I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, with most of it being long distance. We're at that point where we know each other really well and are comfortable with each other. I guess you could say we are getting to the end of that "honey moon phase", although we still try to do and say special things for each other.
I don't know if this is normal for most people in relationships, but on some rare occasions my SO has been short and abrupt with me, and even rude. And they weren't during times of stress, so you can't say stress was a factor. For example, sometimes he can be a bit condescending if I misunderstand some technical thing he's explaining, or one time I made a comment and he said " and your point is..."
Or once I talked about something that was bugging me at work, even though I had talked about it before, and he was "can we talk about something else, because you talked about this before". That kind of hurt my feelings because I just needed to vent.
90% of the time he's super considerate but once in a while he'll say something thoughtless or kinda rude. Maybe he's not aware of it, but I never say anything because I don't want to fight.
Do any of you just not say anything or let the moment pass when your SO says something that is rude? I also don't like saying anything because I don't like arguing especially over long distance.
I don't know if this is normal for most people in relationships, but on some rare occasions my SO has been short and abrupt with me, and even rude. And they weren't during times of stress, so you can't say stress was a factor. For example, sometimes he can be a bit condescending if I misunderstand some technical thing he's explaining, or one time I made a comment and he said " and your point is..."
Or once I talked about something that was bugging me at work, even though I had talked about it before, and he was "can we talk about something else, because you talked about this before". That kind of hurt my feelings because I just needed to vent.
90% of the time he's super considerate but once in a while he'll say something thoughtless or kinda rude. Maybe he's not aware of it, but I never say anything because I don't want to fight.
Do any of you just not say anything or let the moment pass when your SO says something that is rude? I also don't like saying anything because I don't like arguing especially over long distance.
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