So about 2 nights ago, I was enjoying a phone call with my SO around midnight as usual. Suddenly, his roommate comes in and says something like, "So hey is that thing with your friend something urgent? She made it sound like it's happening like right away," And then they started chatting about my SO picking her up and dropping her off at their apartment, how she would be alone for a bit but can use my SO's computer etc. Immediately, I was curious.
So I wait a few seconds to see if my SO mentions anything about it himself. When he didn't say anything about it, I went ahead and just asked him. He said he was just going to pick up his friend and drop her off at his apartment. That's about it. I was just kind of like, "Oh..."
Then the day after that...I text him as usual for the day, and he lets me know he's picking up his friend. So later he goes to work, and I play around on the computer as usual. Around night time, I saw my SO appear "Online" on Steam. I texted him jokingly saying his computer necro'd again. He replied saying, "It's probably my friend," and so I replied with, "She's still there that late?" Then he tells me, "Yeah for 8 days." And I just...felt so irritated. Not only is a girl staying with him and just hanging around his room and spending a bunch of what little free time he has...but the way I found out was just...Ugh! I do not like it!
Before I move on...She is staying for 8 days because of something with her apartment manager going on. It was kind of loud so I couldn't hear him explain it so well.
Moving on now...I am hurt and annoyed because it feels like he wasn't even planning on telling me. Whether it be so I don't have my feelings hurt or he just didn't think it was important, it annoys me. I guess I'm also annoyed that he didn't think of asking if I would mind. Not that I own him and not that he shouldn't do things just because of what I say, but it's more about wanting him to want me to feel secure and happy. If that makes sense? I guess feel like he was insensitive to my feelings, and it kind of hurts. I know he's a very simple guy, so he probably didn't even bother to think of any of it. Still, I'm hurt.
Whenever I see his Steam account logged in, it reminds me that she's using his computer and just being there in general and...that annoys me too. I feel like I'm being possessive, territorial, and overprotective. I don't know how to get over it though. All I know is that I'm very frustrated. I feel really silly for being jealous of this girl, especially when I'm still getting our nightly phone calls. But it's like...just her presence there makes me angry!
I guess I'm also bothered because he is friends with a lot of girls who claim they are in love with him, have crushes on him, etc. I don't know if she's one of many girls who likes him, but once she told him, "I need to come visit you soon! I need my quality Luke time!" Which was annoying to me. I guess it's not necessarily flirtatious, but it still bugs me somehow.
I'm also curious as to why she would pick to stay with 3 guys (my SO and his 2 roommates)? Maybe I'm silly for thinking that though, since I stayed there too. However, I only stayed with 3 guys since my SO is one of them. Maybe she didn't have a choice? Maybe she doesn't have other friends? I know that I myself only have a guy friend's house to stay at if I had to. Still seems like an odd choice.
I really feel like just blowing up. I'm on Skype with him right now having a call, and she just waltzes on in and dominates the entire conversation, leaving no room for me to talk. Her voice is so irritating to me.
I feel like maybe because she's basically getting to do a lot of things I did when I visited him, that it makes me...dislike her more? Or something along those lines?
So I guess I'm not really sure what I should do? I know it's bad to be jealous, but it's not like I do it on purpose. It's an awful feeling. I don't feel like she's going to steal him or anything, I just feel "territorial" I think is the best way to describe it? I'm not positive what my problem really is. I'm confused, embarrassed, and frustrated! Whatever speculations or ideas are welcomed.
Thanks to those who read!
So I wait a few seconds to see if my SO mentions anything about it himself. When he didn't say anything about it, I went ahead and just asked him. He said he was just going to pick up his friend and drop her off at his apartment. That's about it. I was just kind of like, "Oh..."
Then the day after that...I text him as usual for the day, and he lets me know he's picking up his friend. So later he goes to work, and I play around on the computer as usual. Around night time, I saw my SO appear "Online" on Steam. I texted him jokingly saying his computer necro'd again. He replied saying, "It's probably my friend," and so I replied with, "She's still there that late?" Then he tells me, "Yeah for 8 days." And I just...felt so irritated. Not only is a girl staying with him and just hanging around his room and spending a bunch of what little free time he has...but the way I found out was just...Ugh! I do not like it!
Before I move on...She is staying for 8 days because of something with her apartment manager going on. It was kind of loud so I couldn't hear him explain it so well.
Moving on now...I am hurt and annoyed because it feels like he wasn't even planning on telling me. Whether it be so I don't have my feelings hurt or he just didn't think it was important, it annoys me. I guess I'm also annoyed that he didn't think of asking if I would mind. Not that I own him and not that he shouldn't do things just because of what I say, but it's more about wanting him to want me to feel secure and happy. If that makes sense? I guess feel like he was insensitive to my feelings, and it kind of hurts. I know he's a very simple guy, so he probably didn't even bother to think of any of it. Still, I'm hurt.
Whenever I see his Steam account logged in, it reminds me that she's using his computer and just being there in general and...that annoys me too. I feel like I'm being possessive, territorial, and overprotective. I don't know how to get over it though. All I know is that I'm very frustrated. I feel really silly for being jealous of this girl, especially when I'm still getting our nightly phone calls. But it's like...just her presence there makes me angry!
I guess I'm also bothered because he is friends with a lot of girls who claim they are in love with him, have crushes on him, etc. I don't know if she's one of many girls who likes him, but once she told him, "I need to come visit you soon! I need my quality Luke time!" Which was annoying to me. I guess it's not necessarily flirtatious, but it still bugs me somehow.
I'm also curious as to why she would pick to stay with 3 guys (my SO and his 2 roommates)? Maybe I'm silly for thinking that though, since I stayed there too. However, I only stayed with 3 guys since my SO is one of them. Maybe she didn't have a choice? Maybe she doesn't have other friends? I know that I myself only have a guy friend's house to stay at if I had to. Still seems like an odd choice.
I really feel like just blowing up. I'm on Skype with him right now having a call, and she just waltzes on in and dominates the entire conversation, leaving no room for me to talk. Her voice is so irritating to me.
I feel like maybe because she's basically getting to do a lot of things I did when I visited him, that it makes me...dislike her more? Or something along those lines?
So I guess I'm not really sure what I should do? I know it's bad to be jealous, but it's not like I do it on purpose. It's an awful feeling. I don't feel like she's going to steal him or anything, I just feel "territorial" I think is the best way to describe it? I'm not positive what my problem really is. I'm confused, embarrassed, and frustrated! Whatever speculations or ideas are welcomed.
Thanks to those who read!
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