Hey everyone! Hope your days are all going well. 
I normally like to work out issues with my boyfriend himself. We communicate really well, and have always been able to resolve problems on our own. That's just kind of how we roll. But... right now there is something that neither of us can seem to fix, no matter how many times we have talked about it, and tried to change it. Over the last three or four weeks, my boyfriend and I have been running out of things to do, and things to talk about. Our skype calls are basically silence. At least that's how they were, until we started filling that silence with silly arguments. We don't normally fight much, but lately the amount of arguments we have has gotten insane. It's typically one a day right now. Sometimes more!
It's not that we don't love each other or anything. Believe me, the chemistry and feelings and all of that are still there. So I would really appreciate it if people don't tell me otherwise. I really believe we are just running out of things to do. We havent seen each other in months, and it is always hard on both of us to be separated for so long. I think that part of the reason we are fighting consistently is boredom. The other part is definitely stress. We are both under SO much stress right now. I am under a lot of it due to my full time job, recently moving out of my parents house, trying to get things ready here for when he moves in, etc. He is under a lot of stress right now because he is moving all the way across the country in just over two months, and he has been dealing with his unsupportive parents as well. We are both just really stressed out.
Normally just talking to each other on skype after I get home from work has helped with the stress. Until the fights started. Rarely ever is it about something serious, too. For example, our most recent fight was because I hung up a skype call because he was playing a game and had the sound set so loud that I couldn't hear myself think. The fight before that was because he was going to go hang out with friends, even though I was having a bad day and really wanted to just talk to him. And before that, we fought because he asked me if I would stay in a relationship with him if his breath, clothing, etc. constantly reeked of tobacco smoke. I said that I wouldn't. Which lead to a fight. TRUST ME.... I know all of these are really silly reasons to fight. My boyfriend knows it too. And yet we can't seem to stop doing it. :/ Everything just seems to set both of us off. We have sat down and talked about it many times. But no matter how much we agree to change, we just fight again.
I'm sure it is normal for this to happen in LDR's.... I guess I just wanted some input from everyone. What do you do when you get stuck in a rough patch like this?
Also, my SO and I seem stuck in a loop right now. Every day is basically the same. He sleeps in, I wake up and go to work. We text back and forth a small amount throughout the day when I get the chance. I come home from work, we skype, he plays a game, I read a book or watch tv. I take care of my animals, he takes care of his (we both have chickens and stuff), I get ready for bed, he games, I say goodnight, and go to bed, he stays up and games. Then the next day starts the same thing all over again. It's just always the SAME right now.... We have tried playing games together, I bought a book of 1000 questions to ask each other, and we have tried doing a few other things together. But we somehow always manage to go back to that same old boring routine. Any advice on what we could do to spice things up a bit?
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for just short of a year and a half. We have been best friends for over two years. We have never struggled with finding things to do together until now. I think it is because the last time we saw each other, he was here for three weeks (our longest visit), and we basically were living together during his stay. We slept in the same bed, made meals together, and all of the other things couples that live together do. We just got accustomed to it. Then when he went home and we went back to this, we just ran out of things to do. The stuff that we have always done together over the last two years has become boring and uninteresting compared to how much fun we had while he was here.
We only have to push through this for two more months. But I REALLY don't want to keep feeling like we have nothing to do/keep fighting like this for that long. It is exhausting enough as it is. So any advice? I'm sorry this post is so long.
-Ashley
I normally like to work out issues with my boyfriend himself. We communicate really well, and have always been able to resolve problems on our own. That's just kind of how we roll. But... right now there is something that neither of us can seem to fix, no matter how many times we have talked about it, and tried to change it. Over the last three or four weeks, my boyfriend and I have been running out of things to do, and things to talk about. Our skype calls are basically silence. At least that's how they were, until we started filling that silence with silly arguments. We don't normally fight much, but lately the amount of arguments we have has gotten insane. It's typically one a day right now. Sometimes more!
It's not that we don't love each other or anything. Believe me, the chemistry and feelings and all of that are still there. So I would really appreciate it if people don't tell me otherwise. I really believe we are just running out of things to do. We havent seen each other in months, and it is always hard on both of us to be separated for so long. I think that part of the reason we are fighting consistently is boredom. The other part is definitely stress. We are both under SO much stress right now. I am under a lot of it due to my full time job, recently moving out of my parents house, trying to get things ready here for when he moves in, etc. He is under a lot of stress right now because he is moving all the way across the country in just over two months, and he has been dealing with his unsupportive parents as well. We are both just really stressed out.
Normally just talking to each other on skype after I get home from work has helped with the stress. Until the fights started. Rarely ever is it about something serious, too. For example, our most recent fight was because I hung up a skype call because he was playing a game and had the sound set so loud that I couldn't hear myself think. The fight before that was because he was going to go hang out with friends, even though I was having a bad day and really wanted to just talk to him. And before that, we fought because he asked me if I would stay in a relationship with him if his breath, clothing, etc. constantly reeked of tobacco smoke. I said that I wouldn't. Which lead to a fight. TRUST ME.... I know all of these are really silly reasons to fight. My boyfriend knows it too. And yet we can't seem to stop doing it. :/ Everything just seems to set both of us off. We have sat down and talked about it many times. But no matter how much we agree to change, we just fight again.
I'm sure it is normal for this to happen in LDR's.... I guess I just wanted some input from everyone. What do you do when you get stuck in a rough patch like this?
Also, my SO and I seem stuck in a loop right now. Every day is basically the same. He sleeps in, I wake up and go to work. We text back and forth a small amount throughout the day when I get the chance. I come home from work, we skype, he plays a game, I read a book or watch tv. I take care of my animals, he takes care of his (we both have chickens and stuff), I get ready for bed, he games, I say goodnight, and go to bed, he stays up and games. Then the next day starts the same thing all over again. It's just always the SAME right now.... We have tried playing games together, I bought a book of 1000 questions to ask each other, and we have tried doing a few other things together. But we somehow always manage to go back to that same old boring routine. Any advice on what we could do to spice things up a bit?
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for just short of a year and a half. We have been best friends for over two years. We have never struggled with finding things to do together until now. I think it is because the last time we saw each other, he was here for three weeks (our longest visit), and we basically were living together during his stay. We slept in the same bed, made meals together, and all of the other things couples that live together do. We just got accustomed to it. Then when he went home and we went back to this, we just ran out of things to do. The stuff that we have always done together over the last two years has become boring and uninteresting compared to how much fun we had while he was here.
We only have to push through this for two more months. But I REALLY don't want to keep feeling like we have nothing to do/keep fighting like this for that long. It is exhausting enough as it is. So any advice? I'm sorry this post is so long.
-Ashley
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) though I have watched a few episodes of her shows with her too hehe.
Thanks again for the idea, Jayburr!!
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