My SO and I have been having some problems lately, and they're all my fault.
My SO is what you'd call closed minded, or even controlling. For starters, this past weekend I went to my first ever concert. It was a free, small outdoor thing at a park near my house. I didn't think it'd be a problem if I went, so I forgot to tell him about it until the morning before. However, when I told him he got extremely upset and we had a "fight" (Basically him being mad at me while I apologize madly) that lasted a few days. Then today, my birthday, I decided to wear a new pair of shorts I got as a birthday present. They're plain black and go about halfway to my knee. I'm extremely uncomfortable with showing more skin than just my arms, so I wore tights under them. After walking around in them for a few minutes, I realized I don't really like the feeling of shorts and covered my legs with my backpack and a huge bag my friends gave me presents in for the rest of the day. After school my SO and I webchatted for a few seconds to say hi, and he saw my shorts. Then, he stopped talking to me. A while later I was at my grandma's house for dinner and he messaged me on facebook complaining that I was showing too much skin, he hated the way I was dressed, and that he's thinking of breaking up with me.
Yes this is really, really extreme. But honestly, he does this a LOT. I'm not looking for advice on how to dump him, because I truly love him and I understand (sort of) why he got mad. I just wish he'd consider my feelings for one. He's always asking me to think about how HE feels, so I end up making hundreds of promises, compromising friendships, not going to my friend's birthday parties, ect. ect. Most of the time I don't mind because I understand that he'd do the same for me if I ever felt that way, though I never do so that's never really been an issue.
Basicly, I'm asking for advice on how to make him consider my feelings and not just turn to breaking up with me when he's tired of fighting. I threw away the shorts and i'm not going to any more concerts and I don't care about making sacrifices for him, I just want him to understand he needs to do things too, and not just expect me to fix everything.
Thanks in advance u.u
My SO is what you'd call closed minded, or even controlling. For starters, this past weekend I went to my first ever concert. It was a free, small outdoor thing at a park near my house. I didn't think it'd be a problem if I went, so I forgot to tell him about it until the morning before. However, when I told him he got extremely upset and we had a "fight" (Basically him being mad at me while I apologize madly) that lasted a few days. Then today, my birthday, I decided to wear a new pair of shorts I got as a birthday present. They're plain black and go about halfway to my knee. I'm extremely uncomfortable with showing more skin than just my arms, so I wore tights under them. After walking around in them for a few minutes, I realized I don't really like the feeling of shorts and covered my legs with my backpack and a huge bag my friends gave me presents in for the rest of the day. After school my SO and I webchatted for a few seconds to say hi, and he saw my shorts. Then, he stopped talking to me. A while later I was at my grandma's house for dinner and he messaged me on facebook complaining that I was showing too much skin, he hated the way I was dressed, and that he's thinking of breaking up with me.
Yes this is really, really extreme. But honestly, he does this a LOT. I'm not looking for advice on how to dump him, because I truly love him and I understand (sort of) why he got mad. I just wish he'd consider my feelings for one. He's always asking me to think about how HE feels, so I end up making hundreds of promises, compromising friendships, not going to my friend's birthday parties, ect. ect. Most of the time I don't mind because I understand that he'd do the same for me if I ever felt that way, though I never do so that's never really been an issue.
Basicly, I'm asking for advice on how to make him consider my feelings and not just turn to breaking up with me when he's tired of fighting. I threw away the shorts and i'm not going to any more concerts and I don't care about making sacrifices for him, I just want him to understand he needs to do things too, and not just expect me to fix everything.
Thanks in advance u.u
Comment