facebook password...

[tamy1987]

I just did something very wrong.
Today, my boyfriend told me the password for an account he has in an online games website. And I thought that migh have been the password for his facebook account as well. And it was, in deed. I was in his account for only 2 minutes, no more than that, and the only thing I did was to check how one of his friends (who suggested him to sleep with her a while ago) was towards him. I didn't find anything suspicious, but I just feel awful for what I did. So awful that I confessed it to him and asked him to change his password. My confession was through a message, but he's gonna read it in like 2 days probably. I am sooo stressed right now.

I also have to say that we both like having our privacy, that's why we never shared our passwords with each other.

what do you guys think about this? is it such a big deal as I see it or I shouldn't worry that much?

[elizabethjp2010]

i think the biggest deal is how you feel about it. if youre really that uncomfortable with this friend of his tell him you dont like them talking, be honest, michael has a friend who i cant stand and he knows that, does that mean they dont talk unfortunately no, but he just tells me when theyre hanging out.

[snow_girl]

I think you did the right thing by telling him and asking to change his password. You seem to know what you did was wrong which is good. I know curiosity can get the better or people sometimes, its only natural. You have to put yourself on the other persons position, how would you feel if he had a peruse through your account? Its not cool and you both seem to enjoy your privacy, so I would give him the same respect. You seemed to have remedied the situation quickly which is good on you.

[Belle]

I think its nice that you came clean. Its the first time you guys shared a password though so I think it might hurt his trust for a second. Might not be a big deal for long since curiosity got the best of you, and you didn't mess with it too much. Good luck.

[tamy1987]

He always tells me when he is hanging out with her and he knows that I don't like her. But I wanted to know how she treated him, I wanted to know if she was flirty or not. I'm just worried that he might get super upset or break up with me because of this (me checking his facebook account)

[Haley53]

I think the answers will depend on how people see it. You have people here who share passwords and snoop because they're nosy and they'll probably find it no big deal. Then you have people like me who don't ask for/want passwords (I have the password to his Skype cause I was using his credit and his Minecraft account cause he uses his brother's and I use his when we play together, and both he changed specifically for me) and who would be absolutely floored if ever our partners were to snoop or to test our passwords at other sites. This is something that would be a big deal to my partner and I, but we value our privacy and trust one another to respect that. For others, who don't value it as much or hold that as high priority as my SO and I do, this might not be a big deal. It's going to really depend on how your partner is and whether or not this is something he'd care about you doing, because I do think that it was wrong when that wasn't why he trusted you with his password in the first place. :/

[CountryGirl]

I think the fact that you told him is good, you'll just have to wait and be patient to see what he messages you back about it. I have mentioned my passwords before to my SO and even though I wouldn't want him to go through my accounts and stuff I have nothing to hide..like previously mentioned though, it just goes back to the whole privacy thing. You two will work it out, you were honest so he wont be mad at you forever if he even is mad. Hope it works out for you (:

[Tooki]

You handled the situation pretty well by telling your SO that you went on his Facebook and asked him to change his password.

Yes you probably shouldn't have gone onto his FB, but he is partly to blame by (knowingly or not) giving you a password for another resource that is the same as his Facebook password.

Don't work yourself up over it

[Moon]

What you did was really wrong, sure, and I'm sure he won't be happy about it, but you handled your indiscretion very, very well. You didn't go through everything, you got out of his fb, and you immediately came clean. If he's a decent and reasonable guy, he might be upset, but he should forgive you without making too big of a deal out of it. Just let it be a bit of a lesson for you about snooping and try not to worry too much, mistakes happen, but being able to own it shows a great deal of maturity.

[eveningsky]

I think you should've told him over skype or the phone...not in a message. Personally, it didn't sound like a huge deal to me. Facebook has taught me one thing: people love to snoop. Maybe it was a good thing though....now you know that maybe you just don't trust him as much as you think you should. If I were in your situation, I would've probably told him over skype and talked about trust issues. Then again, if it upsets him, at least he'll have time to cool down before talking with you again if he reads your message while you're not talking to him.

[Sora1101]

I think it all depends on how your SO views his privacy. Although I think you did the right thing in telling him, I know a lot of people who would just shrug it off and forget about it or continue to hack their accounts to keep tabs on them. If your SO isn't too unreasonable about it I'm sure he'll be angry at first but he'll forgive you if you explain why you did it, I mean sometimes people just act on impulse before even thinking about what they're doing.

[lademoiselle]

I'd say you handled it in the best way possible, and if your SO is an understanding person I'm sure he'll appreciate the fact that you were honest about what happened. After all, if you hadn't told him you'd been on his account he wouldn't be any the wiser.

Privacy is a pretty big deal to my SO and I (we don't share passwords or anything), but one time curiosity got the better of my SO and he went through my text messages while I was in the shower. He came clean about the whole thing an hour or so later because he felt bad about it; I told him it wasn't cool, he promised he wouldn't do it again, and all was forgotten! Definitely not something we'd ever have broken up over

[Verojoon]

My SO and I are constantly exchanging passwords... but always for 1 time deal types of things (not to stoop)... He has my passwords to everything but I trust 100% that he would not use them just to snoop... I wouldn't be comfortable with it if he did snoop, but it wouldn't be the end of the relationship either... I wouldn't even be upset with him... just uncomfortable... That being said I was married to a man who did not allow me my privacy and who found ways to get into my email even after I changed my passwords and we were separated... so... if my SO started snooping like that, it would worry me in a much different level... He has given me passwords before (like to his bank account when he needed help figuring out how to do some online banking) I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable with it.. have never written down any of his passwords and happily my memory is horrible so I don't remember any of them!! My SO is a very private person... he's let me in more than just about anyone... but I would never ever betray his trust in me by snooping around!

In your situation, like most other people have already answered, yes, what you did was not a good thing. But I don't think it should be a deal breaker. You showed immediate remorse, and you came clean. Not only that, but you asked him to change his password, showing that you want him to feel safe that you won't do it again. He may be upset at first, but I hope he will forgive you. I think you deserve to be forgiven. We all make mistakes.

[LittleBox]

Your conscious did you well by owning up but you shouldn't have snooped in the first place no matter how tempting. Hopefully he'll be understanding enough. My boy mentioned his password ages ago (way back when we were just friends) and said it was the same password to everything but I've never once felt the need to try it. I wouldn't be comfortable with doing that. I don't think sharing passwords is a necessity (:

[garnet]

What you did was really wrong, sure, and I'm sure he won't be happy about it, but you handled your indiscretion very, very well. You didn't go through everything, you got out of his fb, and you immediately came clean. If he's a decent and reasonable guy, he might be upset, but he should forgive you without making too big of a deal out of it. Just let it be a bit of a lesson for you about snooping and try not to worry too much, mistakes happen, but being able to own it shows a great deal of maturity.

I very much agree with Moon. This wasn't the best thing to do, but the way you handled it was mature, and the right thing to do.