So my bf is unemployed and has been working different temp jobs. At this time he lives with his mom, since he can't afford to live anywhere else. I understand that all cause its a rough economy.
Just to give you a background of how our relationship progressed, we met in the same state and when he left he IMed me everyday and we would talk for hours. We did this for like 8 months before he stopped and I stopped seeing him log on online. So we texted and emailed and he would always reply or send them. Then i would email things to him and he just stopped responding to that, so i stopped sending them to him. (Of course we talk on the phone too). So i didn't make a huge deal about it, but i just felt things were going south. I brought it up to him, and he tells me that he will try to work with his communication and asked what I want to do to help with our relationship. I brought up the idea of trying to see each other more often like once a month or something. He agreed to do so. I call back to figure out a date and he just doesn't seem to care much. We set a date and when I'm trying to buy the tix i wanted to know what was the best time to get there. Well, he starts to tell me that he doesn't know where I can stay since his bro was now moving back in. This obviously pissed me off! Especially, since this was something we agreed on. So we talked about it and he said "well, how about sometime at the end of the month." I told him fine. Of course, a few weeks into that month his grandma got really sick. So now I knew I could not bring that up. A month passed and she passed away, he was really upset for a few days and I knew he would be a bit distant then. Then he calls to see how things are going few days later. He calls and just talks, nothing really big just telling me whats going on and stuff.
I text him something and he never responds. So i just dismiss it, thinking that its unusual but whatever. I text him on another day and again nothing. He does call me and tells me that he got a client and he's trying to get things ready for them and that he will probably unavailable on saturday to talk cause he will be doing that. I guess things changed and he didn't tell me and he was going to a baseball game with some friends. Not that i mind that I kinda wish he could have let me know.
And this is the short version of this. haha...sorry.
But in general, I just feel like i'm there for his convenience. We talked about the communication problem couple times before and I don't want to bring that up anymore. I wanted to bring things up again but his grandma passed away. And I felt that I couldn't bring things up. Now I feel like we won't be seeing each other anytime soon and its seems like he doesn't seem to care if we don't. And like before I have a feeling he's just gonna have an excuse not to see each other (I don't have money, I feel bad if you spend money, there no place for you to stay...etc). So i dunno what I should do at this point. I dunno how to bring this up anymore.
Any suggestions? Advice?
Just to give you a background of how our relationship progressed, we met in the same state and when he left he IMed me everyday and we would talk for hours. We did this for like 8 months before he stopped and I stopped seeing him log on online. So we texted and emailed and he would always reply or send them. Then i would email things to him and he just stopped responding to that, so i stopped sending them to him. (Of course we talk on the phone too). So i didn't make a huge deal about it, but i just felt things were going south. I brought it up to him, and he tells me that he will try to work with his communication and asked what I want to do to help with our relationship. I brought up the idea of trying to see each other more often like once a month or something. He agreed to do so. I call back to figure out a date and he just doesn't seem to care much. We set a date and when I'm trying to buy the tix i wanted to know what was the best time to get there. Well, he starts to tell me that he doesn't know where I can stay since his bro was now moving back in. This obviously pissed me off! Especially, since this was something we agreed on. So we talked about it and he said "well, how about sometime at the end of the month." I told him fine. Of course, a few weeks into that month his grandma got really sick. So now I knew I could not bring that up. A month passed and she passed away, he was really upset for a few days and I knew he would be a bit distant then. Then he calls to see how things are going few days later. He calls and just talks, nothing really big just telling me whats going on and stuff.
I text him something and he never responds. So i just dismiss it, thinking that its unusual but whatever. I text him on another day and again nothing. He does call me and tells me that he got a client and he's trying to get things ready for them and that he will probably unavailable on saturday to talk cause he will be doing that. I guess things changed and he didn't tell me and he was going to a baseball game with some friends. Not that i mind that I kinda wish he could have let me know.
And this is the short version of this. haha...sorry.
But in general, I just feel like i'm there for his convenience. We talked about the communication problem couple times before and I don't want to bring that up anymore. I wanted to bring things up again but his grandma passed away. And I felt that I couldn't bring things up. Now I feel like we won't be seeing each other anytime soon and its seems like he doesn't seem to care if we don't. And like before I have a feeling he's just gonna have an excuse not to see each other (I don't have money, I feel bad if you spend money, there no place for you to stay...etc). So i dunno what I should do at this point. I dunno how to bring this up anymore.
Any suggestions? Advice?
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