My opinions are hard to describe. I believe in soulmates, but I don't believe in any one soulmate. To me, a soulmate describes more of a connection than a person. Hell, if my definition of "soulmate" were synonymous with "the one," I'd be dating my cat. 
I do consider my cat my/a soulmate. We operate on the same wavelength and connect on such a deep and inexplicable level that I don't feel I could ever put into words; the level of unconditional love there is between us, and the levels of communication despite the language barriers being as that we're from two entirely different species, is remarkable, and it's not something I'm sure I ever expect or hope to find in any human, primarily because I'm not sure any human is capable of loving me in the same way my cat does. That said, I also feel a deep and rather inexplicable connection with my partner, have since the beginning and for the most part, so has he. It's not that I've never connected with others before, more that I have never connected with a lover in this particular way. I also have soul"mates" who aren't mates at all. My best friend of several years is someone I consider a soul sister; I feel a blood-deep kinship with her that I have not felt with anyone else in all my 21 years.
I believe in reincarnation. I believe in a universal energy. I believe that we cross each other's paths for a reason. I believe that if you've connected in a previous life, you will cross paths again in a future one. For example, I would not be surprised if my cat and I had been lovers, as humans of course, in a previous lifetime to this one. I would not be surprised if my partner and I had some past life connection, and I wouldn't be surprised if my best friend and I were at one point biological siblings. That is simply the way I believe. But I don't subscribe to what seems to be the idea of "the one," a single soulmate, fate in the sense people tend to use it, etc. Why? Because I think as simple as it is for people to say, it's too complex for people to ever get a hold of. People think they've found their soulmate, "the one," all the time. 50% of those relationships end in divorce. Does that mean that one or the other is sans a soulmate? And they will never ever find someone to complete them again, ever? I would like to think not.
I much agree with lucybelle in the sense that who you are now and who your partner is now, you're right for each other now. That's not saying you'll be right for each other 10 years from now, 20 years from now, 30... And that's not to say you won't be, either. Some people do make it that far and happily. But we, as people, are (or should be) constantly changing and evolving. Whether or not we're still with our current partner decades from now, chances are, we're not going to be the same person, and it's a great thing when you meet someone who's not only willing to put effort into the relationship but into themselves as a person, someone who can grow, blossom, and flourish with you, but what happens when you don't? What happens if you end up getting divorced from the man or woman you were so convinced was your soulmate? I suppose one could argue that if you end up divorced, then that person wasn't your soulmate, but to me this seems like a cop-out, because what ends up happening is that you label ever succeeding relationship a relationship had with "the one" until that one ends too.
I don't mean to sound cynical, but there are so many people in the world, so many missed opportunities same as taken ones, and though I won't disagree with that there's some universal energy that brings people into your life for a reason, though I do believe that you cross the paths of who you're meant and that when you find the blessing in those paths, it's hard to deny there's not some greater force (for me, personally speaking) behind it, I feel that to label anyone as your soulmate is to put limits on yourself and on the possibilities. I don't think there's any one person you're compatible with above all others. Some people you're compatible with more than others? Sure. A fewer number of people who match you on every level? Sure. But only one person you'll work with, happily? Nada. Because frankly, with the US having what I've been told is a 50% (was either 1 of 2 or 2 of 3) divorce rate, I refuse to believe that that means 50% of the people who married "the one" are now wandering the US zombie-like and unhappy with no hopes of ever finding anyone quite like "the one" again. The thing is that as time goes on, you evolve. Either your partner changes with you or they don't, and neither one of you can control that no matter how much work you put into the relationship.
I do consider my cat my/a soulmate. We operate on the same wavelength and connect on such a deep and inexplicable level that I don't feel I could ever put into words; the level of unconditional love there is between us, and the levels of communication despite the language barriers being as that we're from two entirely different species, is remarkable, and it's not something I'm sure I ever expect or hope to find in any human, primarily because I'm not sure any human is capable of loving me in the same way my cat does. That said, I also feel a deep and rather inexplicable connection with my partner, have since the beginning and for the most part, so has he. It's not that I've never connected with others before, more that I have never connected with a lover in this particular way. I also have soul"mates" who aren't mates at all. My best friend of several years is someone I consider a soul sister; I feel a blood-deep kinship with her that I have not felt with anyone else in all my 21 years.
I believe in reincarnation. I believe in a universal energy. I believe that we cross each other's paths for a reason. I believe that if you've connected in a previous life, you will cross paths again in a future one. For example, I would not be surprised if my cat and I had been lovers, as humans of course, in a previous lifetime to this one. I would not be surprised if my partner and I had some past life connection, and I wouldn't be surprised if my best friend and I were at one point biological siblings. That is simply the way I believe. But I don't subscribe to what seems to be the idea of "the one," a single soulmate, fate in the sense people tend to use it, etc. Why? Because I think as simple as it is for people to say, it's too complex for people to ever get a hold of. People think they've found their soulmate, "the one," all the time. 50% of those relationships end in divorce. Does that mean that one or the other is sans a soulmate? And they will never ever find someone to complete them again, ever? I would like to think not.
I much agree with lucybelle in the sense that who you are now and who your partner is now, you're right for each other now. That's not saying you'll be right for each other 10 years from now, 20 years from now, 30... And that's not to say you won't be, either. Some people do make it that far and happily. But we, as people, are (or should be) constantly changing and evolving. Whether or not we're still with our current partner decades from now, chances are, we're not going to be the same person, and it's a great thing when you meet someone who's not only willing to put effort into the relationship but into themselves as a person, someone who can grow, blossom, and flourish with you, but what happens when you don't? What happens if you end up getting divorced from the man or woman you were so convinced was your soulmate? I suppose one could argue that if you end up divorced, then that person wasn't your soulmate, but to me this seems like a cop-out, because what ends up happening is that you label ever succeeding relationship a relationship had with "the one" until that one ends too.
I don't mean to sound cynical, but there are so many people in the world, so many missed opportunities same as taken ones, and though I won't disagree with that there's some universal energy that brings people into your life for a reason, though I do believe that you cross the paths of who you're meant and that when you find the blessing in those paths, it's hard to deny there's not some greater force (for me, personally speaking) behind it, I feel that to label anyone as your soulmate is to put limits on yourself and on the possibilities. I don't think there's any one person you're compatible with above all others. Some people you're compatible with more than others? Sure. A fewer number of people who match you on every level? Sure. But only one person you'll work with, happily? Nada. Because frankly, with the US having what I've been told is a 50% (was either 1 of 2 or 2 of 3) divorce rate, I refuse to believe that that means 50% of the people who married "the one" are now wandering the US zombie-like and unhappy with no hopes of ever finding anyone quite like "the one" again. The thing is that as time goes on, you evolve. Either your partner changes with you or they don't, and neither one of you can control that no matter how much work you put into the relationship.
Too often people let doubts come between each other and it can damage relationship.No one is perfect and never will be.But what I was looking I found,so its perfect enough for me and all I do is enjoy time and love I have with him right now,not waiting what would happen in the future. And I think one of the most important thing is that I love him the way he is,I don't want to change a thing about him-his personality is unique and thats all that matters. I have been in other relationship before and very often I wanted to change that other person I was with and I didn't like so many things.With my SO I DON'T WANNA CHANGE NOTHING. We never argue and thats something new to me. I love him unconditionally and he loves me the same,for now its all I need. No matter if we stay together forever or no,I know for sure that we would be connected forever and the love I have for him would die with my last breath.
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