Hi there,
I'm new here and this is my first post. I am also semi-new to the whole LDR thing. For starters, I am 23 and I currently live 20 hours away from my SO who is in WA going to college. We've been together for six months, three of which have been long distance. So far it's been great (difficult, but pretty dang good), we've both made efforts to see each other I've flown up there twice, and he came and stayed with me for three weeks over christmas break. We're pretty good about communicating, although he doesn't care for video chats, but he texts me every morning with some sort of "Good morning beautiful", on his way to class and sometimes calls, we typically talk 1-3 times a day and text on and off throughout the day depending on what the other person is doing. We're both supportive about the other persons life, he goes out with his buddies, I go out with my buddies, we're both very honest about what we're doing and such and I really feel like I can trust him.
Anyways, what I would like some advice on is does anyone else feel like they start to get "grumpy" the longer they are apart from their SO? What I mean is not that we are grumpy towards each other, but I've noticed that the longer we're apart he starts to sound progressivly more "grumpy" about his day to day. For example, while he stayed with me over christmas break it was heaven, he's very affectionate, and everything was wonderful, also when he first left to go back to school (16 days ago) he was pretty upbeat. He would send me random texts daily telling me how much he misses me and how much he loves me, he sounded genuinely happy when he would call, and each morning I'd wake up to a "good morning beautiful" text; but as the days go by that stuff kind of starts to fall off and pretty soon I notice that it goes from "good morning beautiful" to just "good morning", and the randoms I love you's and I miss yous have stopped, and some days he seems kind of down when I talk to him on the phone. I also notice that he goes from answering the phone with some sort of "Hey baby!" or something like that to just "What's up" or "Hey what's going on". I don't feel like anything is "going on" or that his feelings have changed, but I don't understand why his affection seems to dwindle the longer we're apart. There isn't really anything major going on in his life to make him feel unusually unhappy, but he did say about a week after he got back to school that he was unhappy in his classes, and he didn't care about school, and that he just wanted to be back here with me and he was pretty bummed when he told me this.
Any advice or opinions on his behavior? I know that I get pretty bummed out too when I miss him, and it can put me in a crabby mood, but I always try to be upbeat when we get to talk. My main concern in this is that as more time goes by that we're apart and his affections start to drop off I find myself feeling insecure, and I'm not sure what the best way to handle the situation is. So has anyone else had a similar experience? I know this is a pretty minor thing, but I'm concerned and I want him to be happy.
A few other details that might be relivant is that I am flying up to see him the weekend of the 1st, he is planning on coming down to see me towards the end of Feb for my brithday, and then he will also get to come down for a few weeks in march over spring break, at which time he'll be done going to classes but he starts sort of an apprenticship type thing the end of March which he'll have to go back to WA for until June. So we have lots of upcoming plans that will really be great to get to spend some time together.
I'm new here and this is my first post. I am also semi-new to the whole LDR thing. For starters, I am 23 and I currently live 20 hours away from my SO who is in WA going to college. We've been together for six months, three of which have been long distance. So far it's been great (difficult, but pretty dang good), we've both made efforts to see each other I've flown up there twice, and he came and stayed with me for three weeks over christmas break. We're pretty good about communicating, although he doesn't care for video chats, but he texts me every morning with some sort of "Good morning beautiful", on his way to class and sometimes calls, we typically talk 1-3 times a day and text on and off throughout the day depending on what the other person is doing. We're both supportive about the other persons life, he goes out with his buddies, I go out with my buddies, we're both very honest about what we're doing and such and I really feel like I can trust him.
Anyways, what I would like some advice on is does anyone else feel like they start to get "grumpy" the longer they are apart from their SO? What I mean is not that we are grumpy towards each other, but I've noticed that the longer we're apart he starts to sound progressivly more "grumpy" about his day to day. For example, while he stayed with me over christmas break it was heaven, he's very affectionate, and everything was wonderful, also when he first left to go back to school (16 days ago) he was pretty upbeat. He would send me random texts daily telling me how much he misses me and how much he loves me, he sounded genuinely happy when he would call, and each morning I'd wake up to a "good morning beautiful" text; but as the days go by that stuff kind of starts to fall off and pretty soon I notice that it goes from "good morning beautiful" to just "good morning", and the randoms I love you's and I miss yous have stopped, and some days he seems kind of down when I talk to him on the phone. I also notice that he goes from answering the phone with some sort of "Hey baby!" or something like that to just "What's up" or "Hey what's going on". I don't feel like anything is "going on" or that his feelings have changed, but I don't understand why his affection seems to dwindle the longer we're apart. There isn't really anything major going on in his life to make him feel unusually unhappy, but he did say about a week after he got back to school that he was unhappy in his classes, and he didn't care about school, and that he just wanted to be back here with me and he was pretty bummed when he told me this.
Any advice or opinions on his behavior? I know that I get pretty bummed out too when I miss him, and it can put me in a crabby mood, but I always try to be upbeat when we get to talk. My main concern in this is that as more time goes by that we're apart and his affections start to drop off I find myself feeling insecure, and I'm not sure what the best way to handle the situation is. So has anyone else had a similar experience? I know this is a pretty minor thing, but I'm concerned and I want him to be happy.
A few other details that might be relivant is that I am flying up to see him the weekend of the 1st, he is planning on coming down to see me towards the end of Feb for my brithday, and then he will also get to come down for a few weeks in march over spring break, at which time he'll be done going to classes but he starts sort of an apprenticship type thing the end of March which he'll have to go back to WA for until June. So we have lots of upcoming plans that will really be great to get to spend some time together.
i think its simply LDR.you tend to get little upset and gloomy day by day (at least some people) as you feel sad being apart from your partner.its absolutely normal,what i think is you have to send him random texts as well just showing that you are as supportive as you were always.and i am sure it will get better as you have so many plans coming.at the beginning LDRs are always unusual and the mood swings a lot.you gonna get over it 
its nice to be reminded not bugged 
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