Hey all. For those of you who continued to comment on my "It's Over" thread, thank you for your support. Your kindness is so very appreciated.
Our break up lasted all of 4 days, 4 very miserable days. I was at work when my mom called me, near tears from happiness. I asked what was wrong and if everything was okay. She said, "Yes, I'm actually very happy. Jeffrey called me." Shocked, I was instantly shaking. He had ignored me over the course of those 4 days, why would he be calling my mother? He had been sick since the day he broke up with me, couldn't focus in class, was shaky, and totally miserable (as he should have been). He called my mom and this is a paraphrased version of their conversation. Mom said she could tell he had been crying, and told her that he had made a terrible mistake. He said, "I fucked up, like majorly fucked up. I love your daughter, and I can't live without her. I don't know what I was thinking. I'm sorry I hurt her, and you and your family. I love your daughter and I want to marry her, I will put a ring on your daughters finger and say I do to her." Of course, by this time, my mom was crying. He asked her what time I got off work so he could call me when I got home. I was in tears when my mom was telling me all of this.
He facetimed me so we could see one another. I wasn't very pleasant to him, because frankly I was still very hurt and angry. He said, "I miss you," and I replied, "do you?" We talked for a little bit, and I said, "what do you want, Jeffrey?" and he said with tears in his eyes, "I want my best friend back. Will you take me back?" Of course, I let him sweat it out for a little bit and didn't give him a direct answer right off the bat. We talked and talked, discussed what was going on. He said, "Cherie, I don't know what got into me. I got scared, and my brain convinced me that the best thing to do was run. I'm sorry I made this decision solely on my own without talking to you." I asked him if he truly meant what he said about falling out of love with me, and he said, "absolutely not. I had to say anything I could to make your potential moving on easier, even though I didn't mean or believe a word I was even saying."
A little back story. Jeffrey was married before. He got married at 20 after knowing the girl for 3 months, and they divorced when he was 22. He said, "I realize it now that I guess I'm just scarred, and yes when I went to look at rings, I got scared. Even though I don't know why I got scared because I have absolutely nothing to worry about with you, Cherie. You're 100% faithful, you love me unconditionally, you do so much for me.." Before I agreed to give him a second chance, we talked about the things that needed to change, and he agreed. We are working towards becoming stronger from this, and growing our love. He has certainly been stepping up and putting in more effort. Of course I'm receiving some backlash from certain family members, but Jeffrey is my best friend. I have spent nearly 2 years of my life with him, and he's the love of my life. I think him having the courage to call and talk to my mom for an hour about me and admitting his mistake shows that his love for me is true and pure as well. He just got cold feet, and I can't blame him for his past.
Our break up lasted all of 4 days, 4 very miserable days. I was at work when my mom called me, near tears from happiness. I asked what was wrong and if everything was okay. She said, "Yes, I'm actually very happy. Jeffrey called me." Shocked, I was instantly shaking. He had ignored me over the course of those 4 days, why would he be calling my mother? He had been sick since the day he broke up with me, couldn't focus in class, was shaky, and totally miserable (as he should have been). He called my mom and this is a paraphrased version of their conversation. Mom said she could tell he had been crying, and told her that he had made a terrible mistake. He said, "I fucked up, like majorly fucked up. I love your daughter, and I can't live without her. I don't know what I was thinking. I'm sorry I hurt her, and you and your family. I love your daughter and I want to marry her, I will put a ring on your daughters finger and say I do to her." Of course, by this time, my mom was crying. He asked her what time I got off work so he could call me when I got home. I was in tears when my mom was telling me all of this.
He facetimed me so we could see one another. I wasn't very pleasant to him, because frankly I was still very hurt and angry. He said, "I miss you," and I replied, "do you?" We talked for a little bit, and I said, "what do you want, Jeffrey?" and he said with tears in his eyes, "I want my best friend back. Will you take me back?" Of course, I let him sweat it out for a little bit and didn't give him a direct answer right off the bat. We talked and talked, discussed what was going on. He said, "Cherie, I don't know what got into me. I got scared, and my brain convinced me that the best thing to do was run. I'm sorry I made this decision solely on my own without talking to you." I asked him if he truly meant what he said about falling out of love with me, and he said, "absolutely not. I had to say anything I could to make your potential moving on easier, even though I didn't mean or believe a word I was even saying."
A little back story. Jeffrey was married before. He got married at 20 after knowing the girl for 3 months, and they divorced when he was 22. He said, "I realize it now that I guess I'm just scarred, and yes when I went to look at rings, I got scared. Even though I don't know why I got scared because I have absolutely nothing to worry about with you, Cherie. You're 100% faithful, you love me unconditionally, you do so much for me.." Before I agreed to give him a second chance, we talked about the things that needed to change, and he agreed. We are working towards becoming stronger from this, and growing our love. He has certainly been stepping up and putting in more effort. Of course I'm receiving some backlash from certain family members, but Jeffrey is my best friend. I have spent nearly 2 years of my life with him, and he's the love of my life. I think him having the courage to call and talk to my mom for an hour about me and admitting his mistake shows that his love for me is true and pure as well. He just got cold feet, and I can't blame him for his past.
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