This is my first post here. And I really need some insight from experienced LDR folks here.
I have asked and confided to my closest friends, my family and we still unable to make up our mind. I truly appreciate any form of advice anyone can give me.
Our story:
Both of us are from Singapore when we met in 2012. We started causally dating with the knowledge that he is going to be relocated to Malaysia and I to China due to career opportunities. After 7 months, we decided to go for our opportunities and started long distance.
First of all, we just gotten to know each other and as much as we are in love, we are realistic and mature. We did not want to throw away our career opportunities after slaving for it for so long and since our relationship is so young especially both of us gotten out of long bad relationships.
The long distance only pull our feelings for each other closer and he proposed after 4 months apart from each other! Who could have predicted that long distance did not break us instead bond us even stronger together?
Efforts:
I guess we have been more fortunate. We flew to each other once every 2 months. We text, call each other everyday. We face time each other once every 2 days.
Situation:
He is in Malaysia with his company not having presence in China or Singapore. I am in China with my company not having presence in Malaysia. Both of our careers in our companies are great and we both enjoy significantly working in our companies. Both of us are financially sound.
Eventually, we decided that I should move to Malaysia. However, I am bound by contract to finish my 2 years terms. Currently, I am left with 1.5 years left. We really don't want to pay the penalty when the money could put into good use especially when I relocate to Malaysia without a job.
Both of us are into our thirties and we want to start a family soon.
Options:
We have been playing several options in our minds. And came down to two.
- I move back to Singapore where my company have presence there and continue with whatever time I am bound. Malaysia is 200 miles from Singapore. When time is up, I'll relocate to Malaysia.
Cons: I'll upset superiors in my company (both China and Singapore) who has been rooting me to commit for 2 years. I have already spoken to them and they didn't really want to see me go back to Singapore.
- I stay put in China and continue with whatever time I am bound. When time is up, I'll relocate to Malaysia.
Cons: Its harder for us to fly to each other with nearly 3000 miles apart.
Any advices, please? Thank you in advance.
I have asked and confided to my closest friends, my family and we still unable to make up our mind. I truly appreciate any form of advice anyone can give me.
Our story:
Both of us are from Singapore when we met in 2012. We started causally dating with the knowledge that he is going to be relocated to Malaysia and I to China due to career opportunities. After 7 months, we decided to go for our opportunities and started long distance.
First of all, we just gotten to know each other and as much as we are in love, we are realistic and mature. We did not want to throw away our career opportunities after slaving for it for so long and since our relationship is so young especially both of us gotten out of long bad relationships.
The long distance only pull our feelings for each other closer and he proposed after 4 months apart from each other! Who could have predicted that long distance did not break us instead bond us even stronger together?
Efforts:
I guess we have been more fortunate. We flew to each other once every 2 months. We text, call each other everyday. We face time each other once every 2 days.
Situation:
He is in Malaysia with his company not having presence in China or Singapore. I am in China with my company not having presence in Malaysia. Both of our careers in our companies are great and we both enjoy significantly working in our companies. Both of us are financially sound.
Eventually, we decided that I should move to Malaysia. However, I am bound by contract to finish my 2 years terms. Currently, I am left with 1.5 years left. We really don't want to pay the penalty when the money could put into good use especially when I relocate to Malaysia without a job.
Both of us are into our thirties and we want to start a family soon.
Options:
We have been playing several options in our minds. And came down to two.
- I move back to Singapore where my company have presence there and continue with whatever time I am bound. Malaysia is 200 miles from Singapore. When time is up, I'll relocate to Malaysia.
Cons: I'll upset superiors in my company (both China and Singapore) who has been rooting me to commit for 2 years. I have already spoken to them and they didn't really want to see me go back to Singapore.
- I stay put in China and continue with whatever time I am bound. When time is up, I'll relocate to Malaysia.
Cons: Its harder for us to fly to each other with nearly 3000 miles apart.
Any advices, please? Thank you in advance.
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