Ignored for 4 days?

[itsjen516]

Never been ignored like when we get a little annoyed at each other we talk it out right away and fix the issue. We have never had a real argument more of getting annoyed at each other but with in an hour or so it's fixed. I see no need in having to argue or ignore that makes the situation worse

[Rugger]

He's acting like a complete child. You were trying to be supportive and he blew up for no reason. Losing your job is not reason to be mean to someone else.

There are times when my SO and I are having an argument that I have to go away for a bit to blow off steam. But I take an hour maybe two to get my thoughts in order so I can tell him WHY it is that I am feeling upset.

You should take this as a red flag, if this is how he's going to handle all misunderstandings, You need to re-think this relationship. I think that when you start talking again, you should have a conversation and nip this one in the bud. The silent treatment is NOT acceptable unless you are a kindergartner.

[Ejoriah]

I agree that it is childish behavior to ignore you for 4 days, plus that last text he sent was so passive aggressive. The most my SO "ignored" me was for an afternoon, and it wasn't so much him ignoring me as not knowing what to say and so choosing not to say anything.

[liquidlove]

Update - still no word from him. I am trying to stay busy to keep my mind off it but it isn't working. Send positive vibes my way everyone!

[Deleted]

Update - still no word from him. I am trying to stay busy to keep my mind off it but it isn't working. Send positive vibes my way everyone!

Sorry to hear that. Something similar happened to me before, and I learned something really useful: keep yourself busy! Go out with friends, watch a film, fill your schedule up with other people! I'm sure you know this: other people exist than your SO. Relationships can be really consuming sometimes.

Also, here's what my therapist told me. Work by evidence. One time, I didn't hear from my SO and it worried me. As it turned out, the wifi was out for a day because of a rainstorm or something. I don't know. Something could have come up (albeit very untimely), so hang in there! I believe in you. Smile, chin up, set goals every day. Sending love your way!

<3 Lori

[Ahava]

I'm so sorry to hear he still hasn't contacted you. Hugs.

[lejon]

Sending good vibes your way! Hang in there!

[moondust]

Hope it'll get better soon, I know how difficult it is not to hear from your SO for days, even weeks from my experience when he was undergoing a difficult times... hang in there. Stay strong.

[MZVIRGO82]

I think the longest my s/o and I didn't speak during an argument was an hour tops. We are both people who try our best not to ignore situations but will take a minute to gather thoughts/cool off if needed.

I completely understand that your s/o may be going through a rough patch-loosing a job sucks. Him not being in contact with you and ignoring your for days also sucks and doesn't make his situation better.

Not only is this completely childish of him, but pretty inconsiderate of your feelings. If this is how he handles conflict or acts when he is stressed, you should ask yourself are you okay with this and are you willing to put up with this in your relationship with him? If he is acting like this now, this is probably how he reacts to things when they go sour.

If this behavior isn't okay with you, then if and when he contacts you or when you all talk again-it would be best to let him know that how he acted was not okay and it isn't something you tolerate.

Being in a LDR requires constant and consistent communication, simply ignoring your partner for days because you are upset, is not acceptable-in my opinion anyway.

Hopefully he will come to his senses and apologize to you for his behavior.

[kikidee]

Perhaps you can suggest just meeting as friends to see if there is any chemistry?
My SO wanted to start dating before we met on real life, and that made me very nervous and we sometimes had fights due to it. I told him I would decide when we met, and it worked out. This guy might be nervous just as I was but he didn't realize it once it came to life.

[temporaryuser]

have you tried to contact him thru alternate means? if he still ignores you if you have tried that, then it is time to move on.

[liquidlove]

Okay good news is he finally messaged me! Turns out he "needed time off." We agreed to talk on Skype tonight so I have to figure out the best way to communicate that I will not tolerate being ignored like that.

[temporaryuser]

You tell him if he needs time off that he needs to tell you - period. Then you would be obliged to give him the space he needs. but that totally ignoring you is a no go and will be grounds for moving on.

[Rugger]

You tell him if he needs time off that he needs to tell you - period. Then you would be obliged to give him the space he needs. but that totally ignoring you is a no go and will be grounds for moving on.

I second this. He needs to give you some notice of his "time Off" include how long it will be. It's unfair to you for him to just drop off the face of the earth without warning.

[kayla_622]

If he needs space then he definitely needs to tell you first. You need to tell him this when you two talk tonight. Its immature to just ignore someone especially someone you're in a relationship with for 4+ days. If he needs space then fine he can have space but, every time you two disagree about something or you say something/do something he doesn't like he has no right to throw a hissy fit and go and ignore you for days on end. It not fair to you. You don't deserve to be shut out and to sit around wondering what you did wrong.