I originally introduced myself in the wrong forum, wanting to quickly introduce myself before jumping right in.
First off, I'm amazed to find a place with so many people who are dealing with similar issues as me!! I've been feeling so along for so long and it wasn't until this spring when my aunt (in her 60s) got in a LDR (They got engaged on Friday and closing the distance at the end of October!) that I felt like anyone could relate to what I was going through! But now they will be together, and my SO and I still aren't...
Other than my aunt, anyone I've encountered in a LDR is much, much younger than me!
SO and I met online in June of 2010... This is when our long distance friendship started. There is a really long complicated story behind it all, which I may slowly share if I'm comfortable, but I'll just leave it at that for now. I'm not sure when our relationship, as such, started, but by the time I flew to Texas for the first time in August 2011, we were definitely more than friends! I saw him again for Christmas that year.
We broke up this Spring (another long story) and after a nightmare of trying to date men that, in my head, were better for me just because they lived close by, we got back together in July of this year. I went to Texas for the 3rd time at the end of August and we had the most amazing visit.
He has still not come to visit me or met my kids because my ex-husband won't let me take them to Texas, and SO at this time still can't come to Canadas. (At first he was waiting on his green card, when he finally got his green card, we went to book his flight and I asked him to check his passport wasn't expired... It was... and it has been a real nightmare trying to get an Iranian passport renewed because of all the stuff happening with that country right now... He was told a few months ago that it could take as long as 6 months...)
We have so many obstacles preventing us from CTD, and it often seems impossible... but we can't accept being apart either... So after what was essentially a heartbreaking and difficult summer for the both of us, we are ready to honestly discuss and tackle the issues that prevent us from CTD... Being permanently together is something that probably won't happen for years still, but we are hoping to see much more of each other in the meantime.
I can't wait to get to know everyone and learn about your stories!
First off, I'm amazed to find a place with so many people who are dealing with similar issues as me!! I've been feeling so along for so long and it wasn't until this spring when my aunt (in her 60s) got in a LDR (They got engaged on Friday and closing the distance at the end of October!) that I felt like anyone could relate to what I was going through! But now they will be together, and my SO and I still aren't...
Other than my aunt, anyone I've encountered in a LDR is much, much younger than me!
SO and I met online in June of 2010... This is when our long distance friendship started. There is a really long complicated story behind it all, which I may slowly share if I'm comfortable, but I'll just leave it at that for now. I'm not sure when our relationship, as such, started, but by the time I flew to Texas for the first time in August 2011, we were definitely more than friends! I saw him again for Christmas that year.
We broke up this Spring (another long story) and after a nightmare of trying to date men that, in my head, were better for me just because they lived close by, we got back together in July of this year. I went to Texas for the 3rd time at the end of August and we had the most amazing visit.
He has still not come to visit me or met my kids because my ex-husband won't let me take them to Texas, and SO at this time still can't come to Canadas. (At first he was waiting on his green card, when he finally got his green card, we went to book his flight and I asked him to check his passport wasn't expired... It was... and it has been a real nightmare trying to get an Iranian passport renewed because of all the stuff happening with that country right now... He was told a few months ago that it could take as long as 6 months...)
We have so many obstacles preventing us from CTD, and it often seems impossible... but we can't accept being apart either... So after what was essentially a heartbreaking and difficult summer for the both of us, we are ready to honestly discuss and tackle the issues that prevent us from CTD... Being permanently together is something that probably won't happen for years still, but we are hoping to see much more of each other in the meantime.
I can't wait to get to know everyone and learn about your stories!
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