Should I just show up? -- Attempt at Reconciliation

[Softy]

If it was me i would go, of course I'd make backup plans and make sure I have a place to stay and something to occupy my time if he wouldnt want to meet me.
But, when I'm in love, I do all i can for the person i love.
Including make efforts and taking action into showing how much he means to me.
Even if it wouldn't work out at the end, you would have done your best and gave all you could to make it work.
So you can keep your chin up and say: 'I did all I could to show the man I love how much he means to me'.

Best luck to you, I hope he sees you love him and how much he means to you'

/hugs

[InIt4Love]

Maybe you contacting him is as painful as it is for you. Even when it's no longer going to work, someone persistently begging you for another chance can get taxing and painful, simply because of the connection you did once have to that person. Maybe it's going to be better to let it go, to not bother him about it any further, and to let what happens happen. :/

If he would just say I don't love you anymore, I would stop trying. But with his mixed signals of the I loves you and I miss yous when we do talk I don't know what to think. I just want him to be happy and if it's not with me I will gladly step aside and let him go.

[Haley53]

If he would just say I don't love you anymore, I would stop trying. But with his mixed signals of the I loves you and I miss yous when we do talk I don't know what to think. I just want him to be happy and if it's not with me I will gladly step aside and let him go.

I think you need to stop relying on the words of someone who's obviously confused and cut the contact yourself. It would be the most merciful thing for the both of you, and it's quite clear you both need time and space to work on moving on.

[Moon]

I think you need to stop relying on the words of someone who's obviously confused and cut the contact yourself. It would be the most merciful thing for the both of you, and it's quite clear you both need time and space to work on moving on.

Eclaire is right, this is sound advice.

Since you've got the tickets and a place to stay, go and see what happens though. Be content in the knowledge that either way, after this trip, you'll have your answer.

[Skye]

I understand the need to be apart from someone after they've hurt you, even if you still love them, so maybe that's what he's feeling. I agree that you should fly there and see if he'll meet you (even if he doesn't respond to your e-mails). But as others have mentioned, be sure to have a plan to do other things if he doesn't meet with you. At the very least you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you tried everything possible to make your relationship work. By flying out there, you won't have to wonder "what if?". As Moon said, at the end of your trip, you'll have your answer and know if you can continue your relationship or if you need to move on. Go for it! Best of luck and do keep us posted!