Well you know ever since my previous LDR all 100% honesty backfired me, I feel like I have to hold back now. Like People say if someone loves you they will accept your past and not punish you for it, but that wasnt the case with my ex, so I'm a bit afraid.
And I dont know, but the way I see it this guy is starting to fall hard, I saw it tonight, we talked like 4 hours and he still tried to stay awake and said we can talk tomorrow as if he'd feel guilty that we didn't talk much which in reality we did, but he totally lost track of time however, I dont know what to do from this step forward, I dont want to rush it and I don't want to hurt him either, because god knows I'm still relapsing from my ex I got days when I'm great and then there's downs again and I don't want to bring them here and start with him halfway, because I know I told him at the beginning I don't want to use him as rebound and I know even he doesn't want it, but the way I saw how he mentions things we should do together "when we meet" makes me feel he's somewhere in the middle to start getting the strong feelings, not to mention he blows kisses more often. He even takes more time during day to write during work/breaks and I feel so bad sometimes because I don't know what to talk, because my mind isnt 100% in it... How to tell him to slow down, to kind of not let himself "fall into it" just yet, like just prolong the friendship stage?
This past week it's going like lighting speed, I see changes from his side and I see it it's going too fast and we knew each other only like a month and a half. He's a very rational and smart guy, but I dont know any of his past relationships background, I didn't dare to ask yet and I don't want it all to burn down before I get a chance to know more. I know with that speed in my previous relationship as soon as I agreed to LDR my ex started "sugar coating" everything. You know we change stories a bit to make them a bit nicer when you know there's a loving person now where your reputation and view is important. And we had this talk that we can't do LDR before knowing more about each other to exactly prevent sugar coating, but I feel like I'm losing here and he's going fast, 2 steps forward feelings wise.
I thought maybe I should lower contact a bit, I know when he finally realizes he feels something more there's no way back and anything I'll do from that point on will affect him emotionally
sometimes when I got those relapsing moments I overthink all and sometimes I think, what am I doing, stop this, you're not ready. It's all too confusing.
And I dont know, but the way I see it this guy is starting to fall hard, I saw it tonight, we talked like 4 hours and he still tried to stay awake and said we can talk tomorrow as if he'd feel guilty that we didn't talk much which in reality we did, but he totally lost track of time however, I dont know what to do from this step forward, I dont want to rush it and I don't want to hurt him either, because god knows I'm still relapsing from my ex I got days when I'm great and then there's downs again and I don't want to bring them here and start with him halfway, because I know I told him at the beginning I don't want to use him as rebound and I know even he doesn't want it, but the way I saw how he mentions things we should do together "when we meet" makes me feel he's somewhere in the middle to start getting the strong feelings, not to mention he blows kisses more often. He even takes more time during day to write during work/breaks and I feel so bad sometimes because I don't know what to talk, because my mind isnt 100% in it... How to tell him to slow down, to kind of not let himself "fall into it" just yet, like just prolong the friendship stage?
This past week it's going like lighting speed, I see changes from his side and I see it it's going too fast and we knew each other only like a month and a half. He's a very rational and smart guy, but I dont know any of his past relationships background, I didn't dare to ask yet and I don't want it all to burn down before I get a chance to know more. I know with that speed in my previous relationship as soon as I agreed to LDR my ex started "sugar coating" everything. You know we change stories a bit to make them a bit nicer when you know there's a loving person now where your reputation and view is important. And we had this talk that we can't do LDR before knowing more about each other to exactly prevent sugar coating, but I feel like I'm losing here and he's going fast, 2 steps forward feelings wise.
I thought maybe I should lower contact a bit, I know when he finally realizes he feels something more there's no way back and anything I'll do from that point on will affect him emotionally
sometimes when I got those relapsing moments I overthink all and sometimes I think, what am I doing, stop this, you're not ready. It's all too confusing.
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