How to know if our SO's are serious in the relationship!?

[GFI_1155]

Hello guys.
I haven't been on this forum for long time, i do miss it now.

I was wondering before i started to post a thread about how to know if our SO's are serious in the relationship, i mean here in "Long Distance Relationship". If we search on google about "how to know if he is serious", it will show only about the close distance relationships and nothing much about LDR.

The reason i posted this thread cause there could be new people to LDR or people who hasn't been in any relationship before. So i just wanted to be helpful and I can also learn more about LDR and more about others experiences.

In my perspective, he or she is serious when:
1- talk to you everyday or try to talk to you when he or she busy during work.
2- tell his/her friends and family about you.
3- give you his/her personal information.
4- want to meet you in Person.


So what else can you guys add more to it?

Thanks for reading

[snow_girl]

I don't know anyone that would choose to be casually in a LDR, therefore anyone that chooses to do it must be serious.

[lyonsgirl]

Tell you that they're serious.


ETA: woah, snow_girl, I promise I'm not stalking you, but we totes posted at the EXACT SAME TIME. *runs away*

[differentcountries]

Tell you they picture a future together
Take piss from family and friends over the relationship and still defend you
Feel something is wrong with a day without contact

[jana89]

I don't know anyone that would choose to be casually in a LDR, therefore anyone that chooses to do it must be serious.

Totally agree! If someone is ready to wait months and years for you, then he/she is probably serious about it.

[piratemama]

Someone serious with you will:
Be willing to share your ups and downs. Be there for you when you are having a hard time.
Remember you on special occasions.
Go the extra mile to spend time with you (like getting up really early or staying up late to Skype).

[talim]

I have to disagree a little about the "casual LDRs" thing. I have gone through two "casual" LDRs (well, in the second one, I thought it was serious, but the guy I was with saw me only as a girl to have sex with...), but it was mostly "friends with benefits" thing.
In my opinion, when someone is serious with you, they are willing to introduce you to their friends and family, and show some effort to meet you and be with you, and don't run away when the first issues show up.

[bribri2729]

I totally agree with you!

[Ahava]

I was thinking with nowadays internet times and so on there might be people out there who aren't that serious about the relationship.
For instance some one might be married/in a relationship, but get into a LDR for the excitement of it.

I think the OP's list is pretty good and also what has been added after wards.

[meaton]

Because she tells me she is serious and I have faith in her, and she has faith in me. No matter what we are going through even if it seems like there is no way to fix our issues...we somehow always stay strong and make it through.

[differentcountries]

When you spend all your money and then some
When you love to make them happy and feel understood

[snow_girl]

When you spend all your money and then some

I don't think that shows seriousness, that shows irresponsibility.

[sarahjane1992]

I don't think that shows seriousness, that shows irresponsibility.

I second that. Saving money and preparing for the future is essential in any relationship, especially an LDR.

[meaton]

I don't think that shows seriousness, that shows irresponsibility.

I agree with this. My SO tells me to save all my extra money for airfare to visit her and prepare for our future together. She would rather be able to spend some time with me versus receive any material gifts.

[TooFarAway]

Oooh I like this thread.
It's especially hard to tell if a LDR relationship is serious if you both met online and you absolutely don't know them in person and you're main and only form of communication is text. You can be catfished, they could be cheating on you, lying about their personal information, actually an axe murderer rapist etc. etc. (all that bs that LDR haters will tell you about). It's easy to text things that make you sound serious about the relationship when in reality you could be having a million online romances lololol (Not that I have done that but hey, it's happened...Well if you count putting a smiley face at the end of a text to make you sound less mean then yes I'm guilty for deceiving people LOL).
It's not hard to say via text "I love you and I'm serious about this relationship and I want to be with you and make beautiful babies with you and live in a cottage house in the countryside with you and get a fluffy dog" lololol