My sweetheart is on his plane right now, heading back home. It has only been a few hours and I'll admit it, I'm a wreck. We just celebrated our 7 year anniversary on December 31st, so you think after so long that I would be use to this by now. Honestly, for me, each trip gets harder. I've ALWAYS been bad with 'good-bye' situations since I was little and it is clearly obvious that I still have that issue.
I consider myself lucky for how often we see each other (around every 3 months or some times a little bit longer). I know some couples on here that have to travel overseas and such, which I couldn't even begin to imagine and I applaud you!
But, in the end, I'm a sad puppy. I always get teary-eyed and find myself having moments of bubbling pressure in my throat as tears run down my face. The random moments of sobbing stop after the first day he leaves. When he finally calls me after he lands is when it all starts up again because of course, I miss him madly, I want him back, etc.
He is much more composed than I am. He doesn't look at the 'good-bye' and he looks forward to planning our next trip. I idolize the way he handles it and he has been this way from the beginning. Let me get this out there, I've tried doing it his way. I get to that point after a few days and things begin to fall back into place like they were before he arrived. My explanation to him for my tears is that it is difficult to adjust back to the solo life style after having your best friend and sweetheart around you for up to 2 weeks! You miss the noise, the touches, the jokes, the companionship!
Oh well, I guess it is back to me and my two cats for now
But now that I've rambled on about my struggles, I have some questions!
1) How do you handle the split? Are you a crier or are you more like my SO by being more composed or are you something completely different?
2) How does your SO handle the split?
3) What things do you do to keep yourself from being upset after you've/they've left?
4) For those who have experienced multiple trips with their SO: do you find the split easier as you continue to have trips or are you like me where every split is like the first? Both? Something else?
I consider myself lucky for how often we see each other (around every 3 months or some times a little bit longer). I know some couples on here that have to travel overseas and such, which I couldn't even begin to imagine and I applaud you!
But, in the end, I'm a sad puppy. I always get teary-eyed and find myself having moments of bubbling pressure in my throat as tears run down my face. The random moments of sobbing stop after the first day he leaves. When he finally calls me after he lands is when it all starts up again because of course, I miss him madly, I want him back, etc.
He is much more composed than I am. He doesn't look at the 'good-bye' and he looks forward to planning our next trip. I idolize the way he handles it and he has been this way from the beginning. Let me get this out there, I've tried doing it his way. I get to that point after a few days and things begin to fall back into place like they were before he arrived. My explanation to him for my tears is that it is difficult to adjust back to the solo life style after having your best friend and sweetheart around you for up to 2 weeks! You miss the noise, the touches, the jokes, the companionship!
Oh well, I guess it is back to me and my two cats for now
But now that I've rambled on about my struggles, I have some questions!
1) How do you handle the split? Are you a crier or are you more like my SO by being more composed or are you something completely different?
2) How does your SO handle the split?
3) What things do you do to keep yourself from being upset after you've/they've left?
4) For those who have experienced multiple trips with their SO: do you find the split easier as you continue to have trips or are you like me where every split is like the first? Both? Something else?
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