How does your SO calm you down?

[katylynnlee]

Does your SO have any tricks to calm you down if you're angry, sad or upset?

My SO really helped me out tonight and talked me through everything that was on my mind. I really appreciated it because sometimes I get so focused on the emotional side of things, it's good to have him there to rationalize everything. Sometimes he tries to rationalize at the wrong times, like when I'm crying or upset and I really need to just be comforted, but he's learned how to deal with that now.

The one thing he does that really means a lot to me is when he wipes the tears off my face, and when I'm home and I miss him, I really wish he could do that for me. He always makes funny faces at me so I don't cry when it gets close to when I have to go home/he has to go home. And if he sees a tear, he wipes it on his finger and goes, "What's this?" and looks at it all confused.

I just really miss him tonight and I'm kind of posting everywhere. I wish he was here.

[Yaaamiii]

When he sees me freaking out, he tends to lower his voice. Men's voices can be really soothing at times =p. If we're together, he'll do really playful things to make me laugh. He's always the person I turn to when I'm freaking out.

[Phantomrose]

When he sees me worried, or knows that something is bothering me, he tends to try to push it out of me and get me to talk to him with what's going on. He usually tries to lighten things up, by showing me a funny video he has seen during the day, or says something to make me laugh. Usually that gets me in a good mood and calms me down.

[ushiwakafox]

When he sees me worried, or knows that something is bothering me, he tends to try to push it out of me and get me to talk to him with what's going on. He usually tries to lighten things up, by showing me a funny video he has seen during the day, or says something to make me laugh. Usually that gets me in a good mood and calms me down.

That's pretty much what my SO does. He says just the right things to get me to spill everything. Somehow he always knows what's on my mind, sometimes before I even do.

[lademoiselle]

If we're together when I get upset (usually because the end of our visit is imminent) my SO is there with a big cuddle and that's often all I need to feel better. If we're apart, he'll talk me through my sad feelings until I can see some light at the end of the tunnel

[LoveJ]

He reminds me that everything will be ok. Sounds simple enough but those few little words change my whole day.

[dglynn77]

He will talk about anything and everything with me if that will help, or he'll just listen. (He's a great listener!)
Also, if I am down, he will work hard to be super funny and cheerful to help me be in a better mood. Just knowing that he is trying to make me happy always helps cheer me up, even if i'm going through something that is difficult.

[Haley53]

He listens. He tells me he understands, but only when he does, and he assures me that everything's going to be okay.

When we're together, he holds me and wipes my tears for me and nuzzles me until I'm calmed down.

[SDPersona]

He reminds me that everything will be ok. Sounds simple enough but those few little words change my whole day.

My boyfriend is like that with me. Whenver I'm worried and start fretting, he wants to skype with me as soon as possible to calm me down and talk the issues out. He manages to take my worries seriously and always tells me that everything is going to be ok in the end. He's the faithful and optimistic kind of guy. Makes me feel stupid for worrying sometimes. Haha!

[kiara_silver]

Depends, if im sad or upset online about what. If im crying and frusterated he waits and soothes me with words, or he'll try to cheer me up. If im upset he kinda waits and lets me come to him, he'll write me a lil but more wait. When in person if im sad or upset with something he'll comfort me by holding me and talking in a low voice, letting me hold on him and cry. He's done that a few times and made me feel all better.
Crazy but he has the power, can make me feel all better lol

[Katelyn313]

Dylan calms me by being rational. I tend to get over-emotional and take things personally and Dylan helps me take a step back and look at things rationally. He also calms me by telling me that I have good reason to feel a certain way if I really do. He wouldn't lie, but sometimes I'm justified in my feelings and he lets me know when he thinks I am. That calms me down by helping me not feel crazy. He also reminds me to worry about me and not about what other people think. He's definitely the voice of reason in our relationship

[Sora1101]

Cuddling, forehead kisses, excellent listening skills and a soothing voice.

[Dauntedpoet]

When we are together, I don't need calming down, he makes me quiet and peaceful by just being around me. When we're LD he uses different ways. Usually humor to make me laugh. Or if I'm to far gone then he uses heavy sarcasm and it snaps me out of it and I can laugh. He throws quite a strop himself. I happen to find it completely amusing, I literally have to smother the giggles, THAT works to shock him out of it. lol

[bigmac62]

She doesn't really need to do anything. I only need to look into her beautiful blue eyes, and all my troubles, be they personal, political or otherwise, just fade away to nothing.

[marbear31]

When we are together, I don't need calming down, he makes me quiet and peaceful by just being around me. When we're LD he uses different ways. Usually humor to make me laugh. Or if I'm to far gone then he uses heavy sarcasm and it snaps me out of it and I can laugh. He throws quite a strop himself. I happen to find it completely amusing, I literally have to smother the giggles, THAT works to shock him out of it. lol

This.

My SO simply calms me by his presence. I remember that was one of the original things that struck me about him when we first began dating; ha made me feel content, and it is very rare for me to feel that with a person. I'm not quite sure how he accomplishes it--it's somewhere between his smile and his embrace--but he always manages to make the world right again.

Most of all, he simply listens. If I need to cry, he calls me "baby" and tells me how much he loves me, over and over, and wishes he could be there to hold me. With my crazy school schedule this semester, he has had more than his fair share of earfuls about papers, work, and more papers....poor guy. :P

Still trying to remember how I lived without him in my life before.