Hey all!
This really isn't a terribly huge issue, I just thought I'd get some other opinions and advice.
Ok so a week or so ago I got irritated with my SO for bailing on me. I broke my shower rack in the bathroom and he said he would come over eventually that week to fix it. So I asked him again after a few days and he said "sure, after my shift". So his shift goes by, and he decides he's too tired to fix it that evening. Now, I will say one thing, I do understand when someone is tired it really sucks to not be able to go home immediately. I get that. However, the thing that frustrates me the most is that when his parents need him to do something like fixing something or helping them move the furniture around or yard work or bringing his dad something that he forgot at home, he will literally drop everything and anything he's doing that day to do that. Now normally I'd think very highly of that. Even though a few of our plans had gone victim to a few of these situations, I understood that they needed his help. But when I needed him for something, very easy might I add, he was just "too tired" to do it. He had days to do it. I don't live far away just like maybe 15 minutes down the highway. All he needed to do was stick the rod back into the holders attached to the wall ( I'm too weak to bend it, I tried ).
So anyway so we got into a bit of a fight. He just didn't seem to understand what I meant when I mentioned how he'll drop everything if his parents need something but will take days to do a little thing for me. And his parents don't exactly ask him politely. They tell him that's what he's doing. I feel it's very rude but it's not my business. Anyway so eventually he told me that he loves his family more than me, and that blood is thicker than water.
My first reaction was intense hurt. He had wrote me a year or so ago saying that I am his number one priority and what not, and when I mentioned that he said "some things change". I was very heartbroken, because it's not like we've been dating for a few months or even a year or two. We'll be celebrating our 5 year anniversary this summer. If we were still in our early relationship days I'd understand. Now about a week later, I just don't know how to feel about it. I talked to my friend today about it and she basically had the reaction I first had.
Part of me feels like I'm being silly. The other part feels like I should at least be loved on an equal level. Other than that one arguement we've been very cheery and happy. I feel in my heart that maybe he was just blowing steam and was lying about it and that he at least loves me equally. But I really don't know what to think. I'm not like hurt or upset really anymore, just kinda confused lol.
What do y'all think? What would you do in this situation? Would you be understanding or be hurt?
This really isn't a terribly huge issue, I just thought I'd get some other opinions and advice.
Ok so a week or so ago I got irritated with my SO for bailing on me. I broke my shower rack in the bathroom and he said he would come over eventually that week to fix it. So I asked him again after a few days and he said "sure, after my shift". So his shift goes by, and he decides he's too tired to fix it that evening. Now, I will say one thing, I do understand when someone is tired it really sucks to not be able to go home immediately. I get that. However, the thing that frustrates me the most is that when his parents need him to do something like fixing something or helping them move the furniture around or yard work or bringing his dad something that he forgot at home, he will literally drop everything and anything he's doing that day to do that. Now normally I'd think very highly of that. Even though a few of our plans had gone victim to a few of these situations, I understood that they needed his help. But when I needed him for something, very easy might I add, he was just "too tired" to do it. He had days to do it. I don't live far away just like maybe 15 minutes down the highway. All he needed to do was stick the rod back into the holders attached to the wall ( I'm too weak to bend it, I tried ).
So anyway so we got into a bit of a fight. He just didn't seem to understand what I meant when I mentioned how he'll drop everything if his parents need something but will take days to do a little thing for me. And his parents don't exactly ask him politely. They tell him that's what he's doing. I feel it's very rude but it's not my business. Anyway so eventually he told me that he loves his family more than me, and that blood is thicker than water.
My first reaction was intense hurt. He had wrote me a year or so ago saying that I am his number one priority and what not, and when I mentioned that he said "some things change". I was very heartbroken, because it's not like we've been dating for a few months or even a year or two. We'll be celebrating our 5 year anniversary this summer. If we were still in our early relationship days I'd understand. Now about a week later, I just don't know how to feel about it. I talked to my friend today about it and she basically had the reaction I first had.
Part of me feels like I'm being silly. The other part feels like I should at least be loved on an equal level. Other than that one arguement we've been very cheery and happy. I feel in my heart that maybe he was just blowing steam and was lying about it and that he at least loves me equally. But I really don't know what to think. I'm not like hurt or upset really anymore, just kinda confused lol.
What do y'all think? What would you do in this situation? Would you be understanding or be hurt?
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