The last thread that I posted was about my SO's insecurities ( and mine ) but thankfully with the help of the advice of the LDR community we settled all our problems and we've been talking not often as before but we leave each other messages every morning and evening and we make it a point to talk to each other on skype every Saturday.
(ahem) Well so far our relationship has been great and he doesn't pressure me that much to talk to him because we both have different schedules and living in a different time-zone where he is 3 hours early on my time but lately in our talks he's been hankering the idea of us "getting married", which is understandable because I told him ever since that we first met that I was "saving myself for marriage" and he totally respects that. But the thought of getting MARRIED at all (uggghhh), I mean I'm not rushing to be at the altar. I had plans even before I met him and I plan to stick to it.
He's visiting me in 3 years or so in order to help us know if what we have together could be "something permanent"which is cool.
He's been pondering the idea of "us getting married" a few times lately that I even decided to break up with him at one point because I don't see myself getting married with him... maybe in the far distant future? ( I would say yes) but not right now. I told him that I don't really like the idea of us getting married after we closed our distance and I only want to start with us living together for a few years first ( He's reluctant of that idea BTW)
I really need your advice on these questions that have been raking up in my mind for the past few days:
- What is his deal? Is it because of our age gap that makes him think of settling down soon after a few years? ( I'm 18 and he's nearing his late 20's )
- Is it because he's been brought up in a religion ( He's Muslim and I'm a Roman Catholic )?
- Am I over reacting everything?
Help me please
(ahem) Well so far our relationship has been great and he doesn't pressure me that much to talk to him because we both have different schedules and living in a different time-zone where he is 3 hours early on my time but lately in our talks he's been hankering the idea of us "getting married", which is understandable because I told him ever since that we first met that I was "saving myself for marriage" and he totally respects that. But the thought of getting MARRIED at all (uggghhh), I mean I'm not rushing to be at the altar. I had plans even before I met him and I plan to stick to it.
He's visiting me in 3 years or so in order to help us know if what we have together could be "something permanent"which is cool.
He's been pondering the idea of "us getting married" a few times lately that I even decided to break up with him at one point because I don't see myself getting married with him... maybe in the far distant future? ( I would say yes) but not right now. I told him that I don't really like the idea of us getting married after we closed our distance and I only want to start with us living together for a few years first ( He's reluctant of that idea BTW)
I really need your advice on these questions that have been raking up in my mind for the past few days:
- What is his deal? Is it because of our age gap that makes him think of settling down soon after a few years? ( I'm 18 and he's nearing his late 20's )
- Is it because he's been brought up in a religion ( He's Muslim and I'm a Roman Catholic )?
- Am I over reacting everything?
Help me please
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