I only recently posted about a working holiday visa, which I will be applying for so that it's hopefully approved for me to do a working holiday after my graduation (summer of 2013). Assuming I'm approved for the whole time, that will give us a year of temporarily closing the distance, giving our CD relationship a trial run, and so on. Would I prefer more than a year? Yes, but a year is what we've got given our international options. :P However, beyond that, we don't have a plan. We know I'm flying out to see him in the summer. We know he's setting aside plane fare from his mother's life insurance so that we can either have a Christmas visit or another visit over spring break, and we know I'm applying for my working holiday. The both of us always figured we would go from there, as far as deciding what's the next step in our relationship. We're not sure where he'll be at at that point and I have to come back for grad school/licensing, and on top of that, we're both aware that something could go horribly, horrendously wrong and after a couple months, we could both be at the point of wanting to rip one another's throats out. 
But we always figured we would simply consider our future and figure it out more then. The end of my working holiday would put us at a little over two years from now, so why not discuss it then? When we can think about it more realistically?
However, I told a friend this, and she seemed to have the reaction of "well, one of you is still going to have to make a huge change in your lives, if you ever want this to work." He and I both understand that. He also understands that I'm going for a training and licensing that's valid in California, not necessarily in Europe or even all other states (only in some). He's aware I currently have more ties here (I'm very close with my family and love the area). I'm not going to let my credentials, and the validity of my credentials, stop me from doing what I want to do - regardless of where I am - but for the most part, we're both aware that we'd settle in America at least for a while/until I got established. He was originally going to come out on a visa, but his life changed in a massive way, and so now it's my turn to go there. :P We're both aware that changes and sacrifices have to be made, we've both discussed them, we've both shared our compromises and deal breakers, etc. and we seem to be on the same page with it. We simply don't see the reason or need to think about what comes after the working holiday. That's a big enough goal for both of us for now, with us both being young and students and so on. Yet my friend, and one other, seemed to think this was rash? Am I being irrational? Should we have a bigger plan than simply for up to two years from now? o.O;;
But we always figured we would simply consider our future and figure it out more then. The end of my working holiday would put us at a little over two years from now, so why not discuss it then? When we can think about it more realistically?However, I told a friend this, and she seemed to have the reaction of "well, one of you is still going to have to make a huge change in your lives, if you ever want this to work." He and I both understand that. He also understands that I'm going for a training and licensing that's valid in California, not necessarily in Europe or even all other states (only in some). He's aware I currently have more ties here (I'm very close with my family and love the area). I'm not going to let my credentials, and the validity of my credentials, stop me from doing what I want to do - regardless of where I am - but for the most part, we're both aware that we'd settle in America at least for a while/until I got established. He was originally going to come out on a visa, but his life changed in a massive way, and so now it's my turn to go there. :P We're both aware that changes and sacrifices have to be made, we've both discussed them, we've both shared our compromises and deal breakers, etc. and we seem to be on the same page with it. We simply don't see the reason or need to think about what comes after the working holiday. That's a big enough goal for both of us for now, with us both being young and students and so on. Yet my friend, and one other, seemed to think this was rash? Am I being irrational? Should we have a bigger plan than simply for up to two years from now? o.O;;
) you know what youre doing and you guys are making it work! Keep truckin 
But it seems like you have a valid plan worked out. I always like hearing what you're up to and seeing your pictures, I think because you're currently living a life I would love to.
I suppose I need to put less weight on what my friend says, because you're right. It's simply she's been someone I've idolised and looked up to for years so when she points something out, it makes me wonder...
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