So hopefully this is an acceptable topic to post as it's something that has been on my mind regardless of whether or not I'm in n LDR, but as this is still a relationship-based forum I assumed it was okay. Apologies if it is not.
Anyway, since before I was even old enough to begin dating I'd always held the mindset that whoever it was that I dated it was going to be with the intention of it being long-term and eventually leading to marriage. This just seemed to natural to me that when I hit high school and even now I have friends who have no trouble having boy or girlfriend they don't have any intentions of ever marrying, it all seemed extremely foreign to me (I understand the concept of dating several people, that's the only way to meet others, because actually staying as someone's girl/boyfriend when you know there's no chance of the relationship being long-term?). I understand marriage isn't something everyone wants to pursue and for some it never even crosses their mind, but the more I think about it, the more it has me very, very worried.
My best friend tells me that at 20 years (almost 21) that I should stop taking marriage so seriously, that now is the time in my life when I should really be looking around and finding who fits with me. She's comfortable with dating and looking around and that's fine for her. For me on the other hand, I'm awful at it and I'm very happy to be in an LDR right now that I feel so comfortable with. However, this crops up another problem since my LDR is the longest relationship I've ever been in and it's painful to imagine it ending. But then if I think back to my original question of....marriage, well, I get really scared! I'm only 20! How is that even an appropriate subject to bring up, I don't want to think about marriage right now! Ack! But then where does that leave me? So I DO want this relationship to end? No! So I wind up thinking about this in circles because as a college student still living at home, marriage is certainly the last thing on my mind-but on the flip side I feel I have alot invested into this relationship and it's not just something I can toss aside so easily.
So,your thoughts? Is anyone else so set about these concepts of marriage as I am? So confused and scared about them? Or maybe just any general opinions?
Anyway, since before I was even old enough to begin dating I'd always held the mindset that whoever it was that I dated it was going to be with the intention of it being long-term and eventually leading to marriage. This just seemed to natural to me that when I hit high school and even now I have friends who have no trouble having boy or girlfriend they don't have any intentions of ever marrying, it all seemed extremely foreign to me (I understand the concept of dating several people, that's the only way to meet others, because actually staying as someone's girl/boyfriend when you know there's no chance of the relationship being long-term?). I understand marriage isn't something everyone wants to pursue and for some it never even crosses their mind, but the more I think about it, the more it has me very, very worried.
My best friend tells me that at 20 years (almost 21) that I should stop taking marriage so seriously, that now is the time in my life when I should really be looking around and finding who fits with me. She's comfortable with dating and looking around and that's fine for her. For me on the other hand, I'm awful at it and I'm very happy to be in an LDR right now that I feel so comfortable with. However, this crops up another problem since my LDR is the longest relationship I've ever been in and it's painful to imagine it ending. But then if I think back to my original question of....marriage, well, I get really scared! I'm only 20! How is that even an appropriate subject to bring up, I don't want to think about marriage right now! Ack! But then where does that leave me? So I DO want this relationship to end? No! So I wind up thinking about this in circles because as a college student still living at home, marriage is certainly the last thing on my mind-but on the flip side I feel I have alot invested into this relationship and it's not just something I can toss aside so easily.
So,your thoughts? Is anyone else so set about these concepts of marriage as I am? So confused and scared about them? Or maybe just any general opinions?
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