Hello,
In advance - sorry for the massive post...
Am new here but also new to a LDR; my boyfriend has gone to study abroad for 10 months.
We have been together for a year and two months. He is at Uni and comes home for holidays and stays at mine a lot. He also came back for weekends etc. so I saw him fairly frequently so have got used to him being around. Also when not with me he would call and text so we always had contact. I would say we have a great relationship but twice during our time together we have argued where he hasn't seen me for two weeks each time, but he always made contact and we sorted things out. I love being with him and he does love being with me too.
So he left on Saturday. I have always had my reservations about him going, mainly because I don't want to hold him back and I worry that he wont be able to maintain his studies, social life and our relationship. However on the other side of this I am also excited as it is a new experience for me which I think will be fun and exciting. It also mean that I get time to concentrate on my life but with the added bonus of seeing him one weekend in four etc.
We spoke about all of this before he left and he was adamant that he wanted to continue our relationship and I feel the same. We agreed that we would be in contact each day.
However, our first skype session ended with us arguing as I felt as though he didn't want to talk to me - basically is his first week and so is important that he makes friends so wanted to move our chat forward so he could go out. However I didn't get this text until I got home, from a day where I was so looking forward to catching up with him etc. I just felt like he had moved on. I am not proud of this - but it came from being hurt and feeling like there was a better option. Irrational.
So in the heat of the moment I told him that I was never really wanting to do the LDR thing and he got angry with me. He was also supposed to book his flight home which because of a low battery he didnt do.
After his battery ran out he then text me to say that he would book his ticket tomorrow (today) and that we shouldn't argue and that he loves me. I said the same back. But then he text me and said that it was my fault, so instead of being rational I text him back and said that maybe we should have some time to think about whether we both wanted this. However once I calmed down I then sent another text suggesting that we skype today and clear the air. I then went to bed.
He text me at 2.30am and said that he was sad so I replied when I woke up and said about skyping today, that I was sad too and that I wanted to clear the air also. He then text back and said he couldn't tonight as was going out but he wanted to clear the air as it has upset him. He then ended with he does loves me and loads of kisses. I replied saying have a nice night, no worries about skype, I am upset to but do love him. That was at lunch today and I havent heard anything since...
Can we come back from this awful situation that has arisen so soon?
Thanks for reading
In advance - sorry for the massive post...
Am new here but also new to a LDR; my boyfriend has gone to study abroad for 10 months.
We have been together for a year and two months. He is at Uni and comes home for holidays and stays at mine a lot. He also came back for weekends etc. so I saw him fairly frequently so have got used to him being around. Also when not with me he would call and text so we always had contact. I would say we have a great relationship but twice during our time together we have argued where he hasn't seen me for two weeks each time, but he always made contact and we sorted things out. I love being with him and he does love being with me too.
So he left on Saturday. I have always had my reservations about him going, mainly because I don't want to hold him back and I worry that he wont be able to maintain his studies, social life and our relationship. However on the other side of this I am also excited as it is a new experience for me which I think will be fun and exciting. It also mean that I get time to concentrate on my life but with the added bonus of seeing him one weekend in four etc.
We spoke about all of this before he left and he was adamant that he wanted to continue our relationship and I feel the same. We agreed that we would be in contact each day.
However, our first skype session ended with us arguing as I felt as though he didn't want to talk to me - basically is his first week and so is important that he makes friends so wanted to move our chat forward so he could go out. However I didn't get this text until I got home, from a day where I was so looking forward to catching up with him etc. I just felt like he had moved on. I am not proud of this - but it came from being hurt and feeling like there was a better option. Irrational.
So in the heat of the moment I told him that I was never really wanting to do the LDR thing and he got angry with me. He was also supposed to book his flight home which because of a low battery he didnt do.
After his battery ran out he then text me to say that he would book his ticket tomorrow (today) and that we shouldn't argue and that he loves me. I said the same back. But then he text me and said that it was my fault, so instead of being rational I text him back and said that maybe we should have some time to think about whether we both wanted this. However once I calmed down I then sent another text suggesting that we skype today and clear the air. I then went to bed.
He text me at 2.30am and said that he was sad so I replied when I woke up and said about skyping today, that I was sad too and that I wanted to clear the air also. He then text back and said he couldn't tonight as was going out but he wanted to clear the air as it has upset him. He then ended with he does loves me and loads of kisses. I replied saying have a nice night, no worries about skype, I am upset to but do love him. That was at lunch today and I havent heard anything since...
Can we come back from this awful situation that has arisen so soon?
Thanks for reading
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