She Doesn't Want Me Now!!!!! :(

[DollOnAMusicBox]

This entire thread...no words.

Op: Have you discussed going out there with her now that youre no longer a couple? (This would have been my forst question if my SO broke up with me before a trip. "So what now?") Get in contact with her and find out if still visiting as a friend is acceptable. If it is, my advice would be to back off for the month. If she wants you there, go. Plan with her. But don't plan romance. I personally feel your willingness to go on the trip as a friend will say more than going with the "I WILL WIN YOU BACK" mentality. (Even if thats whats in your heart). The best way to win someone (in any kind of relationship) is to respect them. If you go about things cautiously and respectfully, maybe you will end up in a conversation when youre out there. Maybe you wont, but the odds are better than if you run to her doorstep with roses standing in the rain. If you cant manage to go on the trip as her friend, don't go. Give yourself time to heal and then consider a friendly visit. Long story short - follow her lead and respect her needs.

[DemonxOisin]

One thing I have always LOVED about this forum....and yeah I have been here a LONG time...is that things are said with emotion and care. It's odd how some people see hatred and I see someone who came here and needed support and asked for opinions and he got it. Sometimes you may not hear what you want to hear, but it's what you NEED to hear. Some of the following comments following about how rude and non supportive some posters are, are JUST THAT...non supportive. Telling someone that they are no longer in a LDR....so why are they here? Rude. Let's take a step back and remember behind each screen is a person in a situation that needs support. When one comes here and asks for advice....they are opening the door for maybe not the advice that is all sugar coated. And that's the way I hope people always reply to me. Because sometimes one really needs a dose of reality.

This! Thank you for wording that so well. People are always going to have different opinions from you! People come to this forum looking for advice, because they themselves want to hear other people´s perspectives to add to the knowledge that they have, so that they can be aided in making an informed decision. Whether everyone agrees with everyone elses´opinion matters not. This forum has a reputation for tolerance and understanding of other people´s opinions, and that´s why I have remained here so long. Stop arguing amongst yourselves, the OP can certainly come to his own conclusions without everyone telling him why other people are wrong.