Honestly? Sounds to me like he has found someone else. I’m sorry, but new phone or not? That’s just illogical on your part to think! First thing I would do if I got a new phone is to install WhatsApp or messanger and set it up so I wouldn’t miss a message from my bf who is coming to see me soon! Also, those new smart phones will automatically download all your old apps, contacts and photos!
I think he found someone else and has no idea how to tell you since you’re coming and all, you reaching out to his friends and family wouldn’t change that either, looks like he’s already made up his mind.
You’d be crazy to go, firstly cause you’d teach him that he can disrespect you and walk all over you and you’ll still travel and cross an ocean for him in a heartbeat, that doesn’t communicate that you’re of high value.
Secondly, you’ll end up hating yourself... you really really will, no matter even if you go there with a mind set that it’s over and you’re just going for you, you know that it will really mess you up and get to your head.
Thirdly, by not going you’re teaching him that ghosting and behaving like A LITTLE SCARED CAT, is not okay and you will not tolerate it. You are setting how you want your future to be with him, if there’s even one.
Fourthly, you gotta show him what life will be without you, you won’t just run over to his rescue, there are going to be consequences, and one of those will you be removing yourself from this toxic situation.
I know you still want to go, but give yourself one hour only of you thinking about not going.
I think he found someone else and has no idea how to tell you since you’re coming and all, you reaching out to his friends and family wouldn’t change that either, looks like he’s already made up his mind.
You’d be crazy to go, firstly cause you’d teach him that he can disrespect you and walk all over you and you’ll still travel and cross an ocean for him in a heartbeat, that doesn’t communicate that you’re of high value.
Secondly, you’ll end up hating yourself... you really really will, no matter even if you go there with a mind set that it’s over and you’re just going for you, you know that it will really mess you up and get to your head.
Thirdly, by not going you’re teaching him that ghosting and behaving like A LITTLE SCARED CAT, is not okay and you will not tolerate it. You are setting how you want your future to be with him, if there’s even one.
Fourthly, you gotta show him what life will be without you, you won’t just run over to his rescue, there are going to be consequences, and one of those will you be removing yourself from this toxic situation.
I know you still want to go, but give yourself one hour only of you thinking about not going.
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