Originally posted by lademoiselle
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In terms of longevity, Stephen and I have been going out for just a little over 5 months. Is that enough to know I want to spend the rest of my life with him? Rationally, no. I'm very much an intuition type of girl, though, and my intuition has been telling me from day 1 that this guy is something special, and this relationship, if anything, has been a series of small realizations about how much I really can't live my life without him, even if he's not the cardboard cutout guy I'd always pictured charging up on a white steed. He's better, much, much better than that. I have a man beyond my greatest dreams.
Before I get any more crazy gushy, I think of time in our relationship as 1) relative and 2) a proving method. We're already trumping time because of our age difference (10 years), so I feel like we've got an edge already. :P And to me, what is time when two souls match perfectly? (Yes, yes, you have to take it into consideration, but it sounded whimsically passionate. :P) Also, I like to look at the length as a day by day adventure, to get to know the person I know, in that deepest part of myself, that I want to grow old with better as each day passes. People change constantly, so there's no question of complacency.
So, to answer your original question (:P), yes I do see myself marrying this man. We have talked about our future very extensively, and very realistically, but we also take the time to just enjoy every day together that we have and make the most of the distance as an opportunity to get to know each other better. As lademoiselle said above, I've never been the type to date around searching for the perfect guy; I just waited till I felt the right one came along, and took my mom's advice and concentrated on me for the in between time. The fact that Stephen helps me be the best me is a crucial complement to our cohesion.
It's so very nice to be home.
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