Anyone ever had difficulties with communication? Right now, D and I have been in a slump I guess you would call it. We have been trying to climb out of it but then we slide back down = (
I notice though that when we are having difficulties, D throws a fit like a toddler, signs off yahoo and stops talking to me. He has even hung the phone up on me once after he went on and on about his feelings towards something but then when I was trying to respond he got all mad and hung the phone up.
I tend to get upset fairly easily which I can show in my tone of voice and sometimes I say stuff the wrong way whether I'm too blunt or use the wrong words (it happens with other relationships too..)
I get so frustrated though because I do allow him to cool off but then nothing is revisited and when I try to bring it up again (like tonight) he throws his tantrum. Tonight, I was asking him what happened to the being open and honest and he responded by saying that was gone when I sought out someone to get information about him. This I did not do. The only thing I can think of is when I emailed someone off his fb friend's list and asked her how she knew him. That set him off... But the way he phrased it, it sounded like I was asking detailed questions about him. He then got pissed when I said I don't remember this. I told him he was making mountains out of molehills.
Background: He was cheated on during his marriage. It left quite a scar on him. I also have trust issues that I have been successfully working through but this situation that is happening now is not helping my trust issues to go away. He also has never really dated. He married his wife at 18 and they just got divorced 18 years later.... We have been together 10 months.
I just don't know what else I can do? Maybe I'm in the wrong partially. If so, how? Can I help him? How? How can this be repaired? = ( Thanks for reading!
I notice though that when we are having difficulties, D throws a fit like a toddler, signs off yahoo and stops talking to me. He has even hung the phone up on me once after he went on and on about his feelings towards something but then when I was trying to respond he got all mad and hung the phone up.
I tend to get upset fairly easily which I can show in my tone of voice and sometimes I say stuff the wrong way whether I'm too blunt or use the wrong words (it happens with other relationships too..)
I get so frustrated though because I do allow him to cool off but then nothing is revisited and when I try to bring it up again (like tonight) he throws his tantrum. Tonight, I was asking him what happened to the being open and honest and he responded by saying that was gone when I sought out someone to get information about him. This I did not do. The only thing I can think of is when I emailed someone off his fb friend's list and asked her how she knew him. That set him off... But the way he phrased it, it sounded like I was asking detailed questions about him. He then got pissed when I said I don't remember this. I told him he was making mountains out of molehills.
Background: He was cheated on during his marriage. It left quite a scar on him. I also have trust issues that I have been successfully working through but this situation that is happening now is not helping my trust issues to go away. He also has never really dated. He married his wife at 18 and they just got divorced 18 years later.... We have been together 10 months.
I just don't know what else I can do? Maybe I'm in the wrong partially. If so, how? Can I help him? How? How can this be repaired? = ( Thanks for reading!
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