I met this amazing boy almost two years ago on kik through a group chat. For the first year and few months I only saw him as a friend, but he on the other hand liked me since the first day we met. We became friends on facebook , and messaged one another through Messenger. We started talking a lot more and one day decided to move to phone calls and video calling. The more I got to know him the more I realized I liked him and he was now a big part of my life. We became so attached that if one of us were offline for a few hours or a day the other one would wind up feeling sad and lonely. Around Christmas day 2016 I ended up telling him through a letter how much he meant to me and that I liked him. He wrote a reply that was similar and cute. We've been talking for months now more than ever and have currently been dating for two months, Long Distance Relationship (Started 1st Feb).
He lives in Australia, and I live in New Zealand, and we're roughly 1000-2000 km's apart. It sucks so bad that I can't physically be with him in person, and the thing is neither of us have told our parents about each other. He's my first ever boyfriend and I'm quite nervous to tell my mum about him. What I'm really scared about is how she will react to our age difference. I'm turning seventeen in a few days and he's nineteen, turning twenty at the end of the year. He's two years and five months older than me. My mum watches a lot of that t.v show called Catfish and is always telling me to be careful on social media and to not talk to strangers which is why I'm finding it hard to tell her about my "Internet" boyfriend. I just want her to know that he isn't a catfish, I know what he looks like, we videocall every day for hours. I can trust him because I've met a few of his friends and I've seen his family roaming in the backround while we're videocalling. I've also fb stalked his close family members like his parents, older siblings and cousins. He's a real person, and he claims to be who he says he is. I really do trust him and I'm willing to keep this relationship strong and let my friends and family know about him.
Another thing I'm worried about is that my family can be judgemental as any other person would be. He isn't the hottest guy ever and knowing some of my family members they may think I'm too good for him. Or judge him based on his appearance. I honestly love him for who he is, he has a great sense of humour, a kind personality and he's so cute yet so quirky at the same time. I love him so much because we have this strong connection that I can't ignore even if I wanted to. He makes me so happy, and makes me feel good about myself and also has never once pressured me to do anything. I'm finding it so difficult to grow some balls and tell my mum everything. I've thought about mentioning that he's from New Zealand too but has lived In Australia most his life, maybe this will ease everything down a bit. He is also going through the same problem and is struggling to find a way to tell his parents, that is why we're both supporting one another and are planning on how we're going to stop hiding our relationship from our parents. They're actually starting to get suspicious because we're always in our rooms and they can hear us whispering or talking to one another late in the night.
What I'm excited about is that him and his parents are flying to New Zealand in June for a holiday and are going to their hometown for two weeks. My boyfriend and I have agreed that the right time to tell our parents could be on my birthday, April 13th as it is a special occasion, and my mum would be in the right kind of mood, plus she wouldn't get angry at me on my birthday right?I'm trying really hard to prepare myself, but I feel like I'm going to bail at the last second and let my bf down. The reason we're wanting to tell our parents early is because he wants to bus to where I live so he can stay with me for a couple of days and then join back with his family. I really want to see him more than anything!! And it would be better if we told our parents earlier as it gives them an early notice and they can have time to think things through and allow it to happen. I'm sort of against him coming to my house because it's small and we wouldn't get much privacy due to my annoying little siblings coming in and out of my room without knocking or asking. I would much rather he stayed at a hotel down the road from my house and I could stay with him there for the few days we have together.
I'm not entirely sure if my mum would agree to letting him stay at our house since it is only a three bedroom home and we have six people, three cats (one pregnant) and a dog living in it, and there's not enough space. I haven't really told him about my home which is why I've never shown him around my home during our video call sessions. I'm a little embarrased to admit that our family do have money problems which is why we can't afford to travel or go on holidays or even get a car or proper furniture for our living room...well for now, anyway. But that's why I've been trying to get him to stay at a hotel instead so he won't have to see the state of my home.
I would really appreciate if someone could give me advice on what to say to my mum, and how I could tell her and if you guys could just give out pointers. I would love to hear your experiences or stories, maybe they could help me too. You know, so I don't feel entirely alone and so I know I'm not the only one going through this problem.
Thank you ☺
He lives in Australia, and I live in New Zealand, and we're roughly 1000-2000 km's apart. It sucks so bad that I can't physically be with him in person, and the thing is neither of us have told our parents about each other. He's my first ever boyfriend and I'm quite nervous to tell my mum about him. What I'm really scared about is how she will react to our age difference. I'm turning seventeen in a few days and he's nineteen, turning twenty at the end of the year. He's two years and five months older than me. My mum watches a lot of that t.v show called Catfish and is always telling me to be careful on social media and to not talk to strangers which is why I'm finding it hard to tell her about my "Internet" boyfriend. I just want her to know that he isn't a catfish, I know what he looks like, we videocall every day for hours. I can trust him because I've met a few of his friends and I've seen his family roaming in the backround while we're videocalling. I've also fb stalked his close family members like his parents, older siblings and cousins. He's a real person, and he claims to be who he says he is. I really do trust him and I'm willing to keep this relationship strong and let my friends and family know about him.
Another thing I'm worried about is that my family can be judgemental as any other person would be. He isn't the hottest guy ever and knowing some of my family members they may think I'm too good for him. Or judge him based on his appearance. I honestly love him for who he is, he has a great sense of humour, a kind personality and he's so cute yet so quirky at the same time. I love him so much because we have this strong connection that I can't ignore even if I wanted to. He makes me so happy, and makes me feel good about myself and also has never once pressured me to do anything. I'm finding it so difficult to grow some balls and tell my mum everything. I've thought about mentioning that he's from New Zealand too but has lived In Australia most his life, maybe this will ease everything down a bit. He is also going through the same problem and is struggling to find a way to tell his parents, that is why we're both supporting one another and are planning on how we're going to stop hiding our relationship from our parents. They're actually starting to get suspicious because we're always in our rooms and they can hear us whispering or talking to one another late in the night.
What I'm excited about is that him and his parents are flying to New Zealand in June for a holiday and are going to their hometown for two weeks. My boyfriend and I have agreed that the right time to tell our parents could be on my birthday, April 13th as it is a special occasion, and my mum would be in the right kind of mood, plus she wouldn't get angry at me on my birthday right?I'm trying really hard to prepare myself, but I feel like I'm going to bail at the last second and let my bf down. The reason we're wanting to tell our parents early is because he wants to bus to where I live so he can stay with me for a couple of days and then join back with his family. I really want to see him more than anything!! And it would be better if we told our parents earlier as it gives them an early notice and they can have time to think things through and allow it to happen. I'm sort of against him coming to my house because it's small and we wouldn't get much privacy due to my annoying little siblings coming in and out of my room without knocking or asking. I would much rather he stayed at a hotel down the road from my house and I could stay with him there for the few days we have together.
I'm not entirely sure if my mum would agree to letting him stay at our house since it is only a three bedroom home and we have six people, three cats (one pregnant) and a dog living in it, and there's not enough space. I haven't really told him about my home which is why I've never shown him around my home during our video call sessions. I'm a little embarrased to admit that our family do have money problems which is why we can't afford to travel or go on holidays or even get a car or proper furniture for our living room...well for now, anyway. But that's why I've been trying to get him to stay at a hotel instead so he won't have to see the state of my home.
I would really appreciate if someone could give me advice on what to say to my mum, and how I could tell her and if you guys could just give out pointers. I would love to hear your experiences or stories, maybe they could help me too. You know, so I don't feel entirely alone and so I know I'm not the only one going through this problem.
Thank you ☺
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