Helpful Advice?

[Moon]

You dont offend me at all,first and foremost because you know nothing of my child or the situation, with or without children everyone deserves happiness, I never said I wasnt happy here or with him. We only seem to have a bit of trouble getting used to not living alone is all. Unlike most women that use their children as weapons against the father that did them wrong I refuse to keep him from his father as its wrong, My child began his first year of school this year and the 3of us, Me, my childs father and my child sat down together and my son chose to stay with his father because he wanted to be in school with his siblings (his fathers other kids). So either way he would have been away. So maybe before you pass judgement on something you dont know, you should maybe not dive in and indulge on being rude.

Oh no, I most certainly will "dive in and indulge on being rude" whenever I feel it's warranted. Those are all great excuses, but you still left your young child to go live with some dude in another country. School or not, don't you think he misses his mother? Six months is a VERY long time in the life of a 5 year old. I will pass judgement whenever I feel like it, get off your high horse, everyone judges. As a former single mother, I would have never put my wants over my child's needs. Too bad more people don't feel that way.

[Britt6]

Thank You Snow,

We talked abit and we actually have a trip planned for this weekend. Kinda a double date of sorts. to be honest I think alot of it is me, I've worked since 16 and now Im here I cant legally work or do much to contribute, Makes me feel abit useless, I think its things like that that push small fights. I hope you're right tho maybe some timeout will make us both feel better. Its not us as a couple when we can find comfort in things we are perfect, I have no doubts in our future and I dont regret my choice to be here. I was just hoping for adviceto get past the small disagreements that I'm sure come between everyone at some point

[snow]

This reminds me painfully of my last relationship. We struggled 4 years to close the distance and then when we lived together, we would rarely do anything together anymore. We were both constantly bored and the passion we once had was gone.

I really think you two need to get out more. Any reason why he is not seeing his friends anymore? Would he feel guilty leaving you at home?
All I can suggest is going out, alone or with him. Sitting at home 24/7 is not good for you. My fiance and I are both big gamers, but we still met his friends once a week, played magic with his dad and sister every 2 weeks and went on a stroll every other day. Maybe suggest something like that or plan ahead for a picnic or just a simple date. It's easy to fall into routines and forget about the romance when you're together all day, so maybe a date night could spice things up.

[differentcountries]

Even here we still do nothing anymore, we are both gamers he dont even play stuff with me no more, he sits one place(way from me) does stuff on his laptop, and im just sitting here lonely and bored, The more time passes we seem to get further apart. Even cuddling and intimacy has changed. He sleeps one side me the other.. Ive already told him all this even that its starting to feel like i flew all this way to feel like his "roomate" After each talk it gets better for maybe a couple days then back to the same again :/ Im really at a loss on what to do.

It sounds like your fairytale is over.

[Britt6]

You dont offend me at all,first and foremost because you know nothing of my child or the situation, with or without children everyone deserves happiness, I never said I wasnt happy here or with him. We only seem to have a bit of trouble getting used to not living alone is all. Unlike most women that use their children as weapons against the father that did them wrong I refuse to keep him from his father as its wrong, My child began his first year of school this year and the 3of us, Me, my childs father and my child sat down together and my son chose to stay with his father because he wanted to be in school with his siblings (his fathers other kids). So either way he would have been away. So maybe before you pass judgement on something you dont know, you should maybe not dive in and indulge on being rude.

[Moon]

Here is my helpful advice, whether you like it or not...go home, you have a child there waiting while you are pursuing selfish dreams that aren't even making you happy. I don't feel bad for you, I feel bad for your son, you chose some guy over him, and left him behind. Go home where you belong, you decided to have a child, you don't get to do whatever you want anymore. I'm not at all concerned if this offends you, either.

[Britt6]

Even here we still do nothing anymore, we are both gamers he dont even play stuff with me no more, he sits one place(way from me) does stuff on his laptop, and im just sitting here lonely and bored, The more time passes we seem to get further apart. Even cuddling and intimacy has changed. He sleeps one side me the other.. Ive already told him all this even that its starting to feel like i flew all this way to feel like his "roomate" After each talk it gets better for maybe a couple days then back to the same again :/ Im really at a loss on what to do.

[differentcountries]

It may be that he went out with his friends to have something to do while you were away, but now that you are there he really wants just to be with you. You might try to explain to him taht you are interested in getting to know his friends and if you all could hang out that would be fine. That way he can be with you while you can all be social. It is all right for him to take a little break from his local social life, but you are going to feel very lonely if you don't get to know anybody.

[Britt6]

So about 3months ago I left my home in the US to come spend 6 months herein the UK with my SO. Everything started so perfect. Now as time passes we have began fighting. While I was home he was always going out with friends, now since Ive been here he barely leaves his flat so I start getting stir crazy. I dont know anyone here I really dont want to go out on my own. Im also now over 4000 miles away from my 5 year old son, I know that doesnt help my own stress I get pretty depressed missing him. Anyways our biggest issues are we are having trouble adjusting to actually being together any tips advice on how to settle and compromise better to ease the fighting some? Ive tried everything I can think of to stop it, maybe im going about it all wrong, so any and all advice could be helpful. I really dont want what we have to come to an end over something as dumb as small fights that mean nothing :/