The Longevity of Your Relationship?

[lucybelle]

I guess this time for me is "just different", like they like to say. I do see my SO and I getting married and if we want to go back to the States, that's the way we're getting him in. I've dated people I've had zero interest in marrying, just for fun. But I wouldn't move to another country just for some guy, I see a real life time commitment to him. We're youngish (24 and 31), but we've both had plenty of time to live out our "slut stage" as my friend likes to call it. We both know what we want and know we want it together.

We've talked briefly about children. We both haven't quite decided if we want them. But we both know that if one decides that they want them, the other would be okay with it. (did that make sense?) But kids won't be for a long time out. We love having loud sex and leaving knives on the ground and such

[kiti28]

I was married for 9 years with my ex but all together we were as a couple for 15 years.It didn't work out though and we had so many disagreements in our relationship that I said to myself I am not gonna marry again unless I find man that I feel is really worth it.Now when I finally found love of my life(i have no doubts about that) I am 100% sure I want to be his wife.We are soul mates and we bouth feel that way.So many times we speak and think the same.I can even feel his mood from distance and when I call him to ask if he is ok,it turns out he is feeling down.We both are sometimes very surprised how we can sense each other being apart.We can't imagine living without each other and we have talked about getting married.So I know once I go to visit him I have feeling he will ask me to marry him.I am so grateful to have him.We never argue,never ever!!!And we have been together for 5 months so its enough time to get to know each other good enough.We are too busy loving each other,no time for arguing

[cwarbs]

When we first started dating (10th grade CD) it was not with the intention of getting married. But now, almost 3 years later with 4 months of LDR (one college semester) under our belts, we talk about marriage all of the time. At this point its not an "if" it's a "when"

[Yaaamiii]

Do you see yourself marrying your SO?
I most definitely do! We've been dating for almost 3 years. I'm currently 21. We do both want to wait until we're both done with school, which will be like 3ish years from now. It probably would have been about 1.5 years from now but he had to transfer schools and that set him back some :/.

Is it too early to tell?
Nah. We've been recently talking a lot about it.

Are you too young to make that decision?
For sure. Which is why we want to wait 'till after college.

Have any of you guys who see yourself marrying your SO had important conversations about things like having children, holidays, work schedules yet?
Yes. I feel it's really important because these things tend to make or break a couple. We want the same number of kids...about 2. I say about 2-3, he says about 1-2. So 2 is our compromise xD.
I'm not entirely sure what you mean by holidays though.

[dukes2011]

My boyfriend is my first serious boyfriend, but I do see myself marrying him. When we graduated undergrad I continued on for my master's and he got a job, forcing us to go long distance. Before we decided to commit to long distance, we had the discussion of where we saw the relationship going to make sure we were on the same page. We had been together nearly 3 years at the time and both agreed we were headed toward marriage. We still want to get married, but realize we have a lot of growing to do and that sometimes people change where they wouldn't work well in marriage.

[efish1042]

Do you see yourself marrying your SO?
I can definitely see it. I'm not making wedding plans, but I could see it in the future for us.

Is it too early to tell?
I don't think so. We've been together almost 3 years and I still get the butterflies around him. He makes me sublimely happy. He makes me a better person.

Are you too young to make that decision?
I'm too young to get married but not too early to work on a relationship that leads to marriage.

^THIS. I don't want to get married for a few years at least. I realize I'm too young for that right now, but my SO and I are becoming more and more prepared for a serious commitment all the time. I feel like it is a real possibility in the future.

[Bethypoo]

I am 22. Obviously have been in a few relationships (though this is my only LDR). And this one, just happens to be different. No matter how cliche that sounds. But my mom was a very... um... headstrong and independent woman. And with that, she was married and then divorced. Then met my dad, married him and had me and my bro. But she always said not to compromise myself or my dreams for a man.

This being said, at age like 16. I said that i would not get engaged any younger than 23, not married any younger than 25 and kids any younger than 26. Granted I realized that I would be 23 this year and panicked a bit. but that isnt the point. I do see myself with my boyfriend. And we have talked about it. But right now I am finishing my BS degree and he is going into the Navy. Once basic is over for him and he knows where he will be stationed, we will go from there. But I dont jump to far ahead.

[FadedSunrise]

Do I see myself marrying him? I have to answer that with both yes and no. Yes, because I've definitely imagined married life in my head, life as an old couple, etc. They came a lot as new relationship fantasies last year when we'd just started, but nearly a year later they come more quietly yet seemingly more solidly. No because I wouldn't marry anyone at this stage in my life, and thus because it will be quite a few years on I can't be sure if I will still be in the same frame of mind then. Also no because this is my first relationship, and it has yet to be a year so maybe it is also too early to tell.

[Moon]

I'm 41, and am perfectly happy with a long-term, serious relationship. I'm really not all that interested in marriage, but I might consider it if it was the only realistic way to close the distance someday. We aren't interested in having kids or anything, so I don't see the purpose in it for me otherwise.

I do think there's the possibility of my guy and I always being together, I can't imagine my life without him at this point.

[Lilly9886]

Yes! I really do see my boyfriend and I getting married! We've been together for a little over 2 years now and we are both 25 years old! So we are not too young to know if we want to get married! We both want to be together forever!
We already talked about it.. also about closing the distance and babies and so on..
BUT we both think we should marry because we want to and when we want to and NOT for making the visa-thing easier! First the visa and work and then marriage!

But I'm sure everything will work out for good soon..

[smith8482]

I am 27 and divorced. My marriage wa over in a blink of an eye. I love my SO and he knows that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He is nothing like my past and he reminds how special I am.

[kat4301]

For me and my SO, I think we knew we wanted to get married before going LDR (we had been CD for five years). I'm 24 and he is 25 and we have talked about getting engaged within the next year right when we close the distance. I think we were lucky that we started dating pretty young (I was 17) because we had a good time to grow up together and plan our lives together before even thinking about marriage.

[Leigh]

I do believe I have met the man I will marry. Once he feels he can provide for me I do believe he will propose. Right now he got laid off.

[lala]

We are both 23, but we have our schooling to finish first.. I can imagine being married to him,with children and a house.. but I don't now if I can make this decision right now. I'm feeling still too young for a marriage, plus it's my first real relationship with him.
but if we decide to close the distance,I think we should be enganged..not just because of the permament resident thing, but seen as a security for me. I mean if I leave my world,job,family I should have a perpective with him and slowly build up a future..

[lademoiselle]

From the age of about 13 I used to pray that the first guy I fell in love with would be the one I'd spend the rest of my days with. I've never been the sort of person who wanted to date many people before settling down; I swore I'd either wait for the one who simply felt right for me, or not get involved at all. Five years passed before I met the man who makes my life worth living. I won't say whether I think we'll get married or not, because I do realise that nothing in life is for certain. That's definitely how I (and he, I daresay!) would like our personal fairy tale to end though... happily ever after