How long can you endure without meeting your SO?

[Belle]

The longest I've gone without seeing my SO is 7 months. It was incredibly hard unfortunately. You really just have to take it one day at a time and try to keep as much contact as possible, focus on how great the next visit is going to be. There has been times when I've found it too hard to deal but all those feelings disappear the second we have a date set to see each other again. My ideal time would be every 3 months at least but flying across the country isn't cheep.
Like everyone has said, just keep busy and do things with/for each other and that will help the time pass quickly.

[Deleted]

Thanks everyone, it's really a relief to read that it's been done already. I know people "in real life" who have been in long distance relationships, but have been a tad mor fortunate than us and could see each other every month or even every two weeks. So everyone around me was saying that 6 months was too much and I was starting to get worried. (kind of hard not to, when mother pesters about my relationship daily because of the distance)

Reading your replies, and specially those who have spent 2 years or so without seeing each other, was really helpful! I'm really glad to read about people who believe in this. I think I should start to understand that most people in real life are no good support for this.

I made numbers on how ling I've ever been going between visits and I realized it was, in both cases, 5 months... in one of those, it was a little more even. So I don't know why had been getting worried about six months! I think I had to get my mind clear yesterday.

Thanks everyone!

[Sharon Q]

Just remember each person is different. Just because some can endure longer than you isnt a bad thing, Just hang in there. Don't give up on you're relationship. We are here for support that's what this whole site is about.

[xoPinkMargarita]

We last saw each other *as friends* 10 years ago.. and we've never seen each other in person as a couple yet.. I want to so bad though.

[marbear31]

6 months. I'm hoping it's going to be 4 months this time, but, if not, it's going to be either 6 months or more. God knows.

I just want him over here! Then we'll both have met each others' families and then we're in the all-clear for engagement/wedding planning!!

[princessmeg1328]

My fiance and I are going through our longest time apart right now. It's been four months already, and we have another two months to go. We usually see each other every 3-4 months so it's a little bit harder. I know I'm ready to see him again.

[Deleted]

My fiance and I are going through our longest time apart right now. It's been four months already, and we have another two months to go. We usually see each other every 3-4 months so it's a little bit harder. I know I'm ready to see him again.

Yes, this sounds familiar to me... but I guess it's possible. When he moved, I did not see him for 5 months, and the next time was 5 months too, but then after that one we were lucky and they were only 2 months.

I guess my problem is, ALWAYS, when receiving the news of having to wait :c I think my real problem is I get frustrated when plans change. I was going to see him in October and my plans were ruined because of reasons, and he was going to come in november but his school schedule changed and now he can only come in january. That must be my real problem... frustration. It happened to me before: when he moved (it was june 2011) he said he would visit me in august, and it was suspended until nearly november. But it kept on being frustrated because he would say "this time I will" and plans were ruined every time. Same happened in winter, he got a big economic problem and had to cancel his plans of coming.


Background for anyone who wonders... I was once allowed to visit him, but now my parents have decided I'm a baby again and I can't travel on my own. It's inconsitent... but oh well. When I grow up I'll understand perhaps.

[D.4C]

i get to meet my girlfriend for the first time in 12 days...she will be here a week...before returning back to washington state...then it will be like 3-4 months at least before she comes back...although it will be for good...i know it's gonna be a hard 3-4 months...just hope the time goes fast...

[Dauntedpoet]

I think my real problem is I get frustrated when plans change. I was going to see him in October and my plans were ruined because of reasons, and he was going to come in november but his school schedule changed and now he can only come in january. That must be my real problem... frustration. It happened to me before: when he moved (it was june 2011) he said he would visit me in august, and it was suspended until nearly november. But it kept on being frustrated because he would say "this time I will" and plans were ruined every time. Same happened in winter, he got a big economic problem and had to cancel his plans of coming.

Longest we've been apart? 3 years 55 days. Sickness, Job loss, Death in the family, Job change, another Death in the family, and sick again. It happened over and over, first his life, then mine, always before a trip. It was like breaking a curse that first visit after that separation. lol.

[EnglishMan]

Although it would be hard, I reckon I could endure a fair while. We've known each other for 6 months and admitted feelings for each other for 4 and a half of them, it wont be a little bit until we get to see each other. Im hoping over the Christmas/New Year break, but it'll depend on her holiday schedule, else maybe Easter would be better. Which would suck waiting for another 7/8 months, but would coincide with our one year anniversary... silver linings, just gotta find them

[Verojoon]

Like it was mentioned earlier, what makes it the hardest for me is not knowing, or plans falling through! Our longest was 14 months before out first meeting... after that was the 8 months between our 2nd and 3rd meeting... I don't want to do 8 months again! We are having big economic difficulties right now, but our relationship falls in the priorities list for me... But of course it takes a backseat to basic survival costs! I hope to see him for (or before) Christmas... but the plans a re set in stone, so I hope I won't take it too badly if it doesn't happen...

[Romeo s Juliet]

the longest was 10 months, its hard. being international was really hard.

[H.Mikenzi]

After my visit next week, it'll be like 3 1/2 - 4 months or so until I will see him again. I don't like thinking about the time we'll be apart, but honestly with how well we communicate, I think that I could endure longer if I absolutely had to. The thing I am most bummed about is the fact we'll be apart for the holidays.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

The longest we've been apart is 3 months. I feel really spoiled now after reading this thread. I don't know how you all do it, but I give you so much credit!

[alittlemind]

Oh gosh. We've been apart since early August and I already think we've been apart too long. I'll be seeing him in December, though. I think longer than six months apart would be too long for us. Hopefully in the new year I get to see him between January-June, or he comes home in May.