moving for your s/o

[lucybelle]

I already have moved to where my SO lives, with no ring and no engagement in site. I actually had issue with this for a while as I left my whole life, my job, my family, everything, to come move to where he lives. And he was showing me signs of fear of commitment. Now I don't want or plan on getting married anytime soon, but the fact that he had never said he wanted to spend his life with me was bothering me. Eventually we had a talk and I did get a commitment statement from him. For me it was just comforting to know.

And I did think of marriage recently for visa purposes. But luckily I was shot down by my family and LFAD before I made any bad decisions!

Ring or not, I would never move anywhere for my boyfriend, where I wouldn't want to live on my own as well. Maybe it's just me being a mean cow, but I'm pretty sure I'd end up resenting my boyfriend for it, if I didn't really want to live there. If I don't like where I'm living a ring isn't going to change that.

Totally agree with this!^^ When my SO moved in with me I kept telling him "do this for yourself" and he would always tell me "No, I'm doing it for you." I think that was a main reason he was never truly happy in the States. When I moved down here I was excited for the adventure, happy to improve my Spanish and sure it would help my career (if I ever get a job!!). I didn't just come here for him. I came here for myself. And for us!

[heylittlekrissy]

I think as long as I felt comfortable that we were both on the same page about wanting a lasting relationship, and marriage at some point, then yes, I would move to be with him.
And as others have stated, I wouldn't want to move somewhere that I would refuse to live there on my own.

[Zephii]

I did. We're engaged now, but we lived together over a year before he asked me.

[screammaayday]

I'm supposed to move in with my SO after I graduate HS, which is one more year. She wants me to attend college there so we won't have to wait as long. I'll be the one proposing, and I'd love for it to while we're living together because I feel like that would make it all the more romantic. So, if all goes well within the next two years, I'll be up there in Massachusetts.

[LeilaniJoi]

I moved without any hesitations. I don't know that I'll ever get remarried.. that remains to be seen but everything just fell into place for me to move, so I did. Parents were a non-issue as I'm well over the age I have to get their approval though my mother backed me 100% and was happy for me to be happy with someone that loved me.

I will say that even without a definite plan like marriage, I don't regret one moment of it and I can't see myself being anywhere else but right here with him <3

[snow_girl]

Yes I did 3 months ago. We have no plans to get engaged anytime soon and so far there are no regrets. Even if it doesn't work out I got to spend time in another country, so it wouldn't be a waste in that regard either.

[nic&matt]

I will eventually move out to my SO, but not to live with him. I kinda want the experiences of living with friends in an apartment and getting a job. Once married we'll move in together. The timing is out in the open though....and we disagree on a couple of things

[Sharon Q]

I would simply because I hate it here. Most of my friends have or are moving out of state and no one can find work here, theres no way in hell I could open and run a successful bakery here.

[ioanna]

My SO and I are already engaged, but if we were not i would still be considering moving to his part of the world without a ring on our fingers. We are both very commited to our relationship, and are in no rush to get married, but we are in a rush to be living in the same timezone
just a short sidenote though, we've been engaged for 4 years now, and probably won't get married for another 3, so it's not like we'll planning a wedding anytime soon when we close the distance

[Kerry]

no. I would have to be married and have a job before I'd even consider moving. luckily for me when my bf and I get married he'll be relocating here.

[Haley53]

Yes. :P

Well, my SO and have spoken of him moving out here, but I would not want/hope for us to be engaged before we had a chance to live with one another/spend a significant amount of time with one another in person (hoorah for working Visa's!), so yes, I would prefer it, actually (maybe not moving, but certainly spending an extended amount of time!).