked for me was Zofran..and even WITH insurance the price was UNGODLY.

My thoughts are with you...please know that you aren't alone in this...even if it is cyberland...you have a whole bunch of people that care.

Yeah.. what she said.. without the puking and the zofran.. I will say prayers for you the baby and Rane!

[Darth_Taco]

Use the pregnancy! Act like a really vulnerable pregnant woman so they feel more sorry for you! As for how to prove the baby is his, prenatal paternity test. Costs an arm and a leg, but it should prove your relationship is genuine since you've reproduced with him :P. I have a link.

https://www.dnaplus.com/fetal_cell_p...rnity_test.htm

Warning, it's expensive at over $1,200. More expensive than if your child was already born. Maybe you can get friends and family to help? I'd help, but I'm poor and big expenses just got in the way recently. Maybe you can do the cookie dough thing to help for that? :'D? I've dealt with the immigration process with countless family members, and I know just how unfair it is. It's also why I sympathize with illegal immigrants XP. You're in my prayers!

[mllebamako]

Yeah Rane, sorry if I gave you the impression that I don't sympathize with you guys. I was just trying to stay positive that you guys got the interview and it's just one more step on the visa journey, and one step closer to being done with all of it.
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time financially and physically. You're in my thoughts

[mllebamako]

Yeah Rane, sorry if I gave you the impression that I don't sympathize with you guys. I was just trying to stay positive that you guys got the interview and it's just one more step on the visa journey, and one step closer to being done with all of it.
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time financially and physically. You're in my thoughts

[MadMolly]

Oh gosh. I so wish I lived nearby so I could help out. If you have an extra room in your house, maybe you could rent it out and have a little extra cash coming in? My friends who just got married have done that. Another thing you could do is find somone who needs a ride to whatever state you are going, and share driving times?

[Silviar]

At least, no matter what, you have a set date, and that's pretty freaking awesome. Good luck, and we'll be sending good energy your way for safe travels. *hugs*

[Caitlin2009]

It sucks because the only reason Rane doesn't have his work permit now, is because they lost that one sheet of paper and it tied up everything. He SHOULD be working by now. If it weren't for their error, he would be. Things were flying zip and zoom. We now have $35 between us to eat on until he IS able to work, no health insurance, and a very bad couple months ahead of us. I'm out of work on unpaid sick leave, due to nasty thrombophlebitis (blood clot that took over my hand and arm)... although I've been so sick, there is no way I could work anyway. All I do is throw up.
I don't know how we're going to get out there. Rane can't legally drive here yet, and if I'm throwing up like I am now, I sure can't drive. Maybe my mother, but I sure do hate asking her for MORE help. :l
It's such bull too, they want more proof of a genuine relationship. Things like credit cards in two names, investments in two names (HA! Our biggest investment is in DINNER FFS), club memberships in two names, all these things that we can't afford. My head spins because if they don't like what we have to offer, thats it, back to Canada leaving me up one hell of a creek. If he'd gotten the work permit like he should have, okay fine, smooth sailing. But I don't know what they expect when they don't even give you that.
This just ties my stomach into knots. We can't afford to prove we're legit. I don't think the baby really proves anything. For all they know, it isn't his (ridiculous, but true). All they see is a lack of what they want.

Sorry to rant. I am just so tired of immigration. Even if we get through this, it's only a year and 9 months before we owe another $600ish and have to prove it all over again. LOVELY.

just give them what you can, and can you apply for help like money assistance and stuff?

[garnet]

((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) I know it isn't much...but please please know you have a HECK of a lot of people on here thinking of you....ready to listen and you can vent all you want. I wish I could do something to help you...anything. I wish I was closer and could go buy groceries for you...and help you around the house. I had a condition when I was pregnant with Maddie (my youngest)...called hyperemesis...I threw up all the time..never have I been so sick. The only drug that worked for me was Zofran..and even WITH insurance the price was UNGODLY.

My thoughts are with you...please know that you aren't alone in this...even if it is cyberland...you have a whole bunch of people that care.

Oh no. >.< I'm so sorry you had this! I have hyperemesis too. I am doing the zofran (THANK GOD IT WENT GENERIC)/b6/benedryl trio to try and deal. This is my second time with hyperemesis (first time I'd PM about, but would rather not discuss on the boards), and zofran were $100 each at costco. I was able to buy exactly six pills with a drain of my savings account. Worst time in my life. WHen I realized it was back I just started crying. HG is a nightmare.

Darth, $1,200 ... well, if we had it, we'd buy food. We have no local friends, and my only family member is my mom, his family doesn't know about the baby. It wouldn't go over too well right now. :/ Thanks for the link though, I'll keep it bookmarked for if our situation changes.

Another thing that sucks, is that I would qualify for financial/medical assistance easily. But I can't apply, because it would hurt the green card application. I don't WANT to get aid anyway, I'd rather be at my job (although, I'd still qualify, they pay me next to nothing). But with things the way they are, I'd probably apply for the sake of the baby.

We have discussed renting a room out. There just ... isn't much room for us, and a stranger added in, I dunno. But it is definitely a thought on the table.

Thank you all for the support. Reading all of your messages helps us get through each day.

[Caitlin2009]

Oh no. >.< I'm so sorry you had this! I have hyperemesis too. I am doing the zofran (THANK GOD IT WENT GENERIC)/b6/benedryl trio to try and deal. This is my second time with hyperemesis (first time I'd PM about, but would rather not discuss on the boards), and zofran were $100 each at costco. I was able to buy exactly six pills with a drain of my savings account. Worst time in my life. WHen I realized it was back I just started crying. HG is a nightmare.

Darth, $1,200 ... well, if we had it, we'd buy food. We have no local friends, and my only family member is my mom, his family doesn't know about the baby. It wouldn't go over too well right now. :/ Thanks for the link though, I'll keep it bookmarked for if our situation changes.

Another thing that sucks, is that I would qualify for financial/medical assistance easily. But I can't apply, because it would hurt the green card application. I don't WANT to get aid anyway, I'd rather be at my job (although, I'd still qualify, they pay me next to nothing). But with things the way they are, I'd probably apply for the sake of the baby.

We have discussed renting a room out. There just ... isn't much room for us, and a stranger added in, I dunno. But it is definitely a thought on the table.

Thank you all for the support. Reading all of your messages helps us get through each day.

*HUGGLES* i know you hate asking for help but since your mom lives nearby ask her for a few things, im pretty sure she'll help and since your pregnant with her grandchild im sure she would be more then willing to help. times likes these you gotta ask for help even if you dont want to