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    #16
    If it were me, I'd tell him simply that after thinking about it, you realize you were being a jerk and you're sorry. That's it. No "But"s, that ruins the apology. Then ask him about the car, act interested and happy for him, keep any negativity to yourself, and everything will be fine.
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      #17
      My mustang in the driveway begs to differ on your Ford analysis. Best car I've ever had. My first car was a 94 Thunderbird and it was also awesome until I totaled it. But any way. I think if you are going to be sharing in this car you should have a say. My SO recently bought a car and asked my opinion on everything. Because it will be our car. I don't think you should have final say but input would have been nice. As for the danger, if he was buying a bike or something I could see you being concerned. But a car? There's seriously no reason to overreact. It's a car. As long as it's maintained it will be fine. All cars come with a risk something will break.



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        #18
        Originally posted by Moon View Post
        If it were me, I'd tell him simply that after thinking about it, you realize you were being a jerk and you're sorry. That's it. No "But"s, that ruins the apology. Then ask him about the car, act interested and happy for him, keep any negativity to yourself, and everything will be fine.
        Ditto. I tend to get really wound up and overreact a lot. Lots of times I have to backpedal, say I'm sorry and move on.



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          #19
          Originally posted by Moon View Post
          If it were me, I'd tell him simply that after thinking about it, you realize you were being a jerk and you're sorry. That's it. No "But"s, that ruins the apology. Then ask him about the car, act interested and happy for him, keep any negativity to yourself, and everything will be fine.
          This. I would take this as a lesson in learning to swallow your pride a little. After a few times doing it, it stops hurting so much.
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            #20
            Originally posted by Moon View Post

            A 1000 pound car is not a big deal, it's a cheap starter car that he'll hopefully get a couple of years out of, it's really not a big life decision.
            Wait, I though a quid was 7 pounds. Or is that a stone?...

            freaking british...

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              #21
              My SO and I always make major decisions together. I think you do have a right to feel upset, but because the car is for sale, it has to pass some form of safety inspection so therefore it must be safe enough according to standards to be put on the market.

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                #22
                Originally posted by lucybelle View Post
                Wait, I though a quid was 7 pounds. Or is that a stone?...

                freaking british...
                Oh wait...really?? Hell, I thought a quid was a pound, like a buck is a dollar? Hah! I have no idea, I just assumed Any Brits around that can tell us dumb Americans what a quid is, please?
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                  #23
                  Originally posted by Moon View Post
                  Oh wait...really?? Hell, I thought a quid was a pound, like a buck is a dollar? Hah! I have no idea, I just assumed Any Brits around that can tell us dumb Americans what a quid is, please?
                  A quid is a pound, as in the currency. Lucybelle was getting quid mixed up with stone, which is weight :P


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                    #24
                    Originally posted by Moon View Post
                    Oh wait...really?? Hell, I thought a quid was a pound, like a buck is a dollar? Hah! I have no idea, I just assumed Any Brits around that can tell us dumb Americans what a quid is, please?
                    You are correct. Quid = a pound sterling.

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                      #25
                      Originally posted by Moon View Post
                      Oh wait...really?? Hell, I thought a quid was a pound, like a buck is a dollar? Hah! I have no idea, I just assumed Any Brits around that can tell us dumb Americans what a quid is, please?
                      Just googled it. 1 quid = 1 pound. Totally thought it meant 7 pounds for whatever reason.

                      This does have relavance to the topic since I originally thought we were talking about a 7000 pound car, not a 1000 pound car. Biiiiig difference!

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                        #26
                        I personally dont care what car my bf picks.
                        His tastes and his money ^^;
                        As long as I have him near me he can pick any car he wants.

                        If it was our money together, then I would have had another opinion.
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                          #27
                          Originally posted by lucybelle View Post
                          Wait, I though a quid was 7 pounds. Or is that a stone?...

                          freaking british...
                          1000 quid is like the equivelent of 1000 "bucks," as far as I know. It's just a way of referring to currency.

                          ETA: Posted late.
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                            #28
                            Originally posted by Jezah View Post
                            HBB thinks I am being car racist because I hate Fords, but everyone I ever known who owned one regretted it later. They are cheaply made IMHO
                            I drive two cars: a 2007 Toyota Yaris and a 2001 Ford Ranger. I love my Ford. It's extremely reliable, even though it's older and was pretty cheap. I've only had to repair the brakes and that was because I left the parking brake on. Just giving you a good review for Fords!

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                              #29
                              I was in this situation earlier this year. My fiance decided it was finally time to buy a new car. He listened to my input and to some of the things that I would like included, but ultimately, it was his decision. I didn't even know what kind of car he got until he had already bought it. It wasn't a big deal. I was just glad that he finally had a car of his own. He'd been sharing with his brother before that.

                              P.S. My fiance is also from the UK, and he said that HBB probably wouldn't have been able to get a Honda for 1,000 pounds unless it was really old.
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                                #30
                                Originally posted by princessmeg1328 View Post

                                P.S. My fiance is also from the UK, and he said that HBB probably wouldn't have been able to get a Honda for 1,000 pounds unless it was really old.
                                Ditto to this. Although I'm talking about the USA, an old Honda will run you at least $3000, which is what... 1500 pounds? And to get one from the years 2000's would probably start at $5000.

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