ways to make a stressed out SO feel better? :)

[Romeo s Juliet]

hey everyone
this is my first port on ths thread I was reading the activities that LDR couples can do, and i have almost done all of the things i can do, and me and my SO basically just talk about our day and what we did and what we ate etc. He is in a bit of a stressed out mood lately, and i know what is stressing him out, but because of the distance its hard to make him feel better. any suggestions about what you guys tell your SO when he/she is extremely tired/stressed out?

[efish1042]

My mom just got me one of these (the 'cry baby') and I wish I had it last week because I was so stressed out over exams and this just brightened my day.
https://www.pickypickyme.com/c-62-wa...odoo-doll.aspx

But usually the best thing to do is offer your full comfort and support and encouragement and then leave them be. Personally, I hate being bothered when I'm stressed, but sometimes my SO can just relax me simply by my hearing his voice. Sometimes I will just have him babble about nothing in particular so I can relax. So... offer support and a temporary distraction and then know when to back off.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

Can you make him/send him something? I (occasionally) write letters to my SO. Not always something romantic and lovey-dovey, sometimes just about things that I'm thinking about, or little doodles, or anything, really. It's hard to relieve stress for someone else, regardless of how close you are to them geographically, but just showing a little love and support and thoughtfulness can go a long way.

[marbear31]

Listening.

Also, just shower him with love, affection, and TLC, and you'll be the best support he needs.

[Haley53]

Can you make him/send him something? I (occasionally) write letters to my SO. Not always something romantic and lovey-dovey, sometimes just about things that I'm thinking about, or little doodles, or anything, really. It's hard to relieve stress for someone else, regardless of how close you are to them geographically, but just showing a little love and support and thoughtfulness can go a long way.

I agree with this. Relieving stress is often something that happens pretty personally. However, doing something sweet or thoughtful is a nice way of showing that you care and the gesture is often well-received, regardless of whether or not it actually relieves the stress of the partner. For example, despite my partner's stress, oftentimes doing a little video where I say something silly or tell him how much I love him etc. can send him through the roof, temporarily, with happiness. Same with sending him a little doodle or writing him a nice note, or even surprising him with a mailed letter!

I think the main thing, however, is being there for them. Even doing the little thoughtful gestures and/or sending/giving little thoughtful gifts, the main thing is going to be being able to be there for them in the way that they need it. If that's letting them vent to you for an hour, then okay. If that's giving them space for an hour, then okay to that too. Being there for someone in the way they need, and especially in the event they need someone to listen, can be extraordinarily helpful, and it's often underestimated for how helpful it can be.

[lonelyinlove]

Basically, everything the others said:

Support
Send care packages/card
Showing an abundance of affection

[Softy]

I'm in the same situation, my bf is a lil moody and stressed out.
I'd soooooooooooooo want to be next to him, but it's not possible at the moment.
It crushed my heart knowing he's feeling down and I'm not there.

I do send him small gifts from time to time.
Also called him, texting him and we did chat on msn.
I try to be comforting and just say what my heart tells me to.
I do tell him often that if he needs to talk 24/7, I'm there for him.

I feel a tad helpless : (

[Romeo s Juliet]

I'm in the same situation, my bf is a lil moody and stressed out.
I'd soooooooooooooo want to be next to him, but it's not possible at the moment.
It crushed my heart knowing he's feeling down and I'm not there.

I do send him small gifts from time to time.
Also called him, texting him and we did chat on msn.
I try to be comforting and just say what my heart tells me to.
I do tell him often that if he needs to talk 24/7, I'm there for him.

I feel a tad helpless : (

yeah :/ i totally understand how you feel keep calm, but yes keeping calm is the hardest thing to do too :/ but be strong

I agree with you guys. thank you so much for the input this helped me to see things in a whole new light

[Kerry]

if you're able to talk to him on the phone do so as often as possible. this helped my relationship tremendously. if not stay in regular contact with IM, facebook, email, skype, etc.

[notyourexgirlfriend]

When I get stressed out my SO sings to me. We talk a lot too. Watch TV shows together and just try and be there for each other. He sent me flowers last week. Wasn't even expecting it. He really does try.

[Darth_Taco]

I usually just get him some beer :P. We're men though, we don't talk about our feelings! D:< Ok, yes we do ;_;. It usually involves beer though :P. If he's having a really hard day, hard liquor. We really don't bother with comforting without some mind-altering substance XP. Don't judge us, it works @_@.

[Romeo s Juliet]

I agree with this. Relieving stress is often something that happens pretty personally. However, doing something sweet or thoughtful is a nice way of showing that you care and the gesture is often well-received, regardless of whether or not it actually relieves the stress of the partner. For example, despite my partner's stress, oftentimes doing a little video where I say something silly or tell him how much I love him etc. can send him through the roof, temporarily, with happiness. Same with sending him a little doodle or writing him a nice note, or even surprising him with a mailed letter!

I think the main thing, however, is being there for them. Even doing the little thoughtful gestures and/or sending/giving little thoughtful gifts, the main thing is going to be being able to be there for them in the way that they need it. If that's letting them vent to you for an hour, then okay. If that's giving them space for an hour, then okay to that too. Being there for someone in the way they need, and especially in the event they need someone to listen, can be extraordinarily helpful, and it's often underestimated for how helpful it can be.

yes i really appreciate your input on this. i took this advice and Lately he is been so stressed with work, and still he logs in t talk to me, lately i have become so patient and lets him know its ok to take breaks and rest awile whn he is tired and that we can talk later.