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But she doesn't love you. I understand the want to believe anything but, the desire to pass them off as troubled individuals who had a hard past, people we can understand even if no one else can, etc. but those are excuses. As a victim of abuse in the past, I made them and I can recognise them and I have to be very careful when it comes to what I see as tolerable in my relationships (not even simply romantic ones) and what I see as wrong. I can understand why you don't want to walk away, but do you not want to walk away because you love her or because you want to believe her? Because you want to be with her as she is now, or because you think she'll change? Because of the way she "cares" for your emotions today, or because of the way she might shape up tomorrow? A lot of the times, in abusive relationships, we stay for the person we want them to become, if not out of the fear that we can't do any better or that we don't deserve better. We let them hurt us, manipulate us, abuse us, all because of the fact they might some day realise how they've been treating you and change. My mother waited 20 years for change. I waited 3 in a past relationship, 6 in a friendship. Nothing ever changed, and nothing will change in yours either. If you choose to continue with your relationship, this is the shit she is going to pull forever. Look at her already, she promised to change and didnt' even make it a week before pulling some crap like this. Quite frankly, you deserve a whole hell of a lot better. You deserve to be loved as does anyone, and not to be hurt by someone who only claims to love you so they can keep their toy around.
Our Beginning
Met online: February 2009
Feelings confessed: December 2010
Unofficially together since: January/February 2011
Officially together since: 08 April 2011
Our Story
First meeting in person: 16 August - 14 September 2011
Second visit: 17 March - 01 April 2012
Third visit: 23 July - 13 September 2012
Fourth visit: Looking at 23 March - 6 April 2013
Dude, why the fuck haven't you blocked this bitch yet? She's nothing but a troll who enjoys making you jump through hoops and then cutting you down. Real relationships are not like this. Set yourself free, and go find someone worth your tears.
Happily married to the little Canadian boy I never thought I'd meet in person
You know what? She's toxic, if you want to save yourself a ton of hurt, heartache, drama and aggravation, let go of this relationship. I know you love her, but sweetie, this will never be a healthy, strong relationship. I'm sorry about that, good luck.
As usual, I agree with Moon. She is wise!
She shouldn't be toying with your emotions like this. I'd move on if I were you. I'm sorry
Became a couple: March 17th, 2010
Started our college long distance relationship: August 2011
Surprise engagement in Disneyworld! : March 22nd, 2013
Closed the distance: May 2nd, 2014
Became his wife and started our happily ever after!: May 17th, 2014
Um... wow! Im sure you don't need me to tell you how incredibly insensitive and childish that was. What did she think would happen? I think it shows how incredibly insecure and mean she is. She was willing to break up with you, hurting you and breaking the trust in your relationship, just to see how you would react to her leaving you. She wants to feel special by watching how much you cry/beg? This is bs! You deserve and can get better, she won't change.
Honey, I’ve been there and it is the WORST place to be. My ex SO would tell me that I had put on weight, would ignore me for days on end (we lived together), cut me off from my friends, hacked into my email and Facebook and broke up with me then took me back numerous times. GET OUT!!! I finally did and I am happier now than I was the whole time I was with him. If you ever need to talk or just need someone to listen, PM me.
Good luck, I know it sucks and it is really hard but trust me, once you do it, you’ll look back and think “what the hell was I thinking!?!”
I agree with everyone else. Get yourself out while you can! You have to find the strength within you. You are a strong woman and you know it! Keeping toxic people in your life only drags you down. I'm sure you can find someone who will treat you better. Best of luck!
everyone else has told what i wanted to say, run far man! those games are not gonna stop if they are there now. save yourself alot of heartbreak by walking away!
I've noticed that when she says she loves me.. her words have no emotions behind them..
Rona A.
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Tiffanee C.
Together since | x3.29.2014- ♥
Met online | x3.22.2014 - Met at | Whisper (app)
Met in person | x4.22.2014 - Met in | Lincoln City, OR
Moved in together | Jun. of 2013
Love is an action. Saying it means nothing if you don't show it. Her actions toward you aren't loving.
Exactly. Talk is cheap, anybody can tell you something and not mean it. It's all about action being combined with the talk, the words alone mean nothing.
Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein
That is a horrible, horrible thing to do to someone you supposedly love. You can't keep on living like that, sweetie. I know it must be so difficult, but wouldn't you rather end it now than wait years and possibly have that happen to you again or let her mess with your head and feelings even more? It'll be hard at first, but you so deserve someone who would never do that to you. Wishing you all the best *hugs*
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