I know that you guys know the issues I've been having in my relationship. Tuesday my boyfriend and I got into an argument again, but I think the things that needed to be said, got said. He said that after he thought about it and I gave him examples, he understood more where I was coming from. I agreed to back down because when I move there I'll be going back to school and we desperately need to find this balance in our relationship. I admitted to being at fault for being so hurt I had to withdraw to protect myself and he asked me not to, so I agreed. One more chance.
That being said, when I was in therapy talking about this, my therapist made some excellent points. First, she said that we are going through is really natural, he's trying to adjust to what she calls 'family life' and says it takes longer for men, and I should be patient ... if the juice is worth the squeeze.
She said we're ironing out our kinks, finding the flaws in our relationship and working through impossible odds with him working in an industry that is known for ripping apart relationships.
She said that if I love him, and I want a future, we can get there, we just have to get through this really hard part. She told me it happens in every relationship - in some its right away, in others its after six months, in some if it's after 10 years, but all relationships go through what we are.
So anyway, my session got me thinking about the juice being worth the squeeze. When did you know your SO was worth the pain and hard work that goes with an LDR? For me, it was when I realized he was the man I'd always been looking for, his kind heart, the way he made me laugh ... the connection we had online. And then when we met in person and had fun at everything we did, just enjoyed each other's company and I had stupid smile on my face the WHOLE TIME, I knew he was worth it. I had never felt that way before.
As much as we go through, I know he has a heart of gold, and that's why I endure what I do. I believe in him.
That being said, when I was in therapy talking about this, my therapist made some excellent points. First, she said that we are going through is really natural, he's trying to adjust to what she calls 'family life' and says it takes longer for men, and I should be patient ... if the juice is worth the squeeze.
She said we're ironing out our kinks, finding the flaws in our relationship and working through impossible odds with him working in an industry that is known for ripping apart relationships.
She said that if I love him, and I want a future, we can get there, we just have to get through this really hard part. She told me it happens in every relationship - in some its right away, in others its after six months, in some if it's after 10 years, but all relationships go through what we are.
So anyway, my session got me thinking about the juice being worth the squeeze. When did you know your SO was worth the pain and hard work that goes with an LDR? For me, it was when I realized he was the man I'd always been looking for, his kind heart, the way he made me laugh ... the connection we had online. And then when we met in person and had fun at everything we did, just enjoyed each other's company and I had stupid smile on my face the WHOLE TIME, I knew he was worth it. I had never felt that way before.
As much as we go through, I know he has a heart of gold, and that's why I endure what I do. I believe in him.
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