She Doesn't Want Me Now!!!!! :(

[CynicalQuixotic]

Referring to me since I have been dumped I guess. Nice family you have here. Don't really feel that welcome, but thanks anyway.

None of us are disparaging you. What you're going through is a really, terribly painful thing, and I really am sorry. It's just hugely important for you to know that travelling to London, at this point, is the opposite of a good idea. As he said before, Darth_Taco advised you to look into seeing a therapist because it will help you deal with this in a healthier way.

[Karringtyn]

I don't think she was referring to you. And maybe I am wrong, but it doesn't matter...because it was rude.

We really are (most) a great bunch of caring people. Some of us say it the way it is...Darth Taco is a great person and doesn't pull any punches....he meant no ill will....

[NZKiwi]

None of us are disparaging you. What you're going through is a really, terribly painful thing, and I really am sorry. It's just hugely important for you to know that travelling to London, at this point, is the opposite of a good idea. As he said before, Darth_Taco advised you to look into seeing a therapist because it will help you deal with this in a healthier way.

I know, I am already seeing a counsellor and been through psych emergency, they all said it's a bad idea, and I know how it looks, I just love her so much.

[Katelyn]

First, I'm a guy. Second, since when is it bad to see professional help when you're in a bad spot in your life? That was the nicest thing I said in that whole post. If it weren't for this whole ridiculous stigma we wouldn't have nearly as many problems in the world.

I'm super sorrrrrry! my bad. No, I understand. Wording just seemed harsh I guess. But, I see where you are coming from now and that is very true and there is definitely no shame in it =)


And NZKiwi I think we all are truly sorry about whats going on. I can tell life is really tense for you right now but just take things day by day. Things will work out in the end. They always do. Good luck and I really hope everything gets better for you soon! Also, I do not think she was referring to you but, like Karringtyn said tons of people on here are no longer in LDR's but are sticking around...and I haven't been on here to long but I can tell everyone is welcomed here! So feel free to stay...nobody is kicking you (or darth_taco) off =)

[NZKiwi]

I don't think she was referring to you. And maybe I am wrong, but it doesn't matter...because it was rude.

We really are (most) a great bunch of caring people. Some of us say it the way it is...Darth Taco is a great person and doesn't pull any punches....he meant no ill will....

Well I can relate to Darth Taco because on another forum, before I opened up and fell in love with this woman I was like that, but a lot harsher, using sarcasm and insults, I spoke it as it is, and I was misanthropic, hated everyone and saw love as just an excuse ppl use to make themselves feel comfortable with it's delusion, then I meet her, and I think the whole true love thing threw me, I lost my edge, became the opposite, weak and pathetic

[Engel]

ur not even in a LDR.
why be in this site?

I don't know to whom you were referring to, but as it was said, many people here aren't in a LDR anymore, but were in one. me and my SO closed the distance, got married and yet I still come to this forum.
darth_taco is here way longer than you, so if we were to be making stupid statements he could have told you "I was here first, why are you here again?"

it would sound as wrong and senseless as what you said. please, in the future refrain yourself from comments like this. you have no right to say who should or should not be here. sorry if i seem harsh, but this just got me mad.

[Zapookie]

I don't know to whom you were referring to, but as it was said, many people here aren't in a LDR anymore, but were in one. me and my SO closed the distance, got married and yet I still come to this forum.
darth_taco is here way longer than you, so if we were to be making stupid statements he could have told you "I was here first, why are you here again?"

it would sound as wrong and senseless as what you said. please, in the future refrain yourself from comments like this. you have no right to say who should or should not be here. sorry if i seem harsh, but this just got me mad.

well said, thank you.

and to OP, I wish you the best, whatever happens.

[lala]

I won't comment on the previous posts, it's just silly...

Well like you said you have your own story and we don't know what happened.. You said that you guys planed this trip and talked about it last week. I think there is something she maybe hides from you. Maybe she has some problems?Another man?You mentioned children, maybe they are he reason? or is she just fed up with the distance? There has to be a reason.. have you talked to her?

ps. what you said that you would sacrifice for her is sooo romantic!! I don't thik that it's desperate or anything.. You know what you want and you are fighting for it! In my eyes you are brave, but like the others said, if she doesn't want you anymore cause she eg. has another man than you should better not go. But I don't know her reason for the break-up.. I wish you the best!!
you can message me if you like to talk or just say what's on your heart..

[LilyChiba]

I'm sorry to hear about the break up OP D= Hope you get better on this soon.

[MeganK]

sad how ppl blow things way out of proportion.

[NZKiwi]

If I don't hear from her telling me she still wants me I will just let her be, and try and recover as best I can. I don't want to go where I am not wanted, but it hurts so bad that all our plans and promises are meaningless now. My children really loved her and are hurt by this all and I loved her own son like my own, just seems so sad that we got to this stage from being best friends lovers and soul mates as she said. I hope she is happy whatever she does and if I love her as I say I do I would want her to be happy, even if that means without me. Thanks people for your support any way, appreciated.

[NZKiwi]

I won't comment on the previous post, it's just silly...

Well like you said you have your own story and we don't know what happened.. You said that you guys planed this trip and talked about it last week. I think there is something she maybe hides from you. Maybe she has some problems?Another man?You mentioned children, maybe they are he reason? or is she just fed up with the distance? There has to be a reason.. have you talked to her?

ps. what you said that you would sacrifice for her is sooo romantic!! I don't thik that it's desperate or anything.. You know what you want and you are fighting for it! In my eyes you are brave, but like the others said, if she doesn't want you anymore cause she eg. has another man than you should better not go. But I don't know her reason for the break-up.. I wish you the best!!
you can message me if you like to talk or just say what's on your heart..

Thanks, I don't think she has another man, just lost sight of us, the online thing got too much. She said she misses me but not the internet and she wants to just be friends now, she was here last August and now it was my turn to go there, but I won't get the chance to see her again.

[lala]

maybe she just has a hard time right now.. Did you have any plans to close the distance?

[NZKiwi]

maybe she just has a hard time right now.. Did you have any plans to close the distance?

I hope she finds the love she once has for me again, if she is suppressing it, or thinks I am better off without her, or whatever, just don't know. We looked at immigration but our circumstances with children and family and work have made that impossible at this stage. Guess it's irrelevant now. I think she just feels the reality of our relationship ever working out in the end impossible and just wants to try and get on with life, like I said, she lost sight of us and just wants some normality instead spending hours on the computer, msn etc. can't really blame her for that, I will just love her while she does, and maybe she will miss me or realise that we can be together, it is out of my hands. I can only try and get through this.

[DemonxOisin]

I was going to say my opinion, but I just read the rest of the comments and I am now scared to :/ What´s with all the hate? There´s a reason I liked this forum, and that is most certainly NOT it :/

All I will say is best of luck, hope everything turns out for the best.