Sigh after heartache and crying we talked and he wanted to still be with me. (It's a long complicated story that I don't want to talk about) I want to thank the people in my breakup thread lol...I was crying so hard reading those xD. You guys are amazing and I truly appreciate your kindness and support and encouragement and advice. ;-;
Yay we're still together...thats the good news..
Bad news is my mom found out that we broke up. She's more relieved then ever and is being so nice to me. She doesn't know we are back together and...I don't know what to do... I've decided that I want to start this over right. I found that my mom became mad in the first place because she saw that I became dependent on him. I paid more attention to my relationship with him then with my mom. (I know it doesn't excuse her abusive behaviour...). She also thought that I was so focused on him that I would fail life. I would fail university.
So I'm deciding to change. Both me and my SO became dependent on each other so now we are trying to set our lives straight.
I thought that I could keep it a secret from my mom until I graduate university and get a hopefully good career. She's said to me that once I finish education and have a stable job(because that's really what she was concerned about) I'm free to do as I please. I am determined to work hard to show her I can do that. This time I will be focused on working hard for myself.
But as I talked to my SO...he raised the point that I am "lying and backstabbing."... And part of the reason why he wanted to break up is because he was guilty of how my mom and me's relationship was ruined so he fears that keeping this from her will make things even worse. But I don't feel that its lying or backstabbing...it's just waiting for the right time to tell her...
But I'm just so confused and frustrated because we want to be together but everything seems to be going wrong...he again seems so hopeless...while here I am willing to make it work...
Yay we're still together...thats the good news..
Bad news is my mom found out that we broke up. She's more relieved then ever and is being so nice to me. She doesn't know we are back together and...I don't know what to do... I've decided that I want to start this over right. I found that my mom became mad in the first place because she saw that I became dependent on him. I paid more attention to my relationship with him then with my mom. (I know it doesn't excuse her abusive behaviour...). She also thought that I was so focused on him that I would fail life. I would fail university.
So I'm deciding to change. Both me and my SO became dependent on each other so now we are trying to set our lives straight.
I thought that I could keep it a secret from my mom until I graduate university and get a hopefully good career. She's said to me that once I finish education and have a stable job(because that's really what she was concerned about) I'm free to do as I please. I am determined to work hard to show her I can do that. This time I will be focused on working hard for myself.
But as I talked to my SO...he raised the point that I am "lying and backstabbing."... And part of the reason why he wanted to break up is because he was guilty of how my mom and me's relationship was ruined so he fears that keeping this from her will make things even worse. But I don't feel that its lying or backstabbing...it's just waiting for the right time to tell her...
But I'm just so confused and frustrated because we want to be together but everything seems to be going wrong...he again seems so hopeless...while here I am willing to make it work...
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