1) How do you handle the split? I get depressed and needy. If I'm PMSing when he leaves then yeah, I'll cry after he's gone. It depends a lot on how the visit went.
2) How does your SO handle the split? He's a lot like how yours sounds, focuses on the next visit. He also kind of shuts down a bit as he's getting ready to leave. I took offense/was hurt at first, but now I understand that's just how he deals with it.
3) What things do you do to keep yourself from being upset after you've/they've left? I record the trip and reflect on it, and go hang out with friends, clean. Stuff myself with chocolate.
4) For those who have experienced multiple trips with their SO: The first was the worst. I cried for a week straight as if we'd broken up, but t the same time we'd spent a month nonstop together. Since then it's been a little easier, only 1-2 day visits, and I find that the better the visit, the happier I am after he leaves. Like Mfashnik mentioned, the times he leaves me with a happy glow are the easiest. If he leaves and we haven't talked properly I get needier between visits.
2) How does your SO handle the split? He's a lot like how yours sounds, focuses on the next visit. He also kind of shuts down a bit as he's getting ready to leave. I took offense/was hurt at first, but now I understand that's just how he deals with it.
3) What things do you do to keep yourself from being upset after you've/they've left? I record the trip and reflect on it, and go hang out with friends, clean. Stuff myself with chocolate.
4) For those who have experienced multiple trips with their SO: The first was the worst. I cried for a week straight as if we'd broken up, but t the same time we'd spent a month nonstop together. Since then it's been a little easier, only 1-2 day visits, and I find that the better the visit, the happier I am after he leaves. Like Mfashnik mentioned, the times he leaves me with a happy glow are the easiest. If he leaves and we haven't talked properly I get needier between visits.
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