Found out he's cyber-cheating!

[leonsfangirl]

>_< I've been kind of a silent bystander...
But I just want to give you my support! That type of guy is trash. I know you're a wonderful women and deserve so much better!
(And I wish I could take you with all your friends here out for drinks xD and go to a male strip club and drown our sorrows and have fun >u<)

What she said!
We could always meet in chat armed with pictures of men we find hot and alcohol.

[chizatlauren]

I've read the entire thread Benni, and all I can say is I'm with you in this! I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. He's an effin' douchebag. You don't deserve him.

If ever you need anyone to talk to, I'm here (but i'm pretty sure all the others who posted above me will be too).

Sending you hugs!

[Karringtyn]

Benni....I joined these forums when I was with my ex. We were together 3 years. We were LD for a year and a half. In that year and a half I found TONS of cyber sexing going on, each time I confronted him and I heard the same exact response. I had the BLAME placed on me...I was overreacting, I was just being jealous...he loved me and only me.

I was emotionally abused. I never saw it, I refused to see it. I married the man. The marriage was over 4 months almost to the day.

I found out after it was over,,,,he was EVEN cybering with a good friend of mine.

I am SO glad I wised up and realized,,,,I was worth more.

Fast forward to today.

I have a man that wants me and ONLY me.


Again...big hugs...and you are NOT alone. xoxox

[Belle]

There will be some days when you remember more of the good than bad. The key is to stay strong and remind yourself of his treatment of you and your feelings in tis situation. You can always look back on his rude emails. We are also here to support you always and hope you are feeling happier soon. Hugs!

[MattDavies86]

So sorry to hear this Benni, I hope your ok, but I completely agree with your decision, something like that should be between the both of you only, and special.

[Ahava]

So sorry to hear about this. I agree with all the others that you are strong and worthy to be loved. Hugs!

[Benni]

Cancelled the ticket today. I can use it within a year for travel to somewhere else. May go see my daughter and grandkids later this summer -- on his dime. That's it folks! We're officially done. I'll be around.

[mllebamako]

Cancelled the ticket today. I can use it within a year for travel to somewhere else. May go see my daughter and grandkids later this summer -- on his dime. That's it folks! We're officially done. I'll be around.

I'm so glad to hear that you can use the ticket for another trip!

Stay strong, Benni! You deserve so much better.

[Hollandia]

Cancelled the ticket today. I can use it within a year for travel to somewhere else. May go see my daughter and grandkids later this summer -- on his dime. That's it folks! We're officially done. I'll be around.

I have never been to Texas but I hear it is a mighty nice big huge state full of lots of manly man and some are bound not to be cheating asshol#s.
You deserve so much better, if I am ever in your neck of the woods, I would love to grab an adult beverage together.

[Malaga]

I think you handled it perfectly, with so much strength and resolution. He's showed himself as a cold and cruel person. I really think you dodged a bullet with him - the hurt and consequences could've been much worse if you allowed this relationship to go on. Please don't doubt your decision. He's treated you terribly and exposed himself as a proper douche. You did the only right thing you could.

Hang in there

[Benni]

Thank you all soooooooo much! You help to KEEP me strong!! I've been spending the afternoon clearing out pictures, mementos, computer and browser files pertaining to the 2 of us/him, etc. It's been a good cleanse with very little tears.

[blankita719]

Cancelled the ticket today. I can use it within a year for travel to somewhere else. May go see my daughter and grandkids later this summer -- on his dime. That's it folks! We're officially done. I'll be around.

That's awesome. Good for you. I'm so sorry to see all the pain he has put you thought, but I am glad you are choosing to stick around. You never know - you might meet another potential LD guy

[Benni]

In case anyone is still following this thread...... B contacted me after 3 weeks of misery on both our parts. We talked and skyped for 3 days (on and off), having long discussions. He is very remorseful for all he did. It hasn't happened since that one time (I still check his messages every day), as a matter of fact, he's not chatting with the other women in any way -- not even friendly chit chat.

So, we're trying again. I am still going to see him the end of August and will know more, after some serious face time, whether this is going to work out or not.

Again, thank you all for your great support -- ya'll are awesome as hell!! *HUGS*

[ThePiedPiper]

Just be careful that he's not avoiding this in an attempt to "prove" anything to you. In most cases, it only ends up happening once the "baby I'm so sorry" has worn off. Regretting the consequences is not the same thing as regretting the action.

[Benni]

Absolutely true, Piper! I am being very cautious and very aware. It hurts that the trust issue has been compromised. I hate the watching and checking up on him shit that I have to do. I just want to hang in there (if nothing else happens) and see how things go, how I feel, when we are face-to-face. On Skype, he seems genuinely sorry and also very happy that we are talking again. But, if you remember, he considers Skype/online chats as 'interactive TV' -- not real. So, face to face is when I can read his expressions better.

Did I make any sense? ^^^