First off hi everyone!
Im going to try and make this port organized, to help easily understand my situation. As we all know, its hard to explain to other people what's going on and how we feel.
A quick history about me and my past relationships. I've had 2 serious relationships, both of which were not long distance. I've never been into the dating scene, or picking up girls at bars for one night stands. I joined a dating site once, met a girl fairly close to me once. We talked on the phone for about a month. When it came time we were going to meet, she told me she was getting back with her EX. 2 weeks later she told me all of her pictures she showed me were not her. Due to that experience i refrained from meeting girls on the internet.
My Current Situation: I play an online video game. About 7 months ago i met a girl on the game. We began to play it a lot together. Every day for hours we would play and use a Skype like program to talk to eachother. We hit it off very well. Exchanged pictures, and phone numbers. We found each other extremely attractive. Naturally we began to like one another more and more as time went on. Started learning more about each other.
I came to learn that she comes from an abusive relationship, and for years now her ex abuses with her. At first i asked her why the police didn't do anything. She told me it was bc he was "involved" with people and is protected from the police. He breaks into her house in the night, and many times has put her in the hospital. Obviously after developing feelings for her, this sends all types of emotions through me. Anger, sadness...everything. Luckily she has some friends that try to protect her the best they can.
Over the months, our relationship advanced. We started saying how much we care about each other. How much we want to be with each other. How much we want each other sexually. But we've never actually talked about whether we are in a real "relationship". She has told me she hasn't felt the way she feels about me in the longest time..not since she first met her ex (before he was abusive).
About 2 months ago, i told her i needed to take a break from the video game we played together. Now this game was a huge link to our relationship. Its something we spend hundreds of hours doing together. My reason for taking a break was that i felt it was taking up most of my life. I wanted to do other things, hang out with my friends. I was just burnt out from the game i had been playing for 6 years. She didnt understand this and felt i was abandoning her. This made me feel horrible, but i told her that our relationship shouldn't be defined by a video game.
Over 2 months all we did was text and occasionally talk on the phone. At first things were weird between us, but then eventually the romance started to come back. This time to me was a true test on our relationship..we didn't drift apart. In fact i feel it brought us close. After 2 months i wanted to start playing the game again and she was so excited.
We have talked about being together, and living a life together. She's talked about having my children even! I cannot go to where she lives due to her situation with the Ex. She doesn't want to come visit me because she says she would not want to leave me, once having me. And im pretty sure the chance of her moving here is very slim.
Deep inside, i know this may not work between us. Although i want it to very bad.
I love her, but have not told her yet. I don't want to scare her...but at the same time its hard keeping an emotion like love bottled up inside.
Its hard to talk to her about some things. And i think she doesn't like to talk about it because she thinks "we" are impossible. I have a different outlook...i think "we" are possible if we wanted it bad enough.
With everything i've said, if anyone has any general advise on my situation please do tell.
Should i tell her im in love with her? Should i tell her we should try harder on being together?
I KNOW she feels the same as i do when it comes to our feelings about one another. I just don't think she thinks it will ever be possible, where as i do.
Hope i didnt leave anything out
Thanks for reading!
Im going to try and make this port organized, to help easily understand my situation. As we all know, its hard to explain to other people what's going on and how we feel.
A quick history about me and my past relationships. I've had 2 serious relationships, both of which were not long distance. I've never been into the dating scene, or picking up girls at bars for one night stands. I joined a dating site once, met a girl fairly close to me once. We talked on the phone for about a month. When it came time we were going to meet, she told me she was getting back with her EX. 2 weeks later she told me all of her pictures she showed me were not her. Due to that experience i refrained from meeting girls on the internet.
My Current Situation: I play an online video game. About 7 months ago i met a girl on the game. We began to play it a lot together. Every day for hours we would play and use a Skype like program to talk to eachother. We hit it off very well. Exchanged pictures, and phone numbers. We found each other extremely attractive. Naturally we began to like one another more and more as time went on. Started learning more about each other.
I came to learn that she comes from an abusive relationship, and for years now her ex abuses with her. At first i asked her why the police didn't do anything. She told me it was bc he was "involved" with people and is protected from the police. He breaks into her house in the night, and many times has put her in the hospital. Obviously after developing feelings for her, this sends all types of emotions through me. Anger, sadness...everything. Luckily she has some friends that try to protect her the best they can.
Over the months, our relationship advanced. We started saying how much we care about each other. How much we want to be with each other. How much we want each other sexually. But we've never actually talked about whether we are in a real "relationship". She has told me she hasn't felt the way she feels about me in the longest time..not since she first met her ex (before he was abusive).
About 2 months ago, i told her i needed to take a break from the video game we played together. Now this game was a huge link to our relationship. Its something we spend hundreds of hours doing together. My reason for taking a break was that i felt it was taking up most of my life. I wanted to do other things, hang out with my friends. I was just burnt out from the game i had been playing for 6 years. She didnt understand this and felt i was abandoning her. This made me feel horrible, but i told her that our relationship shouldn't be defined by a video game.
Over 2 months all we did was text and occasionally talk on the phone. At first things were weird between us, but then eventually the romance started to come back. This time to me was a true test on our relationship..we didn't drift apart. In fact i feel it brought us close. After 2 months i wanted to start playing the game again and she was so excited.
We have talked about being together, and living a life together. She's talked about having my children even! I cannot go to where she lives due to her situation with the Ex. She doesn't want to come visit me because she says she would not want to leave me, once having me. And im pretty sure the chance of her moving here is very slim.
Deep inside, i know this may not work between us. Although i want it to very bad.
I love her, but have not told her yet. I don't want to scare her...but at the same time its hard keeping an emotion like love bottled up inside.
Its hard to talk to her about some things. And i think she doesn't like to talk about it because she thinks "we" are impossible. I have a different outlook...i think "we" are possible if we wanted it bad enough.
With everything i've said, if anyone has any general advise on my situation please do tell.
Should i tell her im in love with her? Should i tell her we should try harder on being together?
I KNOW she feels the same as i do when it comes to our feelings about one another. I just don't think she thinks it will ever be possible, where as i do.
Hope i didnt leave anything out
Thanks for reading!
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